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with INFJs so difficult. Before we start, have you
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With such an elaborate mind that is constantly
creating different scenarios and possibilities
of the future, there's no doubt that INFJs
can convince themselves of certain truths.
Being the idealist type they are, INFJs can even
use this imagination to anticipate the negative
scenarios of their romantic relationships,
knowing that indifferences are to be expected.
In fact, INFJs want to know these indifferences
as soon as possible in order to really weigh
out their options of whether or not they want
to stick around to deal with them. Call it a
defense mechanism, or a preventive measure for
future heartbreak, regardless of the reasoning,
this habit actually creates more havoc than
it solves. One of the main reasons for this
is because INFJs end up self fulfilling these
fabricated prophecies by behaving as if it’s
already concluded. For example, if an INFJ becomes
skeptical of a new partner being unfaithful,
they may distance themselves from that partner
with no verbal explanation.. Ultimately leading
them to either leave or look elsewhere for
attention. So while in an INFJ’s eyes, it
may seem that they dodged a negative relationship
- in reality, they only sabotaged their chances.
we know from the first point, they tend to
make their own conclusions about things that
may not always be 100% accurate. So, when an
INFJ is in a relationship with someone similar
to themselves - someone who is individualistic,
it can feel nothing short of irritating to feel
like they’re constantly being watched. While this
attention may be flattering to some people,
especially during the honeymoon phase, the
INFJ’s analytical nature can surely take its toll,
especially when there’s some skepticism to fuel
it. Now, it’s not entirely fair to say that INFJs
are ‘always’ watching, because they do enjoy their
fair amount of alone time escaping this continuous
analytical behavior.. But one change to their
energetic environment and they’re entire attention
can be shifted onto that subject or person.
Number 3: They can get hurt over the small things
There’s no question as to whether or not the INFJ
personality type would be considered one of the
more sensitive souls of the 16 personality types.
difficulty when facing most criticisms in life,
but they also can be considered quite jealous
and sensitive partners when it comes to romantic
relationships. Their over-analytical minds can
easily pick up on subtle things that other people
would completely overlook, the unfortunate aspect
is that they usually mentally blow things out
of proportion. It’s almost as if INFJs take the
information they observe back to their layer of
the inner workings of their mind and question
it until possible conclusions begin to arise.
Rather than communicating first, INFJs need
time to analyze the information from all angles,
come from a very biased and emotional place.
Number 4: They want to better their partner
it’s the entire human race! INFJs are natural
helpers and healers, so it’s not unfamiliar
for them to be drawn to people who may need a
little fixing. Ironically, sometimes the other
person doesn’t necessarily see themselves
as someone who needs improvement.. And this
is where this empathetic trait can get a little
ugly. When it comes to romantic relationships,
can surely seem as if the INFJ is discontent with
how their partner is on their own accord resulting
in feelings of inadequacy and even belittlement.
People want to be accepted for who they are,
especially when it comes to romantic partnerships.
Yet, while INFJs don’t necessarily judge people
for their character, they can’t help but see the
potential in everyone - ultimately driving them
to try and push their partner to achieve that
potential, sometimes against their desires.
Number 5: They experience bouts of loneliness
Everyone experiences loneliness at one point
or another throughout life. Yet for an INFJ,
the feeling of loneliness isn’t always because of
lack of social and emotional connections. In fact,
this misunderstood type can feel the most lonely
when surrounded by some of their closest people
because it stems from a lack of feeling understood
rather than lack of physical people present. So,
with no surprise, this INFJ loneliness can
easily weasel its way into their relationships,
This may cause them to become temporarily
distant and moody seemingly out of the blue.
And while INFJs usually know how to navigate this
estranged feeling when it pops up unexpectedly,
it can still be very difficult for the person
on the receiving end. I mean.. Don’t we all
want our romantic partner to feel accepted,
included, and understood above all things? Well..
INFJ loneliness is just one of those things that
need to be accepted as part of the package deal.
In hopes of feeling accepted and understood as
much as possible, INFJs know that communication
is key. While they may ruminate on the things that
bother them within their relationships in order to
conclude if it’s worth discussing, INFJs usually
inquire about bothersome issues before they cause
disruption. This highly sensitive personality type
requires harmony in all relationships in order to
feel truly content in life and they’ll do whatever
it takes to maintain this peace. And although they
know how to effectively communicate in a calm and
open-minded manner, sometimes the issues can seem
so obsolete and frequent that it can come across
as if they aren’t satisfied in the slightest.
when in reality they are just trying to clear
up any potential discrepancies down the road.
Unfortunately this system takes away the INFJs
focus on the good in their relationships.
If you move in with an INFJ, don’t be surprised
to find out they have assigned designated areas
to put your things. INFJs are not only quite
particular about their surroundings but also
with their individualistic nature. So, when it
comes time to merge lives with a romantic partner,
They may find it difficult to adapt to the
way their partner does certain things, such
as cooking and cleaning, and may find themselves
correcting their partner to do things their way.
In fact, even the simplest things that throw off
the environment for an INFJ can cause annoyance
because INFJs have a method beyond every madness.
So, while it may not seem important to put their
tweezers in the exact spot they were found,
there's probably a reason they were there in
the first place. Not to mention, aside from the
physical aspect of living with someone, INFJs can
also be very influenced by other people’s energies
- making sharing a space all that more difficult.
If you’ve ever heard the INFJ onion analogy,
we’re here to confirm it’s truth. They say
it takes years for an INFJ to fully open up to
someone.. But do they really ever open up fully?
Not exactly. INFJs have a particularly mysterious
essence about them that never really fully gets
resolved. In fact, when someone is in a romantic
partnership with this private type, there usually
comes a point where they stop trying to figure the
INFJ out, and just accept the unknown for what it
is. Of course, with an INFJs deep morals of being
honest and truthful, they wouldn’t necessarily
lie about anything they’re involved in, nor would
they leave out crucial details about their lives..
But when it comes to emotions and thought
processes, they’re not so quick to share. This can
definitely erk some personality types.. especially
within an double INFJ relationship, where both
parties are eager to decode the other, yet both
parties are also hesitant to share information.
Well, that's it for today, psych-os. So, have
you ever been in a relationship with an INFJ?
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