Why People Think Infjs Are Boring Af.. explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.
From the outside looking in, it’s fair to say
that the INFJ is easily perceived as not only
being highly reserved but also slightly..
boring. Despite their elaborate imaginative
thinking and their desire for living outside
of the norm, the INFJ type isn’t seen as very
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The first reason the INFJ can be perceived as
slightly dull and mundane is that unlike other
extroverted personality types, the INFJ finds
true comfort and entertainment when they’re in
their own company. Although they can easily absorb
the energies of others, they don’t use that energy
to feel alive and fulfilled. While some people
would rather have a friend tag along while they
run their errands or go for a walk around
the neighborhood, usually INFJs are pretty
content with the idea of spending that time with
themselves. Sometimes even to the point of being
silently opposed to the thought of having to bring
someone along. Things like partying, socializing,
and meeting new people doesn’t really have the
same excitement factor to this introverted type,
despite their need for human connection. Now,
spending the evening playing smooth jazz and
sipping wine while they work on their online
business.. That’s more like it, boring or not.
Number 2: They don’t seek out constant stimuli
actually considered highly sensitive people
because of their unique function stack, they
may not always enjoy the same things a person
who’s considered ‘less boring’ may enjoy.
Sure, this gives them the ability to pick
up on the subtlest of stimuli such as sounds and
suppressed emotional states of others. However,
they don’t have these abilities without a
difficult trade off.. That trade off being that
most INFJs are easily overstimulated by the world
around them. This is a big reason why the partying
and socializing we mentioned in point number
1 is so unappealing. The same bright lights,
loud music, groups of people and different
personalities that excite the average person
can send an INFJ into full-blown sensory-overload
mode. And to be the first one to want to leave or
silently retreating because of over-stimulation,
is certainly one way to be seen as boring.
actually understand people at their level,
INFJs don’t usually have a difficult time when it
comes to getting along with other people. However,
doesn’t mean they have that enthusiastic mark
that some extroverted types can leave on people.
Rooted in their deep understanding of the
world around them, there's nothing that really
surprises the INFJ enough to spark the typical
reaction expected. Whether they’re faced with
news surrounding a new pregnancy, a spontaneous
resignation, an uncalled-for breakup, a major
life decision, or an emotional obstacle, the
INFJ always remains cool, calm, and collected..
And not just for show. Despite their unsettled
feelings towards future uncertainty, deep down,
this personality type knows that the show must
go on. They don’t want to add anymore fuel to
the fire by internally or externally overreacting,
but this can backfire when it’s good news they’re
presented with. For example, they may react
to a friend’s promotion with a simple ‘Yaay!
So exciting, I’m so happy for you.’ When really
that friend was hoping for a promotion party and
a little more of a congratulations. Are their
reactions boring? Maybe.. Genuine? Everytime.
Number 4: They rarely have materialistic interests
If it’s not apparent by the idea that INFJs
usually prefer to do things in their lonesomeness,
intoxicated socialization and overstimulation,
this philosophical type isn’t as moved by
materialistic goals. While some people find
motivation to earn money through the latest
name brand clothes, and beauty procedures,
for most INFJs, their goals are far beyond
materialism advancements. Not only does this
make the INFJ prone to accidentally disregarding
others' prize material possessions at times,
In fact, most people with the practical INFJ
personality type are considered to be quite frugal
by nature. They usually require a deeper reason
other than just image, desire and convenience to
open their wallets, especially when it comes to
large purchases, with their main question being
‘how will this purchase affect or benefit me and
others in the future’. This can make decision
making prior to spending require some serious
patience and understanding from others involved.
No social media presence!? You either live under
a rock or are most certainly an INFJ personality
type. Similar to materialism, most INFJs find
that maintaining a presence on social media isn’t
all it’s cut out to be. Of course, depending
on the generation and interests of the INFJ,
social media use may vary. However, for the
most part, due to their ability to see right
through the false narrative of life social media
platforms can paint, this personality type rather
not contribute or consume. A digital cobweb
of unattainable expectations and masquerading
illusions, INFJs don’t care to participate in
the endless game of swipes and likes. Instead,
this knowledge-thirsty type may instead indulge
in the more educational nooks of certain social
media platforms such as YouTube or Reddit. Sadly,
since many people derive a sense of identity and
validation through their online presence, this
can further make the INFJ seem boring. Plus,
considering there’s no better way to stay
connected in today’s world than through this
at-times toxic network of communication, it can
make people view the INFJ as rather oldschool,
Number 6: They are quite structured in life
There's no doubt that most INFJs are usually more
spontaneous than most people give them credit for.
However, even with the most adventurous plans,
INFJs will always find a way to structure their
enjoy it fully. As future-oriented beings,
INFJs like to predict, plan, and manifest their
ideal future. Mentally, they love the idea of
just trusting the process and going with the
flow, but deep down inside, they need to feel
some sort of control in order to eventually let
loose. But this doesn't only apply to spontaneous
adventures. In fact, INFJs like to have a grip on
just about everything they’re involved in in life.
groundedness. To some people however, this INFJ
quality can seem rather daunting and rigid.
Despite their tendency to avoid confrontation,
INFJs won’t hesitate to remove themselves from
or call someone out for moral indecency. Sure,
they enjoy their fair share of dark humor and
funny stories, but when it involves topics that
shouldn’t be humored, the INFJ’s empathic nature
quickly takes over. Disrespectful gossip, pointing
out others shortcomings, rude assumptions,
stealing, lying and cheating is where they draw
the line. And while these high morals are usually
appreciated by others, there are certainly times
that they can make the INFJ seem a little too
uptight. Even though they much prefer to let it
go, it’s as if as soon as they decide to let it
slide, they’re going against their own judgments.
Luckily, when they refuse to contribute or react
to shallow behavior, they’re already prepared
to be told to not take things so seriously.
Like a fine wine, it takes time for the INFJ
to truly warm up to people. For the most part,
people know this personality type to be quite
reserved, quiet and observant, but that’s only
until they get comfortable. When the INFJ is still
in this self-contained mode within a connection,
months, or years, and sometimes they never
crack. But one thing that’s for sure is that
when the INFJ hasn’t shed any layers to their
personality, they can seem not only boring,
but also rather bored in the other person’s
presence. When really, they’re just in their
zone of collecting and filing information
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