5 Hard Truths About The Infj Door Slam explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.
Ahh.. the notorious INFJ door slam. The seemingly
harsh action of an INFJ shutting someone out
of their lives for good may seem unfair to
some when in reality it’s used solely as an
act of self-love for an INFJ to defend their
precious energetic gifts. So, what exactly
is an INFJ door slam and what do most people
not understand about this powerful INFJ move?
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the dreaded INFJ door slam. Before we get into
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and loving INFJ is capable of such a harsh
Well.. the INFJ doesn’t use door slamming in a
malicious way, in fact, they will probably take
every measure to have the door slam played
out in the most civil way possible. Instead,
they use this powerful gesture to put a halt
on their continuous output of energy within a
negative situation or towards a negative person.
The empathic and intuitive natural abilities of
the INFJ cause them to attract all sorts of people
who could use an empathetic hand - even the ones
who technically don’t deserve it - and sometimes
this introverted personality type is too kind
to set firm boundaries when stepping in to help.
While they are usually a great judge of character,
INFJs can easily overlook the red flags they
sense from a person in order to give them the
for toxic people to weasel their way into
an INFJ connection. So, although they may not set
their boundaries from the start, sooner or later,
after a lot of inputted energy, they may feel it’s
necessary to end the connection fair and square.
Number 2: Abusive behaviour is the main culprit
While there are numerous different reasons why
an INFJ may choose to follow through with a door
slam, it all boils down to disrespect and abusive
behaviours - 2 things INFJs will never tolerate.
Besides the fact that the introspective INFJ has
their own set of morals that they hold true
to their heart, they can also sense when there
is something fishy going on within a connection.
Since they understand humans on a level to which
mistakes - the mistakes that others may not
be so understanding about - the INFJ will only cut
someone out for continuous emotional abuse towards
themselves or someone they love. Abusive behaviour
won’t cause an INFJ to run right away, because
after all, INFJs don’t really want to resort to
the dreaded door slam and may even take abusive
behaviour as a challenge to help the disturbed
individual. Yet, there always comes a time when
an INFJ knows that saying good-bye is their answer
to their own restored energy and mental health.
INFJs are sensitive, but they are also very
understanding. So, although it may seem as if
INFJs resort to door slamming to avoid having
to deal with further conflict in the heat of the
moment, that’s not quite how door slamming works.
If an INFJ resorts to door slamming someone out
of their lives, you can be sure that there were
countless attempts and efforts to rekindle the
connection or solve the issue that’s at hand. In
fact, more often than not, INFJs give the benefit
of the doubt towards a negative situation
so by the time the door slam rolls around, an INFJ
has usually detached themselves from the emotion
of cutting that person off because they have so
much baggage to fuel the necessary door slam.
‘test-run’ door slams or periods of distancing
themselves from that person in order to feel the
change in energy without that person around so
that they are 100% confident in their decision.
decision to follow through with a door slam,
already been through the emotional ups and
downs of making such a decision, and there's no
going back once they’ve reached their cold and
calm door slam state. But what about rekindling a
connection that was previous door slammed? Well,
it may seem. Most INFJs tend to hold onto
anger and resentment long after someone has
apologized for the sole reason that they can
take it really hard when someone they trust has
let them down. Luckily, aside from that fact,
overall INFJs are very forgiving and understanding
people and if down the road, the shut out person
appears to have changed for the better, an INFJ
won’t hesitate to give someone a second chance.
While it’s not the most efficient system, as
it can definitely open the door for emotional
manipulators to love-bomb their way back into
an INFJs life, it all comes from a place of
rekindled connection will come with a hefty set
of boundaries and skepticism, maybe even causing
an INFJ to keep this person at a healthy distance
to avoid regaining the closeness they once had.
an INFJ can take the situation personally.
attempts at saving the relationship before
finding the courage to really follow through.
In fact, the process leading up to a door
INFJ to mentally configure whether or not they
should be pouring more energy into the situation,
or completely pulling every ounce of their effort
out of it. The breaking point is usually when
an INFJ realizes that if they don’t remove this
person completely, they may be too upset to let
go of them in the future - and this decision does
not come lightly. INFJs want to believe in people
but even the strongest individuals can only take
so much pain, eventually leading them to their
last and only option of letting go of the source
that is causing all of their pain and misery.
Well, that’s it for today PSYCH-Os.. So, have
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