The Infjs Most Annoying Traits To Others

The Infjs Most Annoying Traits To Others explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.

With the reputation of being empathetic, reserved

and imaginative, it can be surprising to come

to know that the INFJ actually annoys certain

people with some of their innate traits and

In fact, if it’s not just 1 or 2 of their

rather a complete list of habits that have

the potential to push other people’s buttons.

So.. what makes the INFJ so maddening to some?

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Number 1: Their obvious paradoxical nature

The first and most obvious trait that comes

to mind from an INFJ themselves is the fact

this personality type is extremely paradoxical

With a balanced combination of both logic

and emotion, it’s within their very cognitive

makeup that causes the INFJ to be so confusing

However, known as the walking paradox of the

MBTI, it’s not only within their cognitive

functions that this personality type showcases

In fact there are multiple ways in which their

conflicting habits can really rub people the

One prime example is in the way the INFJ craves

human connection from others, while simultaneously

remaining hesitant and closed off to new connections.

Or, another example would be in the way the

INFJ is both extremely conservative and respectful,

yet at times, unleashes an obvious rebellious

They often see both sides to every argument,

causing them to sometimes play devil’s advocate

or simultaneously play the victim and the

Number 2: Their indestructible independence

Another notorious INFJ trait that can come

off as slightly annoying to some people has

Sure, the ability to be independent comes

with its positives, especially for the INFJ

who requires an ample of alone time to rest

However, there’s a few scenarios where this

independence actually hinders their connections

One key scenario would be when it comes to

INFJs are always on a mission to prove their

So much so, that despite being completely

overwhelmed by the responsibilities they’ve

taken on, the INFJ will stubbornly refuse

help from their fellow co-workers or loved

doubt that others will do as good of a job

to burden others with their needs, not allowing

people in to assist can actually come off

And while this alone can be extremely annoying

at times, this independence actually makes

it much more difficult for others to build

a solid and trustworthy connection to the

Number 3: Their secrecy and private nature

INFJs are known to be the advocate or ‘counselor’

Due to their desire to dig deep into other

type is often too busy prying open the brain’s

of others to ever find the necessity in opening

They love playing armchair psychologists by

asking certain questions and pushing the right

buttons in order to figure someone out, all

while remaining completely mysterious and

And while this approach to getting to know

someone can actually be quite effective, as

they slowly learn to trust another in order

to feel comfortable enough to open up, it

can come off a little condescending and nosey

However, the true annoyance to this traits

has less to do with the way they pry, as it

does in the way they don’t reciprocate their

It’s not uncommon for others to walk away

from a conversation with an INFJ feeling as

Number 4: Their struggle to express their

Speaking of the mysterious INFJ’s reluctance

to open up to others, let’s just say..it’s

of this philosophical personality type works

that makes it extremely challenging for them

to form their complex thoughts into words.

Through introverted intuition and introverted

thinking, it takes a lot for them to formulate

the right analogies, explanations and examples

And so, this verbal disconnect inevitably

“I can’t really explain(s)” and “neverminds”.

Sure, this can become annoying for people

who are attempting to understand the INFJ

beyond their surface facade, but it’s even

more annoying for the INFJ who at-times desperately

wants to clarify and breakdown their intricate

The worst is when it comes to trying to communicate

within romantic relationships and friendships,

as their extroverted feeling function can

make it even more difficult for them to express

Number 5: The way they prove to know things

Despite their difficulty with explaining their

conclusions and insights, there’s a subtle

know-it-all energy that comes with the INFJ

They don’t mind sharing their opposing opinions

in order to expand their own understanding

through that, they can often challenge other’s

In fact, sometimes they don’t have to say

anything and still come across as the wise-guy.

Being the reserved type they are, they often

take a backseat in most group-conversational

dynamics resulting in a completely tuned-in

observational stance that can make them seem

However, when the INFJ does open their mouths

in this type of setting, it’s only because

they are absolutely sure of what they have

Although they may not be able to explain their

side fully, the carefully-chosen conclusions

they do share ultimately are proven to be

Number 6: The way they assume they know people

An inevitable result that comes from the INFJ’s

need to understand their human mind and all

the way it differs from person to person is

that the INFJ actually does hold quite a bit

Without sounding biased, INFJs do actually

understand human nature, behaviors and motives

much more than the average person simply due

However, because of this understanding, it’s

not uncommon for this personality type to

make certain assumptions of people they barely

know due to the patterns they observe and

Although these assumptions are most often

kept to themselves, they do at-times verbally

communicate their suspicions to others if

have a bad feeling about their new partner,

or they right-off letting someone in before

even really getting to know them, this subtle

presumptuous behavior can be extremely annoying,

even if their assumptions turn out to be true.

Number 7: Their idealism and perfectionism

Annoying for both themselves and the people

around them, the INFJ’s idealistic outlook

on life can certainly be aggravating for everyone

Through the unattainable standards they set

for their accomplishments, as well as the

people around them, INFJs often find themselves

of that perfect partner, ideal family life,

the most fitting career, or the work they

produce, looking at everything through a perfectionistic

reach their expectations feel dull and unfulfilling.

But despite the self-critical notion that's

behind each of these affected facets of life,

the annoyance affects the people involved

Despite being the caring and understanding

personality type they are, INFJs can often

surprise those they love with how much they

And while they don’t always show their disappointments

disengaged demeanor that people can usually

tell they’re not reaching the INFJ’s expectations.

Annoying for all the right reasons, if there’s

one thing the INFJ prides themselves on it’s

the strength they unlock once they’ve reached

This empathetic personality type often has

serious difficulties when it comes to setting

While this ultimately allows them to forgive

and forget some of the most difficult actions,

it can also result in them being walked over

This is when the INFJ shuts down and cuts

It may take a while to reach that point, but

once it’s reached, there’s no going back.

Regardless of the hurt and annoyance it causes

another individual, this personality type

will do whatever it takes to remain disengaged

with someone who has taken their kindness

So, what do you think is your most annoying

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