Is The Istj The Most Boring Personality Type explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.
When it comes to personality types, everyone’s
going to have their own idea of what boring
really is. But, in general, when it comes to the
“most boring personality type”, sources often
include the ISTJ. Why is this? And is it a fair
generalization? Well get ready, psychos, because
today we’re going over the top 6 reasons why most
people consider ISTJs the most boring personality
type. But before we start, have you liked and
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obvious reason ISTJs are often seen as boring is
their tendency to follow the rules. In contrast
to the cool factor of going your own way and
making your own rules, ISTJs tend to prefer
having the rules outlined for them, and once
established, they generally follow those rules.
Now, this isn’t always necessarily the case; if
the rules are too vague or make little sense,
the ISTJ will generally deem them invalid,
since rules should be clear and concrete.
They’ll also diverge from following the rules
if they can see a way to optimize them, so an
ISTJ doesn’t necessarily follow the rules just
because they’re rules, but moreso because they
act like guidelines. To an ISTJ, rules are like
the box that sand goes in. It lets them know where
the borders are, what they’re working with, and
keeping the sand where they want it. In contrast,
they see just going about things on a whim
as the equivalent of pouring a bunch of sand
into the grass. Sure, you can still move it
around, but eventually it scatters out and
your ability to manipulate it dissolves. This
perspective makes it easier to understand the
ISTJ’s reason for preferring rules, though
the fact they don’t necessarily explain this
while following the rules means they’ll likely
still be seen as the stereotypical “square.”
Tying into their preference for rules, the ISTJ
personality type also likes people to be concise
and clear with their own phrasing. For example, if
you invite an ISTJ to a party but give them casual
answers to their questions of when to arrive,
have a frustrated introvert on your hands.
The reason being that “come when you want” is
so vague that it sounds like “any time today is
fine” which could be true, or could not be. They
don’t like this uncertainty. And it goes the same
for if you ask them to “just bring something”
they don’t know if you’re talking about burgers,
napkins, or lawn chairs. This lack of concise
and clear communication makes their brains go
haywire trying to figure out what you mean, which
is why they’d rather get specific answers like
“come around 5” or “some chips and salsa would be
great” to such questions. With that being said,
this sternness and insistence on presenting
information in such a way can make them seem like
irritated librarians to other personality types,
and it’s not difficult to see why this could knock
them down a few notches on the “fun” meter.
to other personality types, the best example
of this being their famed “Mona Lisa” face.
This is when the ISTJ personality type puts on
their blank face and just sort of just stares
while taking in information. Yet, to put it
lightly, it can seem like they’re not paying
attention. Even if you know that they are, if
they don’t frequently engage you with responses,
it’s just not as enjoyable to speak with them,
as it often feels like talking to a wall.
To an ISTJ this doesn’t necessarily make sense,
because their purpose in being still is to listen
to what you’re saying. For them, that lack of a
response is proof that they’re paying attention
and not losing concentration on something else
- that your thoughts are important. So again,
the introverted aspect of the ISTJ makes them come
across differently than they intend. But the good
news is once ISTJs know about this they can make
adjustments to be more expressive while listening,
showing the interest they’re already experiencing.
Another reason ISTJs are considered boring is
because of how famous they are for taking things
at face value. This is the person that, upon
asking why they haven’t seen you in a while,
will actually believe you when you say “oh,
I was in Antarctica researching the polar
bears.” Of course, they may figure it out
after a few moments that you’re just joking,
but those seconds of confusion can make it
difficult and awkward to joke with an ISTJ
as casually as some other personality types.
Similarly, if you’re joking with others and an
ISTJ is involved in the discussion, they may take
offense to a seemingly mean-spirited joke you made
because they take it as a true passive-aggressive
dig, versus just giving someone a hard time in
good fun. This can deflate conversations even
if they’re just one part of the whole, and make
further discussion incredibly awkward, even if
they apologize for misunderstanding. And if they
remain unconvinced that their interpretation
came out of context, you may have a new enemy
for at least the rest of the night. This is a
big part of what’s led to the ISTJ’s reputation
as a “party pooper” who can ruin get-togethers
with their robot-like literal interpretations.
after a statement, which can help in your
personal engagements with ISTJ personalities,
but it doesn’t help them much when it comes
to a reputation of being fun or a humorless
So those are the reasons ISTJs tend to be
But another factor in why other personality types
often perceive them as the most boring is...
Again, flying in the face of the common “cool”
characteristics of dressing to impress or standing
out- as well as taking risks and living on the
edge -this ties back into their introverted
nature. Introverts tend to get overwhelmed
by prolonged social interaction because of
the ongoing mental stimulation. And the same
rule applies to processing physical signals.
ISTJs are so sensitive to this kind of stimulus
that they’ll be aware of that seam in their socks
all day long. They’ll evaluate the different
factors of something like riding a roller
coaster or skydiving and see only the potential
danger of it. For them, none of this logically
so it overwhelms their mental processing.
spacious clothes -they feel at ease to contemplate
the various thoughts whirling through their heads.
For them, this stability feels like a solid
launching point to imagine different ways to
improve upon a design, or optimize a process.
And so while they seem outwardly very boring,
their simple silence and the brainstorming that
goes with it can ironically lead to enhanced
Think of it this way, waterproof speakers
that you can take to the beach or a friend’s
pond were likely an optimization developed by
an ISTJ during quiet contemplation. In this way,
they may not have been the life of the party,
but they indirectly ensured that the party
could stay lively after the speakers plunk
into the water. Of course, like other ISTJ
investigation to understand - not so good
when judging a personality at face value.
their contribution to the fun, it doesn’t
make them much more fun to the rest of us
Certain personality types find comfort in
abiding by rules, or taking things literally.
But it’s the way ISTJs express both of these
characteristics that makes them come across
then you’re bound to find this combination of
behaviors boring. The ways that an ISTJ processes
information and how they express it fly in the
face of conventional “casual fun” behaviors.
Ultimately, whether you’ll find an ISTJ fun
to be around or not has a lot to do with how
flexible you are in your means of communication.
Dancing and partying and joking around on a beach
isn’t going to be a good environment for them.
But as a colleague, where you know more about
their personality and they’re more comfortable
with you, ISTJs can be that low-key kind of fun
burnt out from all the high-octane hijinx.
Well that wraps up today’s video, psych-os..
have you been deemed boring by friends or family?
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