Why The Infj’S ‘No Contact’ Tactic Is Unbearable For Narcissists explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.
the INFJ is notorious for their ability to
go from being empathetic and caring to then
resorting to going no-contact with those who bring
toxicity into their balanced equilibrium. But,
how does it feel to be on the receiving end
of this no-contact order? More specifically,
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For the sympathetic INFJ, going full no-contact
takes a serious amount of will-power. Often
going against everything they believe in, their
intuition is usually the driving force triggering
until they finally pull the plug. However,
before they really truly let go. As a result
of this back-and-forth, push-and-pull struggle
INFJs can have when breaking things off with a
narcissist, it’s difficult for the narcissist
to really take it seriously when the INFJ has
reached their breaking point. Instead of being
thrown into a panic of finding a replacement or
realizing that they’ve lost the leverage they
once had on the INFJ, the narcissist will
this is the fiery energy most narcissists thrive
on when it comes to romantic relationships,
and most often, it’s not their first go-around
at the on-again/off-again approach. And so,
they take the INFJ’s no-contact as a challenge
INFJ’s energy by cutting off ties, deleting
numbers, and blocking social media accounts,
tactic works. Other times, they’re left waiting
until they realize they’re not coming back.
There’s truly nothing someone with narcissistic
personality disorder fears more than being
rejected and left alone. Serving as the source
to their needed undivided attention of others,
narcissists are constantly on the lookout for
someone who can provide the antidote to those
buried fears. This is where the INFJ serves their
purpose in a narcissist’s life. Being naturally
nurturing and interested in others, especially
those who wear their struggles on their sleeves,
the INFJ comes with all the prerequisites
fulfill all the narcissist’s desires. Once
the narcissist’s original feelings of lack
outside perspective. With the right amount of
attention, narcissists can actually thrive in
all areas of life. However, in reality, that
inner doubt never dissipates. And once the
INFJ has reached the point of needing to flee
this toxic connection, this fear of rejection
becomes all the more intense. Ironically,
the very fears that triggered such toxicity
within the connection are manifested, and the
narcissist is left to manage them on their own.
narcissists must have in their lives to feel
stable, it’s the continuous supply of validation
and attention from their external worlds. More
specifically, the narcissist prefers to be praised
by one specific source whom they know they can
fall back on in times of feeling depleted
of their ego-boosting fuel. Lucky for them,
and unfortunate for the INFJ, if the narcissist
is able to love-bomb this empathetic type into
a love situation, they’ll feel a sense of
validation that they’ve never experienced
elsewhere. The INFJ will take it upon themselves
to not only be available to them whenever needed,
but they will do whatever it takes to avoid
pointing out their flaws. In fact, due to their
avoidance of conflict, some INFJs find it easier
to sympathize their way through bad behavior in
order to not hold the narcissist accountable for
their actions. Once this sense of security is
pulled away through a no-contact approach, it’s
one of the first things a narcissist realizes.
Number 4: Narcissists completely lose leverage
Speaking of the natural security and stability
an INFJ has the power to bring to someone with
they’re in control. However, little do they
know that the narcissist is actually the one
using the mind-controlling tactics. Tactics
that are so clever, they seem nonexistent and
unapparent at the moment. With this sense of
control and the INFJ’s unknowing compliance,
the INFJ while convincing this empathetic
their compassionate extroverted feeling function,
narcissists can easily manipulate the INFJ to stay
in the position of providing their much-needed
supply of dopamine and reassurance. However,
once the INFJ begins to realize just how much
their gifts are being taken advantage of, it’s not
long before they know they have to door-slam the
connection. This instantaneous loss of leverage
not only sends a narcissist into desperation, but
it actually triggers a grievance. Not of the INFJ,
but rather of the power they had over such a kind
individual. Which brings us to our next point..
With the need for domination and power, most
narcissists can be met with a sense of denial
when feelings of self-submission are experienced.
With that being said, it’s one thing for them to
feel dominated by an authoritative figure, boss
or parental role.. But it’s a whole nother story
when they are feeling dominated by someone
who themselves used to dominate. In fact,
with such a passive and calm demeanor, most
narcissists could never imagine being dominated
by their INFJ spouse or friend because they
always stay right where they want them. However,
the tables turn once the INFJ reaches their
threshold for BS. With a new-found perspective,
INFJs take on an entirely different demeanor,
leaving their complacency behind as they take
they soon realize that the INFJ was holding
back a lot of their potential when it came to
self-worth and boundary-setting. Intimidating
and emotionless, the INFJ becomes a different
person when their kindness has been taken
first-hand when they experience the unbearable
intimidation that comes with the famous door slam.
Once a narcissist’s main supply of an INFJ’s
they can feel an extreme sense of panic to
find a replacement. Like an addict who is
without their drug of choice, this sense of
panic can feel unbearable, especially if they
feel like they’re starting from square one. For
the narcissist, switching between attempting to
get the INFJ back to where they had them, and
trying to essentially find and train someone
new for the role, finding the attention to ease
their deprivation can feel like a full-time job,
Luckily, for most narcissists, they come prepared
with a back up plan that they subconsciously use
as a survival mechanism to stay afloat, and
this comes in the form of family. While in a
panic to find a lucky candidate to replace
their main source, a narcissist will fill
that means putting on a show of self-pity.
worthy contender. Notorious for their use
of love-bombing, narcissists have a way of
convincing their potential partners that it’s
a match made in heaven very early on in the
connection. Unfortunately for the INFJ type, who
can hold quite the fairytale-esque view on love,
this love-bombing can completely blind-side them
to the potential red-flags their intuition picks
up along the way. Especially when the INFJ
is still in their naive years when it comes
to learning their cognitive functions and
self-worth, being showered with compliments,
attention and interest can persuade their
judgment while training them to ultimately
love-bombing stage dwindles down once the
connection solidifies, narcissists switch
their approach to self-victimization by tugging
on the INFJ’s low-hanging heart-strings. Yet,
even for the most naive INFJ, this falsely-lead
love connection can only go so far. And once they
disconnect mentally and emotionally, these tactics
become entirely ineffective. So ineffective that
narcissist with unbearable powerlessness.
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