The Infj'S Innate Struggle To Stay Present And How To Help It

The Infj'S Innate Struggle To Stay Present And How To Help It explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.

With introverted intuition as their main drive,

the INFJ personality type is known for their

challenge of staying in the present moment.

Between endless mental chatter and vivid imaginative

thought processes, the real world can seem

obsolete and uninteresting..yet, of course

it’s not possible to shut it out completely.

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Number 1: Not being naturally attuned to the

Known for their intuitive and philosophical

nature, the INFJ personality type usually

prefers to play within the facets of their

own mind rather than those of physical reality.

Because of this, and due to the fact that

they navigate through life mainly using their

introverted intuition and extroverted feeling

functions, the INFJ just isn't as internally

intune with the physical world around them

Sure, they can easily absorb outer feelings

and moods while observing with the precision

of a fine-tooth comb, but usually it’s all

for the entertainment of their inner thoughts.

It’s less of a connection to the outer world

as it is using their outer resources to fulfill

In fact, in order for them to truly connect

their minds to reality the INFJ requires hands-on,

This means, in normal everyday-scenarios,

INFJs may find themselves tripping over their

own feet, forgetting to eat a meal, placing

things in the wrong places, or zoning out

This is because when nothing is directly demanding

of the INFJ within the real world, the busyness

of their inner minds will naturally take over

In fact, if this disconnect between reality

and mental/emotional status isn’t recognized

in more stressful situations, it can result

in things like mindless overindulging in food

and entertainment, or the opposite such as

things like obsessively cleaning or listening

tactics in an attempt to ground themselves

Rumination is the INFJ type’s middle name..

From overthinking future decisions to reanalyzing

past scenarios, it seems that whatever the

INFJ is focused upon is never what’s happening

And while this isn’t a trait that’s unique

to the INFJ per se, mental distraction is

the biggest culprit when it comes to their

As much as there is a positive stigma around

having incredible intuitive skills, this dominant

One being that they can’t turn them on and

A great example of this would be driving..

Have you ever arrived at a destination after

driving for some time and realize that you

were actually in your head the entire time?

drove here because it certainly wasn’t me!”

This happens to the best of us, but for the

INFJ type, these types of phenomenons are

When INFJs are ‘tuning out’, it is nothing

more than their introverted intuition at play

and ironically, they aren’t usually as distracted

by the mental thoughts that others can relate

They can be in the middle of a work meeting

and begin mentally questioning how they got

to this point in life in the first place and

whether or not this is what they’re meant

When boredom strikes, the INFJ can dive real

deep within their psyche while they pass the

Aside from the distractions that go on in

their own minds, INFJs are known for their

Never taking things at face value, this observant

type requires deeper knowledge and understanding

And while this definitely gives them the advantage

of seeing things from a very unique perspective,

this constant analysis can definitely suck

the beauty out of the things that should just

Using socializing as an example, instead of

enjoying themselves at a gathering or entertainment

event, this intuitive type can sometimes be

distracted observing people’s body language,

analyzing the food and drink choices, questioning

the use of lighting and music, wondering if

In the end, this is one of the main reasons

socializing can seem like such a daunting

Now, of course, analyzing and observing is

part of being in the present moment, but overuse

of this gift can surely have its negative

Like we said, if an INFJ isn’t ruminating

about the past, then they’re probably busy

Ironically, most INFJs believe the notion

that the past and future are only illusions,

and that the present moment is all we ever

Yet, unfortunately on the other side of their

minds, the fixation on future outcomes and

possible scenarios make it difficult for them

Although most people with this personality

type can understand and appreciate the concept

An example of this would be in relationships.

While everything may seem just fine within

a connection, this idealist type may find

themselves sidetracked by the possible future

partnership, ultimately distracting them from

the positives they’re experiencing in the

Since what-ifs and less-than-ideal scenarios

are inevitable in every connection, this negative

focus only makes it more difficult for the

On the flip side, INFJs have a tendency to

over-glorify their future expectations, making

it so that the future never really lives up

to their high-strung imaginative projections.

So.. what can they do to actively stay more

Luckily, practice makes perfect - even when

To practice staying in the present moment,

this introverted type can begin willingly

taking in the details of things around them,

without allowing their analytical selves to

For an example, if an INFJ were to go for

a forest stroll, they will definitely be able

to naturally analyze the trees, sounds and

animals around them, but they may find themselves

slipping into deep questioning like “I wonder

Instead, they can tune into the sounds the

trees make when the wind blows, or the crunch

of the leaves beneath their feet - no judging

Just as presence can be improved, gratitude

is another important factor in staying grounded

Gratitude is all about appreciating the things

we have in life - something most of us fail

Since INFJs are idealists, it can be a natural

tendency to focus on and find the things their

For this reason, gratitude can act as a serious

life-changing tool for this personality type.

Luckily, anyone can practice gratitude by

doing simple things like naming 1 thing they're

grateful for everyday or making weekly gratitude

By doing this, it also acts to take the INFJ

out of their heads to experience a new-found

Ironically, the cool thing about gratitude

is that the more you focus on the things you’re

grateful for, the more the enjoyable things

your worries at the door’ like the welcoming

wags of a loving pet greeting you when you

Caring for a pet provides endless mental health

benefits, including keeping you distracted

While that’s not exactly the goal when practicing

to stay present, sensory activities like grooming,

petting, walking and cuddling your furry friend

act as powerful go-to grounding tools when

So in other words, if you feel lost in your

thoughts, try playing fetch with your pup,

grooming your tabby, or even clean your beloved

goldfish’s tank for a rewarding and focus-oriented

Yoga, meditation, exercise, dancing, writing,

instrument playing, and the list goes on..

Grounding hobbies are all around us, yet setting

the time and effort aside to complete them

For INFJ personality type in particular, these

sorts of activities work by actively pulling

their introverted intuitive heads out of the

clouds, allowing them to feel grounded and

When finding a grounding hobby of your own,

mentally and even physically consuming in

order to leave little room for it becoming

So, are you an INFJ that struggles to stay

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