The Infj'S 10 Deepest Fears In Life explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.
Are your deepest fears related to personality
type or personal experience? Do people of
like-personality types relate to the same terrors?
Well, one MBTI researcher put this question to the
test, and what they found from asking 352 INFJs
across various forums is certainly interesting..
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Enjoying a star-lit evening or spending the night
camping in the woods isn’t the type of darkness
the INFJ fears at all. In fact, these unexpectedly
personality type feel at peace. Paradoxically,
the contributing INFJs of this study claimed
they deeply feared dark spaces in their homes.
Simple things like getting up in the middle of the
night to use the washroom or be the last one to
check if the front door is locked can cause their
wandering minds to do exactly that. Questions
like “If there was a ninja ready to attack,
now would definitely be their chance.”.. Heck,
scrap the ninja narrative.. What if I heard the
front lock I just locked mysteriously unlock
as I walk away..” Dark corners, empty rooms
and even long hallways can easily be filled with
terrifying ideas from their active imaginations.
Speaking of terrifying ideas and imaginary
visions, surprisingly this isn’t the only reason
the INFJ often fears their own vivid imaginations.
With notably rich and realistic imaginative
thoughts, it’s not as if this introspective
type doesn't enjoy spending most of their
time in their own heads. Yet at the same time,
these predictive and self-convincing abilities
can get the best of them. Since they’re so used
to relying on their most dominant introverted
intuitive function - aka the visionary component
of their otherwise logical brain - things can
become difficult to process when their thoughts
become deeper than they’ve yet to understand.
This is most common during an INFJ’s childhood
and adolescence where these strongly-held and
often naive beliefs can be rather scary. During
this time, not only is the INFJ trying to find
their footing within their cognitive functions,
but also with self-esteem and self-acceptance.
With this combination, they can end up with
some seriously frightening future-projections.
type’s social battery into quick-drain mode.
Whether it’s the inability to observe so many
people at once, the fear of other people’s
intentions, a subtle sense of claustrophobia, or
even the lack of control should something happen,
crowds come with a unique stress-related fear for
this personality type. From concerts to boxing
day shopping, heck, even a busy parking lot or
neighborhood will have the INFJ on hyper-focus
mode out of fear that someone should happen to
not be paying attention. Add being responsible
for small children or pets to the mix and
the INFJ will be in full-blown panic mode..
Number 4: The evil potential humanity holds
On the topic of large crowds and the fear of other
people’s intentions, Despite how much empathy
and deep hope every INFJ holds for their fellow
humans, they are nowhere near naive to just how
ugly, dark and frightening some people and parts
of humanity can be. With a need for understanding
yet a reluctance to dive deep into anything that
they can’t emotionally come back from, the true
wicked potential of humans is one thing this
type fears enough that they don’t mind to take
the ‘ignorance is bliss’ route. However, while
they prefer to give their mental energy to the
more positive side of humanity’s capabilities and
achievements, the fear of the unknown and people’s
potential ulterior motives will always keep the
INFJ’s guard up beneath their friendly surface.
It may not resonate with everyone with the
INFJ personality type especially after years
of practice, however, most INFJs tend to agree
this is one of their weak spots. Although there's
technically no way to pinpoint as to why speaking
on the phone as opposed to in person would panic
this rather extroverted introvert, it could have
to do with the INFJ’s need to subconsciously
process a person and their expressions while
speaking. Something that is removed from the
conversation when it’s had over the phone.
One INFJ blogger from createyourownreality.co
explained their experience by saying ..“Man,
I don’t mind being on the phone to catch up with a
friend or someone I know. In that situation, I can
often be on the phone for hours without thinking
twice. Yet, every time I have to call someone I
don’t know–whether it be to make an appointment,
track down an order, or something similar–my heart
With no surprise, the loss of a loved one was
among the top fears of most personality types
‘losing someone they loved’.. According to
the MBTI study, INFJs were the only ones who
specifically mentioned a deep fear of the loss
of children as opposed to a more general sense.
While of course the act of losing anyone is
not exactly a comparable topic for that matter,
for having very strong emotional bonds with their
children, and for being very protective parents,
According to the mentioned MBTI study, the INFJ
was the personality type to mention fear of the
supernatural and paranormal far more than any
other type. Known for their belief in spiritual
and metaphysical matters, this fear may be due
to the fact that they just have a deeper belief
INFJs may not even see this as a fear but
rather a curious unknowingness that they’re
not sure if they want to be proven right on.
Since they’re not keen on holding superstitions or
beliefs with no proof, INFJs may spook themselves
by following their curious nature on supernatural
matters through researching other’s experiences.
Speaking of the supernatural, there's nothing
more hair-raising than the concept of the
afterlife spooking us earthlings for fun. While
some INFJs specifically claimed to not believe
in ghosts at all, others were convinced in,
and feared their existence quite strongly.
Within the study, most INFJs who mentioned this
specific fear had a story to go along with it,
the rather rational INFJs who technically
when it comes to love and connecting with
hidden meanings behind other people’s spoken
The most difficult part is that most of the time
this happens without them even realizing it,
mostly because this subconscious behavior
is rooted within their fear of abandonment.
This can cause them to require that constant
reassurance that they’re not misunderstanding
or misinterpreting acts of devotion. According
“These factors can cause them to have difficulty
trusting people, difficulty accepting love without
restraint or apprehension, and difficulty
feeling like they can be 100% themselves.”
In reference to this forum-based study, fear of
insanity came up far more frequently among the 4
and at-times out-of-the-norm beliefs, INFJs,
INTJs, INFPs and INTPs are most likely to look
deeply into hidden meanings and connections.
Sometimes so much so that their perspective
of life and reality becomes quite different
from the majority. Another fear factor when
it comes to their mental functions is losing
their most precious aspect of themselves.
With a heavy reliance and honest joy that comes
from spending time immersing themselves in
their own thoughts, they take the idea of losing
their marbles with a little more consideration.
Well, that's it for today, psych-os. So, what
do you think about these 10 fears? Do you relate
to them as an INFJ? Tell us in the comments
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