The Worst Ways Every Infj Is Ridiculed For Their Authenticity explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.
Some of the best life advice is surrounding the
idea of not only being yourself, but being your
best self, and most importantly, being your
authentic self. Yet, for the INFJ personality
type, that can be much easier said than done.
they can often experience ridicule and even
humiliation when they let their social guard down.
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When discussing the INFJ personality type, words
like uniqueness and rarity just don't get to the
core of who they really are. Maybe this is because
the INFJ doesn’t really want people to know
who they are in the first place.. Or maybe it’s
because they are not exactly keen on sharing their
deeper life priorities due to subconscious fear of
ridicule. INFJ Natalia from PsychologyJunkie.com
describes this when referring to her adolescent
years by saying “I eventually stopped sharing
what was on my mind & heart because it usually
meant being ignored or ridiculed.” The INFJ’s
future ideas and current priorities are riddled
with their most precious-kept morals and values.
With independence, social nonconformity, empathy,
and deep need for energy-balancing being some of
by more traditional thinkers. Usually called
out for having their head in the clouds, or
for their fairy-tale-like romantic expectations,
if INFJs really opened up about their hopes and
dreams that come from their set priorities,
they probably wouldn’t be taken seriously.
Harmless critiquing and teasing is only as
harmless as the truth it’s rooted in. And
the INFJ knows this to be true from years of
experience. Usually being the stimuli-sensitive
one of every social scenario, this personality
type is used to being mocked for their short
social battery life and their overall reluctance
with doing anything outside the solitude of their
homes for too-long of time. As much as INFJs
try their best to never expose their discomfort
and preference for being elsewhere, sometimes it
gets to the point that it’s worth it for them to
take the ridicule in order to free up their time
and energy. In fact, being called a middle aged
granny for leaving the party early, or a woo-woo
wanna-be psychic for communicating that they feel
distracted by the negative energy in the room
are all compliments to the INFJ who understands
the reasoning behind these unique tendencies.
Number 3: Misunderstood politeness and empathy
suspiciously nice. Yet, to these perceivers,
nice isn’t exactly their first choice of wording.
In fact, in certain settings this aspect of the
INFJ’s authentic personality can come off as quite
threatening or even annoying. Using the corporate
world as an example, not only is this politeness
often overlooked or mistaken for weakness,
INFJ as a brown-noser using fake sincerity.
These types of people just can’t fathom the fact
that there are others who genuinely care without
expecting anything in return. In a relationship
setting this is no different. For this personality
well being can certainly come across as being
flirtatious, overly friendly, or just a little too
passionate in the eyes of some people. And there’s
no doubt that can make some partners seem slightly
uncomfortable, resulting in undeserved ridicule.
When it comes to being their true selves,
the normally conflict-avoiding INFJ bears
a different kind of confidence. When they know
their decision doesn’t really affect anyone else,
the INFJ’s rebellious nature can slowly emerge.
This is especially true if it brings them
the decision to go bra-free, picking up a rather
taboo hobby, or something as simple as hanging
out with the so-called outcasts of society.. INFJs
know the ridicule they may face, but that doesn’t
stop them from communicating the subtle parts of
who they are to other people. Plus, with such a
grand grasp on just how different everyone thinks
and perceives, this introspective type knows that
for every person who mocks their uniqueness, there
is a passer-by who appreciates their confidence.
Speaking of being conflict-avoidant yet also
not being afraid to make others feel slightly
uncomfortable, INFJs don’t always hesitate
to point out the obvious. Not only do they
use their rare allowance of stirring the pot in
order to express themselves freely, but also to
put certain things in line. Whether it has to do
with secretive family matters, injustices at the
workplace, or really any type of bullying or
manipulation; if INFJs have information that
will help fight for good, they certainly won’t
hesitate sharing it with the right people. This
is true even when they know ridicule, disbelief
and mockery for their views could be inevitable.
he was able to make incredible changes that
society is still reaping the rewards from today.
However.. It’s not to say that his movement didn’t
come with serious ridicule and repercussions.
To anyone that knows the INFJ personality
this introspective type is known for seeing all
sides to every scenario. And with that, they can
sometimes come up with beliefs and ideas that
counter other beliefs and ideas they have. Yet,
in their minds, these perceived contradictions
are not contradictions at all. This however,
doesn’t change the perceptions of those around
them, and that can call for some serious ridicule.
or perceived as an imposter of some sort,
it’s not rare for the INFJ to be (quote-on-quote)
“caught” by others who think the INFJ is going
against their previous beliefs. However, in these
times, the INFJ doesn’t fret. They only dread the
fact that they have to then explain their complex
explanation in a position of defense rather than
genuine interest. Ironically, when someone
thinks they’ve caught the INFJ, or teases
them about a specific paradox without giving them
the time to explain themselves..it’s even worse.
Like water and oxygen, INFJs wouldn’t be able
to live without a deeper meaning to life and
everything in it. Everything they do, say, think,
see, or feel, must mean something. And if they
can’t find the meaning, they won’t be around
for long. Sure, most people crave meaningful
relationships, and usually try to make meaningful
memories. But for the INFJ, this is a concept that
must be applied to every single area of their
lives in order for them to be truly at peace.
And while this comes as second nature to this
intuitive type, some people may find it a little
excessive. Some people don’t understand why
an INFJ would leave a well-paying job because
of the lack of deeper significance. Or why
they may cut off a decent connection because
of the lack of genuinity and depth behind it. A
constant need for meaning can seem unrealistic,
unattainable and even immature. And because
of that, even when someone tries to talk some
sense into them out of love, the INFJ can
politeness and deep empathy towards others,
INFJs can have difficulty placing boundaries
around the obligations they take on for others.
they can easily get taken advantage of. Yet, how
does this overstepped invisible boundary cause
the INFJ to feel ridiculed? Well.. when things
begin getting off-loaded to the INFJ because of
their easy-going nature within the workplace, or
they are becoming depended on by a close-friend,
the sheer inconsideration can feel seriously
humiliating. “Oh just give it to INFJ, they're the
only ones that can have it done by morning.” or
“I know you’re soo busy INFJ, but are you open for
kid-sitting this weekend?” Of course, INFJs are
always willing to lend a helping hand, but when
someone leaves little room for an honest reply
or they fail to acknowledge how much effort some
adopted responsibilities require, this authentic
trait can end up feeling more like a curse.
Well, that's it for today, psych-os. So how
do you remain authentic as an INFJ despite the
discussed challenges? Tell us in the comments
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