What Makes Infj Relationships So Difficult

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talking about the 8 things that make relationships

with INFJs so difficult. Before we start, have you

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With such an elaborate mind that is constantly

creating different scenarios and possibilities

of the future, there's no doubt that INFJs

can convince themselves of certain truths.

Being the idealist type they are, INFJs can even

use this imagination to anticipate the negative

scenarios of their romantic relationships,

knowing that indifferences are to be expected.

In fact, INFJs want to know these indifferences

as soon as possible in order to really weigh

out their options of whether or not they want

to stick around to deal with them. Call it a

defense mechanism, or a preventive measure for

future heartbreak, regardless of the reasoning,

this habit actually creates more havoc than

it solves. One of the main reasons for this

is because INFJs end up self fulfilling these

fabricated prophecies by behaving as if it’s

already concluded. For example, if an INFJ becomes

skeptical of a new partner being unfaithful,

they may distance themselves from that partner

with no verbal explanation.. Ultimately leading

them to either leave or look elsewhere for

attention. So while in an INFJ’s eyes, it

may seem that they dodged a negative relationship

- in reality, they only sabotaged their chances.

we know from the first point, they tend to

make their own conclusions about things that

may not always be 100% accurate. So, when an

INFJ is in a relationship with someone similar

to themselves - someone who is individualistic,

it can feel nothing short of irritating to feel

like they’re constantly being watched. While this

attention may be flattering to some people,

especially during the honeymoon phase, the

INFJ’s analytical nature can surely take its toll,

especially when there’s some skepticism to fuel

it. Now, it’s not entirely fair to say that INFJs

are ‘always’ watching, because they do enjoy their

fair amount of alone time escaping this continuous

analytical behavior.. But one change to their

energetic environment and they’re entire attention

can be shifted onto that subject or person.

Number 3: They can get hurt over the small things

There’s no question as to whether or not the INFJ

personality type would be considered one of the

more sensitive souls of the 16 personality types.

difficulty when facing most criticisms in life,

but they also can be considered quite jealous

and sensitive partners when it comes to romantic

relationships. Their over-analytical minds can

easily pick up on subtle things that other people

would completely overlook, the unfortunate aspect

is that they usually mentally blow things out

of proportion. It’s almost as if INFJs take the

information they observe back to their layer of

the inner workings of their mind and question

it until possible conclusions begin to arise.

Rather than communicating first, INFJs need

time to analyze the information from all angles,

come from a very biased and emotional place.

Number 4: They want to better their partner

it’s the entire human race! INFJs are natural

helpers and healers, so it’s not unfamiliar

for them to be drawn to people who may need a

little fixing. Ironically, sometimes the other

person doesn’t necessarily see themselves

as someone who needs improvement.. And this

is where this empathetic trait can get a little

ugly. When it comes to romantic relationships,

can surely seem as if the INFJ is discontent with

how their partner is on their own accord resulting

in feelings of inadequacy and even belittlement.

People want to be accepted for who they are,

especially when it comes to romantic partnerships.

Yet, while INFJs don’t necessarily judge people

for their character, they can’t help but see the

potential in everyone - ultimately driving them

to try and push their partner to achieve that

potential, sometimes against their desires.

Number 5: They experience bouts of loneliness

Everyone experiences loneliness at one point

or another throughout life. Yet for an INFJ,

the feeling of loneliness isn’t always because of

lack of social and emotional connections. In fact,

this misunderstood type can feel the most lonely

when surrounded by some of their closest people

because it stems from a lack of feeling understood

rather than lack of physical people present. So,

with no surprise, this INFJ loneliness can

easily weasel its way into their relationships,

This may cause them to become temporarily

distant and moody seemingly out of the blue.

And while INFJs usually know how to navigate this

estranged feeling when it pops up unexpectedly,

it can still be very difficult for the person

on the receiving end. I mean.. Don’t we all

want our romantic partner to feel accepted,

included, and understood above all things? Well..

INFJ loneliness is just one of those things that

need to be accepted as part of the package deal.

In hopes of feeling accepted and understood as

much as possible, INFJs know that communication

is key. While they may ruminate on the things that

bother them within their relationships in order to

conclude if it’s worth discussing, INFJs usually

inquire about bothersome issues before they cause

disruption. This highly sensitive personality type

requires harmony in all relationships in order to

feel truly content in life and they’ll do whatever

it takes to maintain this peace. And although they

know how to effectively communicate in a calm and

open-minded manner, sometimes the issues can seem

so obsolete and frequent that it can come across

as if they aren’t satisfied in the slightest.

when in reality they are just trying to clear

up any potential discrepancies down the road.

Unfortunately this system takes away the INFJs

focus on the good in their relationships.

If you move in with an INFJ, don’t be surprised

to find out they have assigned designated areas

to put your things. INFJs are not only quite

particular about their surroundings but also

with their individualistic nature. So, when it

comes time to merge lives with a romantic partner,

They may find it difficult to adapt to the

way their partner does certain things, such

as cooking and cleaning, and may find themselves

correcting their partner to do things their way.

In fact, even the simplest things that throw off

the environment for an INFJ can cause annoyance

because INFJs have a method beyond every madness.

So, while it may not seem important to put their

tweezers in the exact spot they were found,

there's probably a reason they were there in

the first place. Not to mention, aside from the

physical aspect of living with someone, INFJs can

also be very influenced by other people’s energies

- making sharing a space all that more difficult.

If you’ve ever heard the INFJ onion analogy,

we’re here to confirm it’s truth. They say

it takes years for an INFJ to fully open up to

someone.. But do they really ever open up fully?

Not exactly. INFJs have a particularly mysterious

essence about them that never really fully gets

resolved. In fact, when someone is in a romantic

partnership with this private type, there usually

comes a point where they stop trying to figure the

INFJ out, and just accept the unknown for what it

is. Of course, with an INFJs deep morals of being

honest and truthful, they wouldn’t necessarily

lie about anything they’re involved in, nor would

they leave out crucial details about their lives..

But when it comes to emotions and thought

processes, they’re not so quick to share. This can

definitely erk some personality types.. especially

within an double INFJ relationship, where both

parties are eager to decode the other, yet both

parties are also hesitant to share information.

Well, that's it for today, psych-os. So, have

you ever been in a relationship with an INFJ?

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