The Unexpecting Infp Dark Side

The Unexpecting Infp Dark Side explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.

Reserved, open-minded and empathetic, it’s

hard to believe that the kind INFP mediator

personality type holds a dark side of their

When an INFP is met with their shadow selves,

their generosity can be kicked to the sidelines,

resulting in their stress overload leaving

them feeling and acting unlike themselves.

So, what exactly are the signs of the INFP

dark side and how does it affect this caring

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Number 1: Feeling indifferent and pessimistic

The normal optimism and vigour for life that

comes so naturally to the INFP personality

type can easily become overruled by feelings

of carelessness and lack of empathy when they’re

Usually resulting from a mental or emotional

burnout of some sort, this normally kind and

caring type can find themselves feeling unusually

numb and lifeless when it comes to life's

Yet, this also means that in these times of

darkness, the INFP isn’t able to give their

And so, because this normally empathetic type

takes the necessary measure to avoid hurting

people at all costs, this feeling of indifference

and pessimism can end up causing even more

guilt and stress due to feelings of inadequacy.

In other words, no one will end up more hurt

than the INFP themselves when they're stuck

Although INFPs are seen as one of the most

caring and empathetic types, they’re introverted

feeling functions actually cause them to filter

While this isn’t exactly an issue most of

the time, when an INFP is overloaded with

In fact, the dark side of the INFP can cause

for me’ in situations where they normally

wouldn’t even bat an eye at helping others.

Unfortunately this self-centeredness can come

as a result of being taken advantage of for

As they try their best to accommodate everyone

by never turning an opportunity to help down,

they end up being the ones to take on everyone

Overtime, instead of setting appropriate boundaries,

INFPs can become bitter and unwilling to help

INFPs can be best described as imaginative

With their tendency to ruminate on ideal imagined

outcomes for their life, this intuitive type

is able to project the best and worst case

scenarios in order to create and understand

all aspects of situations they get themselves

From relationships to careers, idealism is

a big part of the INFP’s thinking process..

But what happens when idealism is blown out

Well, some INFPs can get caught up in confusing

their real life with their imagined expectations.

As a result, this dark side of their idealism

may cause an INFP to become discouraged and

extremely self-critical when they realize

their reality is quite far off from what they

When INFPs resort to focusing solely on their

imagination, they tend to neglect the truths

about reality, especially the fact that life

is supposed to be a trial-and-error game full

It’s not easy to befriend an INFP, to say

Yet when this normally generous type is met

with their dark side, it can make connecting

When an unhealthy and overly stressed INFP

meets new people, they tend to approach them

with a weary sense of caution and pessimism.

They expect the worst from people, and immediately

resort to putting up their walls until proven

This dark side of the INFP causes them to

attempt to draw them in or befriend them.

They’re constantly trying to scope out the

negative behaviour in other’s to prove to

themselves that their initial judgment was

correct, when in reality they can find negative

aspects in everyone if they look hard enough.

Because of this and a few other reasons, INFPs

maintain minimal connections with people who

With such high expectations matched with an

unrealistic view of how their lives should

look, most INFPs struggle with bouts of serious

They can become so focused on pleasing not

only themselves but also everyone around them

that they tend to burden themselves with unnecessary

Most of the time, these bouts of self-doubt

and blame come and go, but for the unhealthy

INFP - it can stay for months or even years

This unfortunate aspect of the INFP dark side

can cause them to isolate themselves from

all social expectations and sometimes even

They can feel stuck in a negative thought-loop

consisting of feelings of unworthiness and

undeserving of the good things in life, ultimately

leaving them unable to access their optimistic

imagination that they rely so heavily on.

Due to their deep empathetic understanding

of how, when and why people feel certain emotions,

they can easily find out what makes someone

Normally, this innate ability helps this empathetic

type to truly understand and relate to people

on a deeply emotional level, yet when this

power is in the hands of a dark INFP, emotional

Known to be one of their dark side’s most

destructive aspects, the INFP is able to use

their deep understanding of emotion to play

serious games of hard to get, blame switching,

In fact, the most eerie thing about this clever

INFP dark side emotional manipulation is that

it can be masked by kindness and genuinity

- making it even more difficult for other

Number 7: Randomly ditching things that don’t

With the need for passion and creativity , most

INFPs are quite familiar with the feeling

of boredom when there is lack of meaning in

When this open-minded type goes too long without

a sense of meaning in their lives they can

easily spiral into feelings of uselessness

For a healthy INFP, this means tweaking small

aspects of their lives in order to reintroduce

that feeling of excitement, such as trying

However, for the unhealthy INFP, this lack

of passion can cause them to re-evaluate their

lives and instantly drop everything that seems

They don’t take into account the small accomplishments

that certain experiences have brought them

because they’re so focused on avoiding struggles

This can look like ditching relationships

on a whim, deleting certain contacts or even

randomly quitting their jobs - all in hopes

of reaching the ideal life invision for themselves.

INFPs have strong beliefs, and with their

innate charisma and ability to convince others

of certain concepts, they can easily influence

While this isn’t exactly a negative trait

when INFPs are feeling like their normal passionate

and creative selves, the destructive INFP

can easily spread contradicting information.

Their beliefs system can change at such an

alarming rate which ultimately results in

the INFP believing one thing one day, and

And since they have the habit of creating

an army of believers because of their ability

to present powerful visions and concepts - false

information can affect more than just themselves.

If this goes on for long enough, the people

that put their trust into an INFP begin to

realize that their views aren’t as straightforward

afterall, ultimately resulting in INFPs losing

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The Unbearable ‘Icks’ Infjs Can’T Overlook

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"Ick".. a slang term that is most recently

used to describe a feeling of disgust or aversion

In the case of the overly observant INFJ,

it’s fair to say that they indeed may just

when noticed, are almost impossible to overlook.

So what are some of the INFJ’s instant turn-offs,

and why do they seem so unbearable to witness?

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Number 1: Being too conforming or ‘by the

The INFJ personality type is considered a

free thinker and free-doer in every aspect

They prefer to take the path less traveled

and often don’t trust the societal constructs

unique views on things, sometimes the INFJ

can observe when someone is close-minded to

the fact that maybe their conforming actions

and decisions make it difficult for them to

INFJs can’t entirely trust someone who doesn’t

have the courage or capacity to think outside

of what is being told to them, and because

of that, this personality type becomes instantly

This ick becomes even worse when the INFJ

is questioned or criticized for their logical

rule-breaking that goes against external expectations.

In the eyes of an INFJ, blind obedience and

authoritarianism makes people seem less human,

and for that, they can’t help but to cringe

If there’s one way to quickly lose the INFJ’s

empathetic sympathy, lack of accountability

Victimhood for the sake of manipulation, justification

or attention seeking has to be one of the

Since this observant type has the habit of

analyzing things from all angles, they know

better than to be tricked into giving sympathy

to someone portraying to be innocent instead

Of course, the INFJ is unlikely to jump to

this conclusion without doing some digging,

but it doesn’t take long for them to realize

the obvious reality of self-victimization.

This is especially true when someone can’t

come to terms with the idea that maybe they’re

the common denominator in their life problems.

Since the INFJ takes so much time to self-reflect

and tries their best to see where they went

wrong far before ever pointing the finger,

play the victim card, but they also get an

instant ick that makes them think of that

Being labeled as a know-it-all themselves,

INFJs can appreciate some shared intellect

They love diving deep into people’s expertise,

Normally, they don’t shame those who share

their wealth of knowledge, as long as they

actually know what they’re talking about.

This is where the fine line of whether or

not someone’s proficiency is rooted in legitimacy

When the INFJ comes to realize that someone

is simply not open to hearing any other potential

opinions, conclusions or alternative ways

of getting something done, their ick-radar

For, a true expert is always willing to remain

open to innovation and alternate perspectives

in order to challenge what they believe to

a certain defensiveness that becomes obvious.

Know-it-alls who don’t actually know much

about what they’re talking about are deeply

afraid of being proven wrong, and are willing

to do (and say) just about anything to save

Number 4: Having an inflated ego in any regard

With extroverted feeling at hand, this personality

However, they’re also able to easily decipher

when someone’s self-pride is either coming

from a genuine place or a place of self-conceit.

Despite the fact that even the most genuine

display of self-pride can come across as slightly

While sharing photos of a weightloss journey

support, a page full of revealing gym-selfies

will result in an eye-roll and complete disinterest.

When someone is continually trying to be the

center of attention, it becomes so unbearably

noticeable to the INFJ that they can’t help

but to watch in disappointment for humanity.

They can’t stand shallowness, but shallowness

that’s combined with a self-absorbed demeanor

tops the cake for most INFJs and their ick-o-meters.

Number 5: People who talk behind the backs

To be fair, INFJs aren’t exactly known for

Related to their disinterest in small-talk

there’s something so superficial about talking

about other people that the INFJ usually loses

interest in the conversation rather quickly.

Yet, besides the fact that INFJs much rather

talk about something deeper and more complex

did on the weekend, there’s a certain level

of ick that comes with gossiping being someone’s

Sure, sometimes we all need to vent, and most

times, these stories and life challenges involve

Being the keen listeners and trustworthy advice-givers

they are, INFJs can tell when talking about

In fact, the worst INFJ ick comes when someone

can’t help but to resort to talking about

manner, in order to keep the conversation

everything she does seems to just get on my

INFJs hate playing into these sorts of conversation

starters, and can’t help but to feel instantly

turned-off and uncomfortable in that person’s

energy, knowing they’ll probably be talking

We’ll start this one by saying, maybe not

But for the most part, a passionate conversation

about politics is an instant INFJ turn-off.

Related to what we said earlier about the

INFJ’s need for a more stimulating conversation,

current news surrounding politics is rarely

With deeper understanding and an opinion that

probably concludes the political system to

not be what it seems, these sorts of conversations

leave the INFJ stuck in boredom, disagreement,

and an unwillingness to share their honest

They probably can’t remember the last time

they voted, and they probably have no idea

who’s running or what side they’re running

So while the INFJ is busy being icked-out,

they also probably seem completely oblivious

and uninformed, which is also not exactly

a comfortable place for the perfectionistic

To put it simply, if it’s a one-on-one conversation,

the INFJ may attempt to shut it down with

the use of humor or admitted disinterest.

And, if it’s not a one-on-one conversation,

political banter is the perfect opportunity

for the INFJ to tune out what’s being said

in order to silently slip into their own little

Number 7: Lack of consideration and kindness

Like they say, you can tell alot about a date

For the INFJ, this and the way someone treats

any other member of society rings very true.

INFJs are constantly analyzing the gestures,

interactions and reactions of the people they’re

Kindness comes in all forms, and is considered

common sense for the INFJ type when interacting

On that note, when the INFJ witnesses unnecessary

rudeness or lack of consideration, they are

overcome with an ick that is nearly impossible

Even something as simple as someone not thinking

to look behind them as they pass through the

Or not saying thank you should someone hold

Of course, it can get far worse, with common

courtesy situations coming with a minimal

In fact, certain situations are so bad that

the INFJ has no other choice but to cut off

all ties with that individual, sometimes with

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ick you have as an INFJ that we didn’t mention

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Infj Infatuation And Why It Can Be Dangerous

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Through deep imagination giving way to the

something to say about their experiences when

Whether it be romantic or platonic, this observant

type can find themselves unusually drawn to

certain people, but why is this infatuation-habit

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The thing with INFJ infatuation, in general,

is the fact that although optimistic in love

and connection, their reserved and distant

nature makes true attraction rare to come

In fact, in reality most INFJs have a love/hate

With deep interest in how the human mind works

and learning through other people’s experiences,

this introverted type also holds a sense of

distrust and hesitation when it comes to the

Normally, true INFJ infatuation comes on when

They can’t help but to be drawn in by authenticity,

However, this can become rather dangerous

when another person knows how to use false

radar when it comes to others depicting a

false facade, sometimes their optimism can

Number 2: They can easily convince themselves

There’s a certain aspect of INFJ infatuation

that may be the biggest risk factor of it

This often-overlooked risk factor is rooted

in their beliefs of high power, spirituality,

Sometimes INFJs can convince themselves that

certain meetings and interrelations were destined,

and although this intuitive hunch may serve

to be undeniably true at times, it can also

bring on a captivation towards certain people

out of touch with their main cognitive driver,

introverted intuition, they can resort to

In this case, their infatuation becomes all

the more difficult for the INFJ to understand

However, when INFJ’s are instead analyzing

a new connection through extroverted feeling,

in which someone else is desiring the INFJ,

this type may absorb those underlying feelings

of the other person, taking them on as their

This can make them feel interested in someone,

or even love-struck despite not being able

to put a finger on why exactly they feel drawn

Number 3: They can experience obsessive (and

Through convincing themselves that they were

meant to cross paths with someone combined

with an undeniable intuitive pull towards

someone, INFJs can become engulfed by thoughts

Due to the INFJ’s habit of becoming fixated

on certain topics, recent experiences or potential

futures, they can catch themselves putting

someone at the forefront of their mental focus.

And while this isn’t always considered toxic,

it can end up taking over the INFJ’s entire

self-motivation and focus, keeping them from

to experiencing in their life of solitude.

In fact, sometimes these distracting thoughts

can be so intense that it throws the INFJ

into a complete introverted intuitive/introverted

thinking loop, leaving them disconnected to

This mental consumption can serve to be the

start to the most important connections the

INFJ is meant to have in their lives, yet

it can also be a sign that their exaggerated

and at-times false perceptions of an individual

Number 4: Their infatuation is easily built

Speaking of exaggerated perceptions, the web-like

formation of thoughts and ideas that make

Through their extraverted feeling and sensing

functions this personality type accurately

observes and files away certain qualities

of each person they come into contact with.

And while these observed qualities may be

accurate, the INFJ’s introverted cognitive

functions of intuition and thinking begin

This is when their infatuation can become

rather biasedly-led, forming into idealizations

that would fit the INFJ’s expectations and

Not only can this end up leading the INFJ

into disappointments should their person of

interest not meet these biased-rooted expectations,

but it can also cause the INFJ to turn a blind-eye

Not to mention, once the INFJ has assumed

them to go back and decipher which qualities

they formed through optimism and which qualities

Number 5: They can end up attracted to qualities

Through awe and fascination, INFJs can feel

an undeniable pull to those who stand out.

Whether it’s the quiet and mysterious person

that excludes themselves from the crowd, or

the odd and eccentric type that stands out

The INFJ can become infatuated by the oddities

However, first impressions can cause the INFJ

to fill in the blanks as to how this perceived

unconventionalism may play out in other areas

of that person's personality and life; which

For example, they say the INFJ and ENTJ make

a good match in the first few stages of getting

With the INFJ becoming captivated by all the

traits of the ENTJ that they admire such as

their determination and single mindedness,

They feel drawn towards the fact that the

ENTJ usually has their own interests, success

and social life allowing the INFJ to hold

However, in the long run, these exact traits

can leave the INFJ feeling emotionally neglected;

leaving the initial infatuation to serve as

Number 6: They can end up digging themselves

Speaking of forming connections that ultimately

can certainly find themselves in a sticky

situation or two within their lifetime due

When this imaginative and romantic personality

type finds someone who piques their interest,

they may be surprised by their uncharacteristic

After observing and collecting all the information

they can about a person, INFJs usually take

one of two routes, both having equally difficult

The first route is going overboard with their

emotional attachment before the connection

calls for it, ultimately becoming far more

interested in someone before that someone

has had the chance to become genuinely interested

For the second route, INFJs may find themselves

showing too much interest in someone before

finding out enough about them; eventually

realizing the lack of compatibility before

Just as the ENTJ example described in the

previous point, once an INFJ has taken the

leap to actively gain someone’s attention,

it can be a difficult realization when they

By trying their best to avoid hurting their

feelings while also trying to not lead them

on anymore than they already have, an INFJ’s

infatuation can lead them to some seriously

Number 7: It can make them feel completely

With extroverted feeling at hand, the INFJ

isn’t unfamiliar with feeling out of touch

As we mentioned before, the INFJ can absorb

the interest that someone else has for them

and mirror it in a way that wouldn’t naturally

But, despite flattery and being lusted after,

there's nothing that causes this emotional

disconnect more than when they can’t rationalize

their uncontrollable thoughts of another.

Known for maintaining a collected internal

balance despite their never-ending thought

INFJ off kilter more than the unignorable

and intrusive wonderment for another person.

In fact, feeling out of control is one thing

that most perfectionistic INFJs don’t deal

With a foggy mind and a recurring focus on

Truth be told, this is one of the main reasons

finding love and connection can feel so overwhelming

As once they let their floodgates down, the

rush of feelings, emotions, thoughts and curiosities

that come crashing in can make them feel like

they have no time or energy to focus on any

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Comforting and intense, INFJ love is not a

force to be reckoned with. It comes in slow

and then not, cold and then hot.. It’s difficult

to explain to the average person, but these INFJ

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Number 1: Falling in love by Sofia Mouratidis

I fall in love with a man slowly-slowly in the

beginning and once I do, it goes from 0% to 110%.

to realizing I like someone and then falling hard.

with just the way this person is. I accept

indifferent political or even lack of religious

faith. To me that’s what falling in love is:

I give my all, my love, I open my arms to

stay and find comfort from all your fears; I’m a

good listener and I’ll listen to your problems,

Even when the whole world turns against you, I’ll

be there for you. I’m your protector. Your rock.

I’ll sit opposite from you in deep silence.

No need to say a word. Just let me look at

This is no casual fling, no one night stand.

If an INFJ chooses to pursue a relationship

with you at all, it is for the purpose of

spending the rest of your lives together.

You will truly experience what unconditional love

feels like. What it’s like to be supported in

everything you do. What it’s like to be encouraged

when you are down. The INFJ is what you long to

come back to after a weary, arduous, overwhelming

day. The INFJ waits to listen to you, to minister

to you, to ease your worries and fears, to make

you feel like no matter what happens to you, it’s

okay as long as you have the same love waiting for

you everyday when you come back. The INFJ is home.

and about spirituality and the meaning of life.

They will get carried away in their excitement,

eyes sparkling as they explain only to abruptly

stop and ask you whether they are boring you.

push their dorky little glasses up their nose and

curl into a ball on the carpet beside the fire.

The INFJ does not need elaborate vacations

or luxury stays in hotels. They love quiet,

creature comforts. They like the sound of

They like the howl of the wind and sunsets by

the ocean. Nature makes them come alive, makes

them feel like they are one with the universe,

a small speck in the grand scheme of things.

You will wake up one morning to them sobbing

while reading the fate of strangers in a bomb

blast. You will watch the ugliness of the

their tender hearts don’t know how to handle

it. They might weep over a colleague they have

But most of all they will assure you of their

love everyday without having to say it. You will

feel their love envelop you, always there, always

waiting, at a moment’s notice. You will experience

the warmth of their heart, the understanding

in their eyes, the kindness in their smile.

And if it doesn’t, all the fire in the world will

not be enough to burn away the memory of them.

INFJ meets someone interesting, dates them,

sees their flaws but more or less consciously

decides that they have much “potential” for

been the environment in which they lived,

failed, the other person doesn’t want to grow

we are unhappy, we keep doing all that we can

to make them feel secure of us, to make them

see that they can trust us and we are always

there whatever - but we are not reciprocated,

we explain what is happening from our point

of view but they just tell us that we are

chances, we simply close the door forever

they are astonished, they don’t even question

and they keep on looking for us again and again,

even after years… because it is said that nobody

can give you everything like an INFJ does… it

must be true indeed, if my first ex husband

tried to have me back for 2 years and the second

after 4 years is still chasing me, even though I

told him many times that to me when a story is

closed it is closed forever, no way to recover

you can’t open the door again once it’s closed,

an INFJ doesn’t close a door, they nail it shut

as for the following relationships? well…

love yourself enough that will make you stop

wanting to be the savior of the world and stop

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