How The Contradictory Infj Personality Is Both Uptight & Easy Going explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.
The walking contradiction INFJ personality
type is considered both kind yet blunt, reserved
yet social, but more specifically, every INFJ
holds the opposing demeanor of being both
easy going and seemingly uptight in some ways.
Of course, they don’t intentionally project
these opposing qualities, and luckily most
people are completely oblivious to these countered
But how is it that they can in fact be both?
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Number 1: The clash between their inner and
The first and most obvious reason the contradictory
INFJ is able to be both uptight and seemingly
easy-going is the difference between their
at-times chaotic inner world and their harmonious
With introverted intuition as their most dominant
function, INFJs are naturally equipped with
an elaborate inner world, one of constant
problem solving, future-projecting, and observation.
However, it’s not always easy experiencing
such an influx of inner thoughts, and since
there is no escape or off button, these thoughts
In comparison to their outer world in which
for the most part, INFJs are able to keep
cool, calm and collected, their inner conversations
and worries can feel quite controlling and
In fact, some INFJs even claim feeling too
controlled by their inner thoughts, leaving
little room for the spontaneity that life
Of course, this isn’t always apparent from
the outside looking in, but if someone sticks
around long enough for an INFJ to feel fully
comfortable around them, they’ll begin to
see the inner chaos and structure that goes
Number 2: Their uptight demeanor only becomes
They say you never really know the INFJ fully
And that takes a considerable amount of time,
vulnerability and trust in order to get there.
So.. what exactly does the INFJ have to hide?
Are they really as passive and peaceful as
they seem when they’re in the real world?
INFJs have a hidden side to them, a seemingly
darker side, and it all stems from this inner
Now, it’s not to say that INFJs are consciously
putting on a front when in the general public,
own minds, and the company of their closest
And in doing so, their deeper thoughts and
Feelings of being overwhelmed, overworked,
and uncertain are very real for this personality
type, and only a few lucky ones get to witness
So, while they’re able to actively tailor
their vibes and emotions to best match whoever
they’re surrounded by, as soon as they’re
able to be themselves, it’s as if the thoughts
they’ve subconsciously concealed are projected
Their inner complaints and judgements become
apparent, and their so-called breezy demeanor
Number 3: They don’t force influence, but
Depending on who the INFJ is dealing with,
sometimes it doesn't take a close relationship
for people to see their uptight and stubborn
This is because while INFJs love to inspire
others to be the best versions of themselves,
they rarely push their values and ideas on
others due to the understanding that what
works for them may not work for everyone.
They try to work with people on their level,
and even then, if someone isn’t interested
in their personal opinion they have no problem
So, in this sense, the INFJ personality type
can seem rather easy-going and non-judgmental.
However, if someone tries to push their views
upon the INFJ with complete disregard as to
how their views clash with the INFJs precious
morals..they’ll see a side to this personality
In fact, there's nothing that urks an INFJ
more than close-minded people telling them
that the way they view things is inherently
And it can be even more frustrating because
most of the time, this introspective type
doesn't even have the words to describe their
individual, they may become noticeably uneasy
Using short remarks and facial expressions
that show their discomfort in hopes that these
unwilling to participate in an opposing narrative.
Number 4: They’re calm when certain things
Organization, predictable outcomes and stable
surroundings are just a few of the things
that most INFJs need to feel properly balanced
However, if these things are jeopardized,
as they so often are with the unforeseeable
aspects of life, this otherwise calm and centered
Sure, everyone goes through times when they
feel like life has it out for them, but for
the highly sensitive INFJ, it doesn’t necessarily
need to reach this point for them to feel
Sometimes they can get overwhelmed and uptight
over the smallest things, and it’s usually
mental energy, but it can also happen in times
bombarded when they know they need a recharge,
INFJs have no choice but to control their
environment to avoid mentally blowing a gasket.
It can seem harsh and unexpected in the moment,
but when you’re constantly absorbing surrounding
energies, solving countless problems, and
being the go-to person for other people’s
mental sake, taking control can be the healthiest
In other words, INFJs wouldn’t be able to
be their easy-going selves if they didn’t
Number 5: They can easily be the calm to the
Sometimes, an INFJs calm demeanor is all an
Sometimes they don’t want to seem bothered
because they don’t want others to have that
bothered in order to bring a sense of calmness
Usually, INFJs aren’t affected by certain
information and situations as others may be
because of their sense of deep understanding..
And this is one of the main reasons people
feel so drawn to the wise energy of the INFJ
However, there comes a time in every INFJs
life where they are in fact completely thrown
off by life's unexpected twists and turns,
yet they act unbothered because that’s what
they’re used to, and that’s what’s expected
even have a chance..so they act as that anchor
to avoid any further chaotic feelings that
But aside from that, sometimes it just takes
a little longer for the INFJ to really process
They use their autopilot lack of reaction
and empathy to weather the storm in the moment,
only to feel deeply disturbed by what has
Number 6: They don’t communicate their boundaries
INFJs can easily let things go for the sake
They choose to be unbothered because sometimes
So, they come off as mellow and placid to
others, even though they know they’re not
completely accepting of the issue at hand.
Yet, in spite of this natural tendency, sometimes
avoiding communication in a particular manner
only ends up wreaking havoc in the future.
This habit is mostly pertaining to their relationships
and obligations such as work and parenting.
Overtime, INFJs may maintain that harmony
they long for on the surface, but on the inside
their uncommunicated boundaries become the
end-all-be-all, leaving them with no choice
but to communicate every disappointment they’ve
buried all at once, much to the surprise of
For example, an INFJ may passively or jokingly
express their bothersome feelings to their
romantic partner only to remain confused as
to why their partner isn’t making any changes..
Eventually they’ll find themselves feeling
seriously uptight and on-edge about these
minor inconveniences, projecting an out-of-character
energy that they were trying to avoid all
Number 7: They become a little more easy-going
Like most people experience, there are times
in life where you need to be a little more
controlling, and then there's times when you
can kick your feet back and let things flow.
For the INFJ, the flow they long for usually
Life and future-planning is taken very seriously
They want to know their purpose, who they’re
be with, and how to avoid the unavoidable.
the right track in life, and this can pose
some seriously uptight viewpoints and self
But, as life goes on, INFJs learn to sit back
idea that life isn’t meant to be thoroughly
planned, and they don’t have to be so fixated
Older INFJs allow themselves to be a little
more playful with less expectations..and that’s
when their easy-going, harmonious outer world
becomes intune with their inner world, something
So, if you’re an INFJ yourself, would you
consider yourself more uptight than easy-going
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