Why Some People Hate The Intj

Why Some People Hate The Intj explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.

With INTJs being known for their never-ending

it comes as no surprise that most people who

meet an INTJ would consider them seemingly

withdrawn and slightly pessimistic. But what

about an INTJ makes it so difficult for some

personality types to enjoy their company?

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It’s true.. INTJs hate being wrong. But for

this intuitive and analytical know-it-all,

they actually usually do in fact know it all.

So, when they’re faced with someone who thinks

they’re wrong, they can get quite definesive

because they themselves almost can’t fully

believe it. In fact, some sources claim that

INTJs are downright obsessed with being right,

but mostly to prove to themselves rather than in

an egotistical manner. While most INTJs are open

to disagreements in hopes of proving they are in

fact right - they aren’t opposed to being proven

wrong and as long as they get straight facts that

they can then use to further their knowledge.

However, whatever the reason the INTJ is defending

their reasoning, some people can’t stand a

know-it-all when they see one, and INTJs are as

close to a know-it-all as you’re going to get.

over emotion, no matter what the situation

is. It’s not to say that this is necessarily

always a bad thing, because it does allow

INTJs to easily find solutions to issues,

but this personality type is so blindsided by

the emotional factors that they weigh out logic

and rationality to come to conclusions even if

emotion is one of the biggest factors at play.

For example, they may not see the harm in

to just get a new one. In an INTJs eyes, they can

see the emotion in the situation but they don’t

necessarily take it into account when offering the

most logical advice. They sometimes don’t see why

others would need a shoulder to cry on or an ear

to vent to, they think that if someone is coming

to them to talk, they are looking for logical

solutions. This can make people assume the INTJ

is insincere or maybe even at times, down right

rude, when of course that’s not their intention.

Number 3: They enjoy arguing thoughts and opinions

Just as much as INTJs hate being wrong, they

love a good disagreement. In fact, opposite to

their feeling counterpart, the INFJ who can feel

overly uncomfortable and disturbed in times of

disagreement and conflict, the INTJ sees arguments

as a logically informative way to either teach

or learn new information. They love using solid

facts to defend their case, and they expect the

same from the other party. So, if you’re arguing

with an INTJ and you’re relying on your gut

feelings and emotions to back you up, you can

be sure they won’t see your arguments as valid.

While some extroverted personality types don’t

mind a solid conversation of indifference, most

people would rather run the other way, because

not only can an argument with an INTJ be extremely

intimidating, but they’re probably right anyway.

Number 4: They don’t mind to challenge the system

INTJs don’t blindly follow anything without a full

understanding as to why. This includes rules,

restrictions, societal structures and the

authority figures who impose them. While it may

seem rebellious and unnecessary to some people,

INTJs feel the need to argue or challenge useless

rules and regulations that are imposed on them.

While of course, this attitude can definitely

rub people the wrong way, including the authority

figures being challenged, it can also make it

extremely uncomfortable for the people around

them. While the argued points of an INTJ usually

hold a lot of truth, challenging higher power

usually doesn’t get resolved by the INTJ proving

they are right, so most people see no point in

making a fuss. In fact, if someone is with an

INTJ during their times of challenging authority,

there’s a good chance they’ll avoid future public

ventures with them to avoid the embarrassment.

Number 5: They are highly perfectionistic

INTJs are pessimistic idealists. They have an

extremely high standard for most things in life,

but they also see the faults in the world and

the people in it. Therefore, they like to control

the things around them to the best of their

abilities with the understanding that the more

they make things happen rather than let things

happen to them, they will be ahead of the game.

The unfortunate thing for this introverted and

highly individualistic type is that their main

goal is to better themselves, which means they

can easily sacrifice their time, relationships,

perfectionism makes it difficult for them to

work with others, so they don’t rely on others

for anything. In fact, most INTJs actually see

most people as incompitant to hold the level of

standard for life as they do. They need everything

organized, planned and properly executed in a

very specific manner which makes it extremely

difficult to work with an INTJ for some types

that need a little more freedom for creativity.

Humans are curious creatures. When we lack

our own judgements to ease our curiosity.

Well, let’s just say, for an INTJ who holds

a very private life and guarded emotions,

this personality type has a lot of judgments about

who they are from outsiders looking in. Smart,

off as an intimidating character, but also maybe

even cold and uninterested at times. To be fair,

this personality type can be quite judgemental

self-control over their thoughts and feelings,

their judgments can be seen in their faces and

body language. So, with their curious nature and

judgemental looks, you can only imagine the

conclusions some people make about the INTJ.

Because INTJs can see the solutions to issues so

obviously, they can’t wrap their heads around the

fact that the majority of the world is so blinded

to them. In fact, not only does the INTJ have

difficulty relating to people who lack a deep

sense of rationality, but they can actually get

noticeably annoyed and needlessly harsh with

some people who don’t think the way they do.

If someone is making a decision based off of the

way they feel, such as the INFJ would do, an INTJ

wouldn’t be able to help but to argue the fact

that emotions have no real basis of evidence. This

intolerance for lack of logic can make people

feel as if their emotions aren’t validated,

and emotional validation is one of the key

bases of connection.. In other words, it can

be hard for people to feel compelled to befriend

an INTJ after being shut down for their feelings.

INTJs aren’t the warm and fuzzy friends you call

when you want to be told what you want to hear.

Instead, the INTJ will tell you exactly what you

need to hear, and the most logical solution to

fix whatever issue it is you have. No sugar

coating, false hope, or emotional soothing.

They understand that life can be harsh, but for

this logical personality type, emotions and false

hope only get in the way of achieving what it

really is you need to do in a given situation.

They’re not going to tell you your spouse is

a good partner if they can clearly see all the

ways in which they aren’t pulling their end. And

they’re not going to tell you it’s okay that you

lost your job when they know you need to look

for a new one to make the rent for that month.

Some people can really appreciate this INTJ

trait for what it is, because to be fair,

honesty and rationality are quite hard to come

by these days. However, in reality, most people

aren’t ready for the truth of the matter, and a

pessimistic attitude can surely make it all worse.

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The Key Differences Between The Infj Male Vs Female

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depicted similarly in all aspects. They’re

but instead, are referred to as one entity.

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They say the rare INFJ personality type is

one of the most difficult types to have. With

constant feelings of being misunderstood, innate

introversion, and the unshakable notion of being

lost in the world around them, all INFJs share

a similar sense of not belonging. However, aside

from this shared difficulty, the INFJ man and the

INFJ woman experience their own unique struggles

that the other gender wouldn’t quite relate

to. For the female INFJ, keeping their maternal

empathy protected with proper boundaries can serve

to be much more difficult compared to the INFJ

man. However, because of the INFJ man’s ability

to put up a guard more easily, they tend to suffer

from internalizing feelings far more than the INFJ

woman. Additionally, societal expectations put a

great deal of pressure on the more sensitive INFJ

man in comparison to the INFJ woman. While this

may not seem so apparent from the outside looking

in, INFJ men have the tendency to suppress their

soul-nurturing hobbies to pursue interests that

better align with the expected male role. On the

flip side, however, the INFJ woman may experience

more financial instability due to this freedom.

It’s often said that men and women of any

understanding one another. With different wiring,

the two genders experience life through different

perspectives. When referring to the INFJ man and

woman, this undeniable truth remains apparent. In

fact, this contrast becomes even more noticeable

when it comes to their communication styles and

mannerisms. While it’s true that both the INFJ man

and the INFJ woman tend to communicate in a calm

and understanding manner, there’s something about

the way they project these traits that makes them

entirely different. For instance, the INFJ woman

is able to vocalize their empathetic understanding

to those they are trying to help while despite

being similarly empathetic in their thinking,

the INFJ man often finds it challenging to show

their inner understanding through words and

instead choose to later show their understanding

through actions. When talking to an INFJ woman,

you can usually sense their empathy through

their body language, their caring replies,

and their attempt to brainstorm a solution.

exactly show their empathy on the outside,

their thoughtful problem-solving actions later

down the line, showing that they not only care,

but that they actually took the time and energy

to magically fix the communicated problem.

Both the INFJ man and woman have difficulty when

it comes to conveying their thoughts into words.

Despite sharing this innate struggle, similar

to the differences that come through the way

they communicate their empathy, the INFJ man

and woman show a unique contrast in the way

they express their introverted intuitive ideas.

Whether it be through offering someone advice,

explaining their understanding on certain topics,

or unleashing their wild imaginations to a

trusting ear, the brains of two INFJ subtypes

take a different approach. For the INFJ woman,

communicating their vast ideas usually comes

in the form of narrating their own personal

experiences and those of others in order for the

other person to properly relate to the underlying

message. They tend to incorporate emotional

nuances and anecdotes to make even the most

serious of thoughts seem more lighthearted.

structured and logical presentation of their

thoughts. Instead of ‘beating around the bush’,

they take a more direct and less emotional

abstract concepts and theories to properly

If you know anything about the INFJ personality

type, you’ll know that they’re often referred

to as being both detail oriented and big-picture

thinkers. While it may seem contradictory to some

degree, they have a unique ability to zoom

in and out of certain dynamics in order to

accurately understand every angle. However, when

it comes to the INFJ man and woman, one tends to

be better at focusing on the big picture while

the other has a more detail orientated approach.

Can you guess which is which? Well, for the

INFJ woman, being more attentive to the minor

details and nuances tend to be her strong suit.

They meticulously pick up on unspoken feelings

through body language, the minor slip-ups in

one’s story, the miscalculations of a project,

and the step-by-step necessities of larger tasks.

Meanwhile, for the INFJ man, focusing on the big

to certain relevant details when necessary,

but for the most part, they rather hover over

an idea to see the picture as a whole. This

allows them to come up with new ideas easily while

remaining strongly motivated by the end result.

For the INFJ man, living in a world influenced by

masculine expectations can be extremely difficult.

They’re expected to suppress their innate

sensitive, nurturing, intuitive energy for

a more dominant self, without questioning the

repercussions. In fact, this challenge felt by

most INFJ men is a common topic amongst the INFJ

community. However, what’s not always talked about

is the similar experience INFJ women have when

it comes to expressing their innate character

traits. With a rather rational, direct, and

assertive approach, the INFJ woman is seen as

being rather detached and unapproachable. Taking

on a more masculine demeanor at times, they too

understand what it’s like to not fit in with those

of the same gender. While this may be considered

more of a similar than a difference, ironically,

the INFJ man and woman wouldn’t be able to relate

to each other's approaches to life but in the

opposite context as the average man and woman.

The INFJ personality type is known to approach

relationships with caution. It takes them a long

time to open up, and even longer to show their

true feelings towards another. When it comes

to the two genders, however, there’s another layer

of relational characteristics that come into play.

While the INFJ woman may take a long time to open

up, once they do, they’re known to slowly decrease

their need for significant alone time due to the

fact that they simply want to be around their

partner every chance they get. They strive for

close emotional ties while still understanding the

importance of supporting one another’s individual

growth. For the INFJ man, prioritizing a sense of

independence is a non-negotiable, especially when

their partnership is thriving in the background.

Similarly, INFJ women typically offer more verbal

reassurance and emotional support while the INFJ

man utilizes his creative problem solving skills

to offer practical help through action-taking.

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How Every Infj Acts In Different Social Settings

How Every Infj Acts In Different Social Settings explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.

Both introverted and extroverted, the INFJ

is often confused as an ambivert for their

innate ability to mix and mingle with any

However, deep down inside, INFJs are introverts

at heart, and tend to change the way they

act according to different crowds and their

comfort level around different personalities

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Number 1: Large groups of people (who they’re

First and foremost, let’s get the most dreadful

the worst thing for the INFJ who will gladly

However, when this naturally introverted type

is expected to co-mingle with the people within

this crowd of strangers, that’s when they

Luckily, they don’t go blank like some introverted

Instead, thanks to their extroverted feeling

function, the INFJ resorts to chameleon mode.

This is where they can easily tweak their

rather quiet and noticeably-observant selves

to fit the energy of each smaller group they

Whether it's a large family gathering, an

obligatory work party, or even a highschool

reunion..The most interesting aspect of this

chameleon mode is that the INFJ rarely notices

left with ruminating through the information

So, while INFJs may seem extremely convincing

within social scenarios where they’re expected

to socialize, it can be confusing when they’re

not so keen on attending social gatherings

Number 2: Large crowds of people (that they

Now that we’ve gotten that out of the way,

Turns out, INFJs actually enjoy being within

large crowds.. if they can find a front row

The interesting aspect of an INFJ’s introversion

in particular is that they have an underlying

need to continuously examine their surroundings,

including the people and energies within it.

Actually, this is one of the INFJ’s favorite

So, when it comes to large crowds of people

where all they feel obligated to do is observe,

this personality type actually quite enjoys

In fact, a short amount of time spent in a

positively-infectious environment can be all

an INFJ needs to feel less distant from the

world, while still allowing them to be in

Number 3: Large crowds of people after the

Large crowds where socializing isn’t expected

And it’s not always the socializing aspect

that makes large crowds seem rather uninviting

Since most INFJs would consider themselves

to be an HSP or highly sensitive person, it

means that any overload of stimuli can easily

This means that large crowds of different

people, colors, noises, and voices can be

entertaining at the start, but once they’ve

gotten their fill, spending any more time

in a high-stimuli scenario can cause the INFJ

to burnout and feel irritable far before anyone

This is where things like busy shopping malls,

concerts, festivals, bars and any other outing

most people would consider fun, comes with

an underlying fear of overstimulation that

makes it difficult for the INFJ to enjoy themselves

Number 4: Small groups of between 3-5 people

As the group gets smaller the dynamic of the

entire energy and comfort level drastically

The less people the better, because the more

intimate and genuine the setting becomes.

INFJs can instantly see the difference of

topics of conversation when there are less

This difference in energy not only allows

the INFJ to feel more comfortable, but it

allows the other people involved to put their

guard down - which we all know is a crucial

component to creating a proper connection

However, with such concentrated energies,

a small group dynamic can vary drastically

depending on the people involved and their

If the INFJ knows everyone within the group,

even if they’ve only met them a few times,

analyzing anyone, which ultimately decreases

Nonetheless, INFJs usually end up taking the

back seat of the conversation more times than

not, listening rather than contributing, and

only contributing if they’re genuinely interested.

Luckily, if the people involved know the INFJ,

they won’t be taken aback by this often-perceived

However, as the number of people they don’t

know within the group increases, their comfort

level decreases; and this means they may even

turn on their chameleon-like ways to accurately

obtain the information they need for their

Paradoxically, they may seem more comfortable

but it’s just their way of playing the role

Like we said, the less people the better..

No matter the setting, INFJs much rather socialize

While some people tend to be more reluctant

to talk to strangers rather than their own

people, INFJs are usually open minded to allowing

people to share their insights and personal

experiences so they can learn through them.

While they may not look very approachable

in person.. and may even take measures to

not be approached by strangers, deep down,

Of course, in an unpredictable scenario, INFJs

allow their the energy and demeanor of the

other person to determine how they’ll act.

This is not only to keep the conversation

mutual but also to not have to open up to

When this interaction is with a stranger they

won’t meet again, they won’t feel obligated

to know which tidbits of personal information

they should be sharing, because they don’t

Now, when it comes to a one-on-one conversation

Whether the INFJ is genuine friends with someone

already or they’re getting to know someone

in hopes of a potential friendship, deep,

thought-provoking conversations is the key

This is where they can feel most like themselves,

without any tweaking of their behaviors or

In these scenarios, INFJs usually feel comfortable

sharing those deep insights and ideas they’ve

become so accustomed to withholding from others.

This is mostly because once they’ve figured

someone out, and actually enjoy them for who

they are, the fear of being judged or misunderstood

And in the same sense, INFJs don’t ask questions

out of politeness or obligation when it comes

The only questions they ask are the ones in

In fact, this is how most of these intimate

conversations come up, since a simple ‘how

are you’ can easily turn into a venting-session

Number 7: One-on-one with a potential lover

In some circumstances, lovers and friends

Once someone has made it past the guards INFJ’s

surface personality, they begin to unveil

And once the INFJ has formed that love for

an individual, you become one of their people

However, getting to that point can be quite

A potential romantic connection comes with

a unique aspect that friendships have on a

And that is the reluctance of vulnerability.

And with the opportunity for open vulnerability

comes a level of shyness that this introverted

type can actually surprise themselves with

When the INFJ is getting to know someone on

enough to flirt until they have the slightest

of foundation as to who that person is and

how they’ll perceive the gesture, and so,

things can feel rather serious until this

This can make these one-on-one conversations

end up feeling like an interview until the

It’s fair to say that when getting to know

this reluctant type one-on-one, patience is

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10 Traits Of The Infj Child The Rarest Personality Type

10 Traits Of The Infj Child The Rarest Personality Type explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.

Why Some Infjs Fear Their Angry Side

Why Some Infjs Fear Their Angry Side explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.

Even the most empathetic and understanding

personality types have negative emotions they’re

not proud of..and INFJs are no exception.

In fact, not only are INFJs not proud of their

angry side, but they actually can end up feeling

seriously shameful and guilty when their dark

Today’s video is all about exactly that..why

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Number 1: They repress it, never knowing when

about the INFJ’s secondary function, extroverted

Extroverted feeling makes it so that INFJs

can easily feel and even experience the emotions

to really know what they’re feeling themselves.

And so, intense emotions like anger and depression

that are triggered through life experiences

often get buried deep within their subconscious

At the moment, INFJs can’t focus on their

own emotions because they’re too busy calculating

Yet, the confusing thing is that these undealt-with

emotions and subconscious grudges pop up when

they least expect it, often at the most inconvenient

And when they do come up, INFJs don’t need

to know how to deal with them because they

get dealt with whether they like it or not.

Whether an INFJs anger is triggered in a ‘straw

that broke the camel's back’ kind of way,

where they end up unleashing every single

observed issue they have with an individual.

Or it pops up when they’re alone and mentally

analyzing a past experience or current area

INFJs hate feeling angry and usually end up

feeling pretty embarrassed and guilty once

as part of their identity due to their deep

It’s as if INFJs see people’s inner child

making it so that no matter what someone does,

INFJs can understand the lack of knowledge,

uncontrolled emotions, or curiosities that

led to the supposed anger-inducing situation

And so, when INFJ’s feelings of anger get

the best of them, they end up seriously self-criticizing

about the sheer irrationality behind their

Sensitive to criticisms and defensive when

being pushed outside their comfort zones against

their own accord, the INFJ’s most regrettable

bouts of anger are rooted in self-protection.

challenged for the way they do things in life.

They’re highly self-aware in analyzing what

it is they do and don’t want, and although

And because of that, INFJs can come off as

rather stubborn, disinterested or even noticeably

annoyed at the people who are continuously

Contradictingly, this advocate type is known

for critiquing and encouraging others to leave

their comfort zones because they can see the

So, they know most people’s pieces of constructive

criticism and perceived motivation is based

out of love just as their own advice to others

And so, sometimes this seemingly uncalled

for irritation makes the INFJ feel even worse

Number 4: They don’t believe anger is the

Despite natural human emotion that arises

despite our best conscious efforts, INFJs

never think resorting to anger is the logical

They’re extremely understanding, and even

if they strongly disapprove of something,

they much rather avoid conflict than get wrapped

up in the underlying negativity behind it.

In fact, not only does this stem from their

highly sensitive and empathetic personalities

but the INFJ genuinely sees visible or verbal

It takes a lot of self control to not show

anger, but even more so to understand the

underlying emotions behind someone else’s

However, this is not to say INFJs are perfect,

Of course they know anger and have expressed

anger themselves, but each and every time

they regret it and end up spending hours calculating

how many other more beneficial approaches

The older and more experienced an INFJ gets,

the less likely they are to get to the point

Number 5: Their over-analysis of anger can

One thing every INFJ does once they’re alone

in their thoughts after a fit of anger is

of times, inputting all the different possible

outcomes, reasonings and mistakenly perceived

components in order to get a full picture

Luckily, with this logical reasoning and observation

they can usually come to a fair and concise

In fact, even if it’s just a small situation

that makes the INFJ uncomfortable, they can

end up getting angry when they keep thinking

Specifically when it’s from a relationship

or friendship standpoint, the more an INFJ

thinks about how the other person hurts them,

This over-analysis of a person or a situation

can make them trapped in resentment and anger

for a long time, especially if it has to do

with betrayal, being manipulated or lied to.

But above all, when INFJs come to the conclusion

that their kindness has been abused, there’s

Number 6: They’ll cut people out and isolate

Whether an INFJ senses that their anger is

soon to erupt or that they may show any negative

emotion whatsoever, the first thing they do

Not only do they want to save themselves from

impulsive reactions that they’ll later regret,

but INFJs naturally have a hard time expressing

This doesn’t change when it comes to anger,

in fact, to some degree, INFJs are afraid

to let other people know when they’re angry

So, instead of communicating, sometimes INFJs

rather isolate and go through the motions

From this outside, this withdrawal usually

looks like the silent treatment or maybe even

a door slam in severe cases, when in reality

this introspective type is just trying to

figure out what it is they’re feeling and

if it’s worth a future discussion or not.

Unfortunately in this time of contemplation,

INFJs can become rather cold compared to their

Number 7: They don’t get around to actually

Anger is a natural human emotion that acts

to alert us when something crosses our own

and if something needs to be changed in our

Whether it be within certain relationships,

job positions or self habits, anger is usually

rooted in the lack of boundaries that needs

However, with conflict-avoidance and a tendency

to withdraw, sometimes this peace-keeping

personality type never gets around to confronting

In fact, they can be so focused on analyzing

the uncomfortable emotions they’re feeling

that they forget to analyze the reason they’re

These unmet desires and needs ultimately snowball

into bigger issues that they end up door-slamming

from their lives instead of nipping it in

While the INFJ door slam is rarely an impulsive

decision, sometimes a spell of anger can make

If an INFJ brushes their issues with someone

or something under the carpet for too long,

they may be surprised when they act on their

door-slamming ways seemingly out of the blue.

They can end up shutting someone out entirely

not because that was their original intention,

they weren’t able to communicate their feelings

Whether it would cause them too much pain

to open that door back up or they sincerely

feel too shameful that they were wrong to

slam the door in the first place, this misplaced

anger can end up falling back on them when

another route if they had first gotten a grasp

Well PSYCH-Os, that’s it for today’s video..

So, as an INFJ, tell us of a time in the comments

below where you seriously feared your angry

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The Issues That Come With Infj Empath Mirroring

The Issues That Come With Infj Empath Mirroring explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.

Acting as a metaphorical mirror for all those

they meet, the INFJ empaths with the incredible

ability to reflect other people’s true colors

Oftentimes, against their will INFJs will

absorb and project people’s energies providing

valuable feedback that usually is communicated

not through spoken words but through energy

Today we’re going to be talking all about

the issues INFJ empaths face when mirroring

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Number 1: They act different around different

INFJs have the ability to get on another person's

level like no other personality type because

They can get along with all walks of life

because the empathic INFJ subconsciously adapts

to the people they meet in order for the other

person to feel as comfortable as possible

This means that when the INFJ gets into conversation

with someone whether it be an individual or

an audience, they intuitively sense what the

other person wants and expects in a sense.

And so they bend their personalities to connect

with different people on the deepest level

However, to others, this can make it difficult

to gauge who the INFJ really is on their own

and have people questioning whether or not

their being genuine - when most times they

hardly realize they’re doing it in the first

Number 2: They seem like they know people

Because INFJs have this ability to relate

to people on the level people want to be related

to, it can give people the feeling like their

newly found INFJ understands them more than

Sure, when given the chance INFJs would love

to get to know someone to the best of their

abilities, and may end up understanding others

in ways they’ve never been understood before.

But, for the most part, INFJs are just using

years of observations of human behavior and

mood-absorbing so that they can easily understand

why people do things the way they do them.

struggles and emotions of ransom strangers

them long to relate people’s energy to people

Number 3: They replace their own energies

INFJs are naturally extroverted feelers, meaning

they easily pick up on the emotions of things

emotions of others but they absorb it, sometimes

so deeply and without any warning that they

there yourself, but unlike INFPs who have

an introverted feeling function and tend to

be highly aware of what they themselves are

feeling, the INFJs have a hard time figuring

out which feelings are their own and which

Because of this mirroring mechanism, it makes

it pretty hard to understand what they actually

feel and the worst part of it all is that

it tends to be much easier to absorb the feelings

of those who are discouraged or depressed

In fact, internalizing negative feelings of

others is one of the most difficult aspects

Number 4: They find it difficult to let their

Without confidence and certainty in your own

feelings, some INFJs struggle with always

Whether it be in relationships, parenting,

friendships or even the workplace, INFJs don’t

want to be in the spotlight because they’re

too busy mirroring the feelings of others

and then calculating how they could make their

It’s as if taking on the emotions of others

makes the INFJ not only unable to realize

their own feelings at times, but even when

There is a step in maturity every INFJ must

face sooner or later, and that's tuning into

their own needs and desires while redirecting

their ambitious energies towards their own

Once an INFJ takes control of their mirroring

abilities rather than being controlled by

Number 5: They get too attached to their partner’s

like such a bad trait to have in a partner,

however, when there's too much focus on one

end of the relationship there's usually neglect

when they become too attached to the mood

They begin to neglect their own needs and

then end up getting frustrated at that exact

factor of their relationship at some point

In fact, if they don’t get frustrated, their

In this romantic dynamic, partners of INFJs

can feel like they need to pressure the INFJ

to talk about their feelings, as if they have

no idea what they actually want from the connection

And in the end, INFJs are happiest in connections

when they can quiet this extreme care for

Some INFJ empaths get so used to the idea

of reflecting other people’s feelings that

they themselves don’t even know where their

​​When an NFJ melts into their environment

and soaks up everything in their vicinity,

They don’t just absorb others’ perspectives,

both positive and negative, to project them

outward but also to internalize them inward.

If they’re around specific people for long

periods of time such as family, friends, or

in a specific work environment, INFJs can

get seriously stuck in mirror mode and temporarily

lose important aspects of who they were before.

And while that doesn’t sound so dangerous,

it can certainly make for a level of co-dependency

Plus, once this introspective type begins

to notice this quality and starts making changes

accordingly, these surrounding people most

likely will think they’re having a mid life

Number 7: They mirror to increase their own

Another main reason why INFJs feel lost when

they don’t have someone to reflect off of

is because they use this subconscious tactic

not only to make others feel comfortable but

language, tone of voice, energy levels and

to behave without sticking out like a sore

a friend by setting the tone for mutual energy

Plus, since they feed off of others' moods,

by reducing someone's discomfort, INFJs ultimately

The last thing an INFJ wants is to feel scrutinized

by someone new, and so by camouflaging themselves

within the already present behaviors allows

them to quietly observe the people present.

In addition to that, INFJs like to be known

for being good at knowing what people want

to see, need to see and showing exactly that,

even if it means they come off as a little

Number 8: They’ve used it all their lives

The toughest part of it all is that this mirroring

function is completely automatic and can’t

necessarily be ignored even if an INFJ tried.

struggling whether they’re shy, upset, anxious,

or nervous, INFJs immediately mirror in order

They always want to increase people’s comfort

within social scenarios and while they can

stop and realize what they're doing in the

moment, it’s rarely a conscious decision.

In fact, INFJs not only have practiced this

automatic reaction their whole lives but they’ve

also observed the shift in people’s demeanors

when they have someone to relate to them on

And so, it keeps them coming back to this

INFJs use their mirroring as a foundation

to their social skills, and without it, they

wouldn’t be as understanding and empathetic

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