The Infj Must Ignore Their Own Brain (When This Happens) explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.
The mind of an INFJ is known to be one of their
most prized assets. With incredible abilities,
their imaginative thoughts and problem-solving
observations serve them in ways that others
their favor. In fact, sometimes it’s best
if they simply tell their brain to shut it!
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Oh.. the inner battle between connecting with
their outer world and staying in the comfort of
their cozy solitude. Ask any INFJ if they know
the struggle and they will tell you it’s one
they’ve dealt with since they can remember. For
this introverted personality type, it’s natural
to want to spend their spare hours with their
3 best friends: me, myself, and I. In fact,
without this crucial rest time where they detach
from their outer world and responsibilities,
this personality is simply not themselves.
Usually, their inner minds and energy levels
promptly let them know when they’re in need of
a little reboot. However, with their interest
in keeping the entire synergistic system afloat,
sometimes this inner voice tries to convince the
INFJ that solitude comes above everything else.
It tells them that socializing with friends,
trying something new or pushing past their
comfort zone by any means is just not worth
prefers to stay comfortable in their own company
to follow suit. Yet, too much of anything isn’t
healthy, and sometimes ignoring this inner voice
turns out to be the most fulfilling option.
Now, comfort and safety isn’t always the motive
of the INFJ’s inner voice. As a matter of fact,
sometimes the reasoning behind this internal
commentary is far more harsh than initially
realized. Sometimes, these thoughts are there
for no other reason than to discourage the INFJ
from achieving something they set their mind
to. Whether it be rooted in imposter syndrome,
self-doubts, the critical component of the
INFJ’s mind lurks in the background, whispering
disheartening remarks. Sometimes they're quiet and
easily ignored, other times, they take up their
entire focus, making it nearly impossible to pedal
forward. Unfortunately, the more they succumb
to these inner beliefs, the louder they grow;
and this is what makes ignoring them so crucial.
Sometimes all it takes is the leap forward despite
their mind, in order to prove to themselves just
how little power these thoughts have over them.
Sure, the INFJ’s harsh inner critic is usually
the one to talk them out of a dreamed endeavor,
but that’s not always the case. In fact, sometimes
it’s the same critical voice that also tells them
they need to push further, make things better,
and aim for higher than their soul is asking them
to. Ironically, in some ways, this disapproving
commentary serves as the INFJ’s main motivator in
life, pushing them far past what they believed
they were capable of. These are the times when
listening to their minds serves them in a positive
manner. On the other side of the spectrum,
however, the INFJ will find this inner voice
to be the thing that pushes them to burnout and
negative self-talk. Depending on where the INFJ
is at in life, their inner minds can convince
them that they should be much further than they
are. These thoughts consist of self-comparisons,
past goals that weren’t quite reached, and an
unsteady eagerness to succeed. It’s far from
encouraging, coming across as rather tormenting
in nature. These are the ideas the INFJ must push
to the side in order to avoid spiraling into
a self-deprecating hole of burnout and apathy.
Empathetic at heart and mind, it takes the
INFJ a long time to learn how to effectively
set boundaries around their altruism. For this
extroverted feeler type, it seems easier to
continue to pour themselves into those who need
it, despite the difficulties entailed, than to
simply keep their kindness within limits. They
have a difficult time communicating these needs
to others not only for the fear of disappointing,
but also because it would eat at their guilty mind
for far longer than they’d like to admit. In fact,
it’s not until a situation comes along where their
lack of boundaries gives them a major reality
check that shakes them to the core that they
realize just how important it is to build this
necessary skill. This is exactly when ignoring
the corresponding self-made guilt trip becomes so
necessary. Teaching themselves that detaching from
these extroverted feeler notions of guilt is a
necessary part of the process, saving their future
selves from being hurt or trying to pour from an
empty cup. Which brings us to our next point..
There comes a time in every INFJ’s life where
their over-giving and over-excursion sends them
on a fast-track to a daunting internal-loop. Known
as the Ni-Ti/ introverted intuition-introverted
thinking loop, when the INFJ is overwhelmed with
life, they can end in a subconscious state where
they focus solely on their introverted functions,
detaching from their outer world completely.
Whether it be due to a traumatic event or overall
burnout, when they retreat from the outer world
and stop interacting with people or objects around
them, they become uncharacteristically cold,
withdrawn, and prone to impulsive acts. In a
subconscious effort to shake themselves out of
this internal rut, their mind may encourage them
to lean on their inferior cognitive function,
extraverted sensing. In a normal state of mind,
interacting with this function can ground them in
a healthy way. However, in a state of depletion,
this can turn into a ‘stress grip reaction’,
impulsive, detrimental decisions. Their mind
may convince them that indulgence, recklessness,
and overlooking their long-range focus and vision
is the quick fix they need, when in reality, they
need to ignore this internal advice completely.
So, what do INFJs resort to in such a time of
mental despair and exhaustion? REST! While one
component of the INFJ’s multi-faceted mind can
lead them into a cycle of too much relaxation,
convinces them that rest is simply laziness
in disguise. It’s the thoughts that surface when
the INFJ isn’t doing something productive with
their time. It’s the inner voice that yells at
them to get up and wash the dishes when they’re
enjoying an episode of their favorite netflix
series. The voice that tells them that reading
a book doesn’t seem logical when they should
be buying groceries. It’s the voice that keeps
them up at night, running through all of the
tasks of the following day. Despite knowing
just how important rest is to their entire
system, still, this inner critic persists,
sometimes leaving the INFJ just as mentally
exhausted as before their attempt to relax.
INFJs are known for their inferior intuition
which gives them insights that others don’t have
the wits to relate to. Without these intuitive
hunches, INFJs simply wouldn't be able to analyze,
to quietly take the place of these relied-on
hunches. An intruder that the INFJ has been
tricked by many times before. This is the wolf
in sheep's clothing that comes in to convince
the INFJ to think certain things despite the
actual intuitive feelings that often accompany
such thoughts. It’s the assumptions that come as
a byproduct of the INFJ’s inner fears and beliefs,
most often involving their trust of other people.
For the INFJ, it’s the voice that convinces them
that a loved one is being unfaithful, that
a friend is being untruthful, or that a new
acquaintance has ill intentions behind their
friendly demeanor. It’s the voice that haunts
them until they dig further on a matter that
wasn’t built on the basis of truth in the first
place. It can make them closed off to those they
love, wrongfully accusatory, and can ultimately
make them feel crazy when they’re not able to
find factual evidence to their intruding hunches.
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