Why Are Infjs So Lonely The Rarest Personality Type explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.
INFJs are used to the feeling of being completely
Besides feeling misunderstood for most of
their lives, the INFJ personality type actually
enjoys their individualistic and independent
However, their preference of an independent
life can come with it’s repercussions, one
why the INFJ personality type typically feels
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While INFJs may be considered one of the lonliest
they don’t particularly enjoy being alone
This introverted and independent personality
type would much prefer spending time with
themselves in the peace and quiet of their
nest rather than going out and socializing
The contradicting thing about the INFJs preference
for solitude is that they also crave human
connection and actually really enjoy being
on the sidelines of social interactions to
This creates a constant push and pull of feeling
lonely, and then feeling overwhelmed by social
They may make plans with people in their lonely
phase and then feel extremely uninterested
when the time comes to actually go out and
Number 2: They never feel completely understood
Besides the fact that INFJs are the epitome
of walking paradoxes, this personality type
for an INFJ to fully understand themselves.
And since this analytical type is so fixated
on understanding other people, they can often
feel as though nobody puts the same amount
This misunderstanding isn’t just with strangers
and acquaintances, but also with the INFJs
They often feel misunderstood in romantic
relationships, friendships and family connections
which creates a type of loneliness that not
Although people may think they know the INFJ
for who they really are, most people only
know them for who they want to be seen as.
Number 3: They are hesitant to speak their
One of the main reasons the INFJ feels so
misunderstood in relationships is because
they don’t take the time or put in the trust
INFJs hate feeling vulnerable, and even when
it comes to their closest connections in life,
this personality type never wants to burden
others with their heavy emotions or scare
people with their complex insights about life
They are people pleasers at best, and the
people pleasing notion that they carry around
makes it extremely difficult to make a fuss
about something that they feel is missing
For example, they may not tell their spouse
how lonely they really feel in the connection
out of fear that it may cause an argument
or come off as being overly sensitive and
Number 4: Their intuitive nature is often
With the INFJs dominant function being their
introverted intuition, this introspective
personality type is able to easily make judgmental
calls and decisions about their lives with
little-to-no substantial reasoning behind
While this gift allows the INFJ to be warned
and guided through many of life's challenges,
it can also make the INFJ seem irrational
In fact, over 75% of the US population leads
through sensing as their dominant function,
meaning they require concrete facts and tangible
So, when an INFJ is challenged to explain
their reasoning behind their gut feeling,
other people can quickly become suspicious
and may even write an INFJ off as being too
Number 5: They can easily vanish from people’s
INFJs can and do vanish from connections if
they feel it’s what they need to be happy.
Going back to their introverted intuition,
an INFJ doesn’t necessarily need tangible
reasoning before cutting ties to a seemingly
When an INFJ relies heavily on their need
for social connection, they can be the best
communicators, but after a long streak of
heavy socializing, INFJs may suddenly decide
to retreat from the social realm until they
They may end up completely ignoring phone
calls, emails, texts and social media, and
they usually do it with an unapologetic nature.
seen as sympathetic, as it definitely can
cause friends and family to feel hurt or ignored.
They may think that the INFJ is only available
that INFJs are available when they mentally
Number 6: They have trouble keeping up with
For the same reason that INFJs can quickly
vanish from the social realm, this personality
type can easily lose touch with old connections
because of their lack of consistent communication.
Connections they’ve made through old jobs,
school, travel and other friends can quickly
fall to the sidelines of priority for the
INFJ who prefers only having a small group
For example, INFJs are not always the best
text repliers or call returners and they are
known to consistently postpone plans for the
sake of remaining comfortable in their solitude.
This definitely contributes to their loneliness
considering the world is so familiar with
staying connected through these means of communication.
Number 7: They are hesitant to attend most
weekend and watch as they take a moment to
question whether or not they want to be doing
INFJs are always too busy to hangout, when
in reality they hurry home after a long day
of work to do nothing - their favorite pastime.
Aside from being an introverted personality
type, they also have a strong preference of
what hobbies they actually enjoy over feeling
INFJs know that they will probably feel misunderstood
and unlike themselves when put into social
situations that require plenty of.. well..
They can easily put on a character to seem
as if they’re having a good time and actively
engaging in conversation, but deep down, they
rather be at home reading, writing, or binging
Most INFJs aren’t exactly the touchy-feely,
In fact, this personality type can easily
feel uncomfortable when it comes to normal
friendship behaviors like hugging and unnoticeably
Because of this, INFJs can easily come across
While simple behaviors like showing affection
can make an INFJ feel well-liked and wanted,
they have trouble reciprocating that same
excitement, resulting in others feeling like
that they may be getting on the INFJ’s nerves,
which isn’t exactly the recipe for creating
This reluctance to let loose and enjoy other’s
company sets an INFJ up on a one-track way
Some people who know an INFJ personality may
be surprised to learn that they are actually
This is because an INFJ is able to go into
social-chameleon mode when in social situations
by quickly learning and mirroring the behaviors
For example, an INFJ can come across as extremely
professional and proper when attending a business
event and then turn around and be the class-clown
when surrounded by people who value humour
Since they have a deep understanding of human
behavior and how others view them, they can
However, at the end of the day, INFJs can
feel extremely lonely knowing that nobody
really knows them for who they are when nobody
Number 10: They’re hobbies are mostly solo
Okay so if INFJs are so reluctant to spend
time with others, what could they be doing
Well, when they’re not thinking or learning,
the INFJ is perfectly comfortable enjoying
Anything from reading, playing solo sports,
spending alone time in nature, cleaning and
organizing, planning and scheduling, any form
of art, baking or cooking, and the list goes
These hobbies are not only seemingly boring
and uninteresting for the majority of the
thrill-seeking, materialistic population,
but they also don’t leave much wiggle room
This leaves the INFJ in a pickle of doing
things that they actually enjoy, and then
finding people who enjoy the same activities.
The issue is that the majority of people who
enjoy these solo-activities are just as hesitant
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