Why It'S So Difficult To Please An Infj The Rarest Personality Type explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.
INFJs seem to understand everyone and everything
yet when it comes to others understanding
this rare personality type is so misunderstood
that it can feel like an impossible mission to
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The intricate mind of the INFJ is both their
best friend and their enemy. Since the INFJ’s
perfectionistic ways lead them to hold themselves
and the things they do to such a high standard,
they can’t help but hold similar standards
and other connections that require a give and take
of energy. INFJs have a fantasy-like expectation
of what they’re lives are supposed to look like,
and how the people in their lives are supposed
to measure up. They have an innate idealism for
their future outcomes, including their fairytale
standard of love. While INFJs prefer to hold
high-expectation, the harsh reality is that life
is far from ideal, and the secret to a happy
life is gratitude for the things they do have,
measure up to their dream-like views of life.
Number 2: They are extremely hard on themselves
Like we mentioned, INFJs hold themselves to a
experiences, successes, and the list goes
on. Since they are highly introspective and
analytical of every move they make in life, they
tend to take on a lot of responsibility for the
they may be distracted from celebrating their
amazing grade by the few questions they got wrong,
because they knew they could’ve done better.
and achieved goals just don’t cut it for INFJ
satisfaction because they are always calculating
how they could’ve done something different, or
how they will do it differently for the future.
Number 3: They can easily overthink gestures
In reality, INFJs love to know that people are
genuinely thinking of them. However, the challenge
comes when an INFJ is uncertain whether or not
the gesture is genuine enough for them to take it
for what it is rather than ruminate on it to find
an ulterior motive. For example, if an old friend
reached out to an INFJ with a text message asking
how life is going, an INFJ may ask themselves
“What has this person heard about my life that
made them want to reach out” or “I bet they don’t
really care about what’s happening in my life,
they probably just want to ask for a favour”.
While INFJs do enjoy a good connection with
someone, they can be extremely skeptical when it
comes to other people showing interest in them
time trying to please or flatter an INFJ.
Just like they overthink kind gestures, INFJs
also find it considerably difficult to take a
compliment for what it is. Although most people
can become shy and giggidy when receiving a
compliment, INFJs and a few other introspective
personality types have a specially difficult time.
While this introverted personality type may take
a compliment that they themselves believe to be
true, most of the time, the high expectations that
INFJs hold for themselves make it difficult to
believe people when a complaint arises. In fact,
if an INFJ feels considerably unconfident in their
looks at work one day, and a coworker compliments
them on their appearance, they may automatically
resort to firstly, thinking that their coworker
is being considerably ingenuine, and secondly,
questioning why their coworker would say such a
thing when they know their not looking up to par.
re-organizing their junk drawer, or redesigning
their office space - don’t be surprised if the
INFJ seems slightly displeased by the results.
Not only do INFJs have a certain working order
of how they like to organize their things, but you
can bet that how they’ve organized their things
is exactly how they want them. They’re strategic
in their organization, and although things may
seem chaotic at times for people on the outside
looking in, they must know that INFJs have a
method to their madness. This means, although
it may be out of the kindness of the heart,
a simple makeover or reorganization could
Sure, a nice spontaneous camping trip into the
calmness of the woods could please an INFJ,
providing they know who is coming. But when it
comes to surprise parties, unexpected social
events, or even the act of bringing someone new
along to a close-knit get together can send an
INFJ into full panic mode. While this may be
an act to encourage the INFJ to live a little,
and step outside their comfort zone, an INFJ
would be too distracted by uncertainty and mental
preparing to appreciate the gesture for what it
is. Not to mention, INFJs know that others don’t
require the same amount of mental preparation
for changes in plans and surprises. So, while
they’re busy feeling all of these emotions on the
inside, they may seem ungrateful or uninterested
on the outside because they can’t properly
explain themselves to people who can’t relate.
Gift an INFJ an expensive purse and watch as
they cringe behind their smile of gratitude
other ways they could’ve used that money.
INFJs march to the beat of their own drums and
usually aren’t interested in following the fashion
trends or living the most extravagant lifestyle.
While this may make them seem unemotional in the
act of receiving gifts and valuable things, in
the end, all an INFJ really wants from the people
closest to them is a deep connection in which
they can share their confusing reality with.
They’re much deeper than material things,
and they understand the temporary happiness
that objects provide. Instead, a thoughtful
INFJ gift would be a bouquet of self-picked
Number 8: They are distracted by future outcomes
INFJs have difficulty staying grounded in the here
and now because they are so often distracted by
their inner worlds. The INFJ mind is constantly
thinking up ideal future outcomes to the choices
and experiences they have in the moment. They are
constantly questioning themselves and whether they
are making the right moves towards what they want
in life - yet most of the time they’re not even
quite sure what it is they want. For example,
if an INFJ got a promotion at work, instead of
celebrating their pay raise and additional
benefits, they may be thinking “Do I really
want to be in the career for that much longer” or
“Is this really where I want to see myself in a
year from now”. In other words, INFJs can ruin
the celebratory moments in life by looking too
far ahead into the unknown, which makes it very
difficult to feel satisfied in any area of life .
The INFJ is deep.. Deep thinkers, deep analysis,
deep questioners, and always on the search for
a deeper meaning to the world around them. Just
as an INFJ searches for a deeper meaning behind
compliments and gestures, they’re also on
an inner mission to find the deeper meaning
and purpose for their lives. Although these
answers ultimately come through life experiences,
throughout life because of this neverending
hunt for true meaning. While others may think
they can fill that void by bringing romance,
INFJ, ultimately they need to come to the
hesitant to open up about their own wants
and needs in fear of burdening others, seeming
weirder than they already seem, or feeling
even further misunderstood. For example, if
an INFJ is in a seemingly healthy relationship
where they are spoiled with gifts and grand
gestures, yet all they really want is a raw
and real intimate connection, they will only
stay dissatisfied for as long as they don’t
communicate their needs. Plus, since the highly
empathetic INFJ avoids conflict at all costs,
jobs in fear that they may be putting someone
else down by making them feel inadequate - when
in reality, communication is the key to communal
happiness for both the INFJ and their connections.
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