Why Infjs Aren'T As 'People Pleasing' As They Seem explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.
The empathetic and helpful INFJ is often deemed
as the people pleasing personality type..and
They take on more than they desire, they’ll
asked, and they tend to over-give within their
Yet, are INFJs as endearing and sensitive
Well.. not exactly, and today we’re going
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Number 1: They’re just obeying the law of
INFJs know first hand, the importance of putting
good ‘juju’ into the world.. and the negative
effects that could take place when you don’t.
Rooted in their overly observant and at-times
nosey curiosity and care for others, INFJs
slowly build a repertoire of situational proof
And since they learn through observing others,
most people with this intuitive personality
type learn from an early age that it’s better
to obey this powerful universal law, than
Of course, because of their unshakable empathy,
However, INFJs tend to go over and above for
people in hopes that somewhere down the line
it will be paid forward to others, and eventually
However, it’s not uncommon for them to get
fed up with this wishful thinking, especially
when it comes to close connections that fail
Number 2: Their independence saves them from
INFJs are, overall, slightly more ‘people
pleasing’ than some other personality types.
Known as the advocate type, INFJs are naturally
sensitive to other people’s difficulties.
This sensitivity paired with unique creativity
when it comes to problem-solving and critical
thinking, they have a natural gift for effectively
Luckily however, due to their independent
and free-spirited nature, they rarely allow
their need for serving others to stand in
In fact, if it weren’t for their necessities
for solitude and living life on their own
terms, they would probably dedicate their
entire life to lifting other people and accepting
tasks or challenges that they prefer not to.
Number 3: They please for their own benefit
Some say living through kindness in a world
of competition and ego can get you walked
And the INFJ knows that at times, this is
Yet, because of their innate need to help
others, they actually end up (quote on quote)
shift at work, or cancel their plans to look
after their friend’s children just for the
Instead, because of their extroverted feeling
function that allows them to truly experience
the appreciation and recognition that comes
with these one-off thoughtful gestures, the
worries is enough to satisfy this craving
for acknowledgement, yet that’s not always
And when someone fails to express the simple
act of recognition for their efforts, they
Number 4: Their efforts are given in an ‘innocent
So, what happens when a friend accidentally
fails to give a genuine appreciative word
Is the INFJ weary of ever accepting another
In fact, the INFJ is one of the personality
types known for giving too many second chances,
and this is no different when it comes to
on for help, it’s usually because someone
else feels over-burdened or overwhelmed with
all that is being thrown at them by life.
However, this is not to say the INFJ isn’t
taking mental notes in terms of which connections
they feel appreciated in and which connections
Once they conclude that they’re being taken
advantage of in one way or another, all perceived
people-pleasing behaviors will be immediately
While they may not come out and say it, slowly,
but surely, they’ll make it apparent that
life is just too busy for them to be handing
out unappreciated efforts to those who don’t
They’ll make half-believable petty excuses
in hopes that their disinterest in helping
Sure, INFJs will take on more than they necessarily
With a smile and a laxed attitude, anything
thrown an INFJ’s way will be done without
However, just because they make it easy for
other people to rely on them, doesn’t mean
they’re not internally screaming when they
accept a task they really rather not take
Especially in young adulthood, INFJs aren’t
equipped with the confidence and internal
strength to stand up for themselves as they
Poor self-esteem is said to be the main reason
behind people pleasing behavior, however,
for the INFJ it’s not always about external
INFJs rather prevent the possible conflict
of challenging someone who needs a hand by
saying how much of a hassle it really is for
And so, they accept, take note, and complain
Number 6: They don’t mind accepting fault
One amazing quality of the INFJ personality
type is that they would never push necessary
blame onto another if it was their doing.
Even if a mistake was made through an accumulative
effort, their self-reflection tendencies cause
them to deeply analyze where their short-comings
are apparent and how they could’ve probably
For example, if an INFJ was in charge of ordering
catering for their workplace meeting, and
they were told that due to allergies, 3 people
require a gluten-free alternative, the INFJ
would make it a point to mention the importance
Yet, when the food arrived the following day,
and there was no gluten-free alternative provided,
the INFJ would first think to themselves “I
wasn’t clear enough on the requirements”.
Despite them mentioning it over the phone,
they can’t help but to wonder if they were
to double-check before picking the order up,
Some may say this is people-pleasing behavior
due to them taking the pressure off of the
restaurant, when in reality, it's up to the
INFJ to fix it and learn their lesson, so
Number 7: They let things slide because they’re
Another key indicator of a people-pleaser
is that they tend to struggle determining
how they feel towards emotionally negative
Due to putting their own needs on the back-burner
time and time again, it becomes harder to
acknowledge whether or not something someone
However, when it comes to the INFJ who, because
of their extroverted feeling functions, is
already considered quite distant from their
own emotions, this people-pleasing trait is
Similar to giving too many second chances,
INFJs are always giving people the benefit
mean it” or “I’m sure they have a logical
explanation behind their actions” may seem
like they’re disregarding their own feelings
an emotional conclusion before they sort out
Number 8: They can’t help but to play devil’s
One key behavior of a notably people-pleasing
person is being quick to agree with others,
even if they believe the opposite to be true.
For the INFJ, this act seems relatable to
some degree, yet it’s not for the reasons
not uncommon for some of these opinions to
Due to their deep analyses and open-minded
nature, they can see things from all angles,
and can easily accept 2 competing beliefs
This alone can be unfathomable and even unbelievable
to some people who require a solid one-sided
foundation to feel at ease with certain topics.
Yet, because of this open-ended approach to
most concepts, most of the time INFJs agree
with others because they can see exactly how
They can agree with something that is in total
opposition to their previous belief with confidence,
and it has very little to do with the people-pleasing
behavior people probably write it off to be.
So, as an INFJ, do you think people write
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