Why The Single Intj Rather Stay Single explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.
In a world run solely on rationality, the
INTJ’s approach to love would be considered
sometimes this logical type may overlook the
affection and connection that goes into romance,
leaving them rather oblivious. But that’s not the
only reason some INTJs prefer to stay single..
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Settling down with a partner sounds nice to
most people with this curious personality type,
but when it comes down to actually getting to
know someone to make that happen, things can be
particularly challenging. In fact, finding someone
worth getting to know is this introvert's first
challenge, and having such particular standards
doesn’t always help their chances. And so,
to put it simply, the whole idea of romance can
just seem too overwhelming for the sensible INTJ.
Most particularly after a failed attempt or
two, INTJs may be interrupted by their logic
questioning if it’s worth all the time and effort
they were originally ready to put in. Luckily,
they usually remain open-minded, should something
(or in this case someone) cross their path.
Number 2: Long term connections seem to get boring
Okay, let’s just start by saying all romantic
connections have their moments of adventure
and stagnancy. But in this case, when it comes to
long term commitments and connections in relation
to the INTJ, things can get a little iffy. In
fact, some INTJs report being in a relationship
for a few years and still not feeling 100%
sure about the long term aspect of things.
the forefront of most of their decisions,
INTJs will notice stagnancy sooner than most
types. It’s not necessarily that they get bored
of their partner, but they can easily get bored of
just being in a relationship for the heck of it.
If they feel like they’re being held back from
executing their elaborate plans for success,
ready. Which bring is to our next point..
Number 3: They don’t want to feel obligated
dating game just for the sake of it being the
next step society is expecting them to take.
While it may seem like the logical thing to do if
you’re looking to settle down and start a family,
INTJs have logic of their own that goes against
these societal structures. But for the INTJ who
has numerous goals and plans of their own, they
ultimately strive to do things their own way, and
that includes finding someone when THEY feel
it’s the time. In fact, INTJs can see the flaws
and incompatibilities within their friends and
family’s relationships more than others. They
absorb these understandings to the point that
when it comes to weighing out their pros and
cons of stepping into the dating realm, the latter
sounds much more appealing, objectively of course.
Some INTJs are fully open to finding someone,
but simply feel overwhelmed by the idea of it.
Like we just said, this analytical type can
easily see the discrepancies in other romantic
relationships. In turn, they use this knowledge
to decipher what they want and don’t want when in
their own romantic connections. However, this
only encourages the logical aspect of things,
people with awesome partner-potential simply
because they didn’t match a logical criteria.
Approaching love with rational thinking can
certainly pay off in certain aspects of things,
the fact that love is inherently imperfect
or that it requires building and mistake-making
in order for a genuine connection to flourish.
Most INTJs know it about themselves or have
at least heard it from a past partner.. Their
demeanor can seem rather aloof, disinterested
and insensitive at times. And with that usually
comes a lot of criticisms and expectations for
improvement from their partners who crave the more
love-dovey aspects of romance. Besides the fact
that INTJs are more intune with using rationality
over feelings and emotions, they personally
have another take on this lack of affection.
isolated from others that, even though I loved her
with my whole heart, my heart wasn't very big. It
took me the entire 4 years of our relationship to
build up what I consider "normal" human emotions.”
Number 6: They’re much happier with friendships
INTJs are awesome friends. With little-to-no
easily get along with others, preferring to keep
a smaller group of like-minded people around.
In fact, because of their introverted and
seemingly reserved nature, some would think that
INTJs would be rather antisocial. However, nothing
excites an INTJ more than finding someone that
thinks similarly to them, whom they can bounce
their most elaborate ideas off of. It becomes much
easier to get along with people knowing there
are no strings attached. So, when an INTJ is
content with their small group of intellectual
equals, it can be difficult to imagine giving
up their limited free time for a romantic
connection. Ironically, in most cases, INTJs
will end up in the happiest relationships with
the person they first befriended for some time.
Number 7: They’re too focused on their career
If there’s one personality type that would
happily prioritize work over love, it would
be the single INTJ. Besides the fact that they
fully invest themselves into their performance,
INTJs get a sense of fulfillment from using their
problem-solving and perfectionism strengths.
However, most people with this type believe if you
want something done right, you’d better do it by
yourself.. And so they’re mostly often drawn
to lone-wolf career positions that allow them
to make the most of their creativity without
having to explain themselves along the way.
And that includes having to explain themselves to
a partner who may want a different direction in
life. Rooted in their passion and determination,
some INTJs are on a one-way-track to success,
nothing but another possible distraction.
Number 8: They don’t know how to be a partner
when they’ve had the time to properly research the
topic. However, when it comes to romance, there is
only so much research you can do before you have
to just go out and experience it for yourself.
Like most life-lessons, you need to do the nitty
gritty work in order for people to learn a lesson.
Sure, this observing type may be able to get
an idea through analyzing others and watching
had a failed attempt or 2 at love, or they’re
just stepping out into the world or romance,
the ambitious INTJ can become quite hesitant
if they don’t feel confident with what they
bring to the table. And ultimately, INTJs know
romance isn’t necessarily their strong suit.
Unlike their INFJ-feeler counterpart, INTJs don’t
see romantic partnerships as anything like the
fairytale books. Some INTJs may just simply
conclude that romance isn’t worth the logical
aspects of it like the time and effort needed to
make it successful. They know they underestimate
the challenges that come with a partnership,
and they’re not exactly willing to find out
for themselves. With so many aspects to life and
options you can take, in the eyes of a young INTJ,
romance is nothing but another option you can
take. It’s not to say that their conclusion is
permanent, but sometimes INTJs don’t need any
other reason for not stepping into the dating
game other than the fact that it doesn’t seem
as fine and dandy as other’s portray it to be.
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