8 Honest Reasons Infjs Attract The 'Broken' explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.
The advocate, the counselor. The mediator, the
protector.. whatever you want to call the INFJ,
it’s quite obvious that they have a natural
Whether it’s in their close relationships,
INFJs will jump to the rescue no matter how
sticky the situation gets. Yet, why is it that
we’re going to be talking about why the INFJ
actually attracts the so-called ‘broken’ people
into their lives. Before we get into it, we’d
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Number 1: They’re naturally wired to help others
In fact, sometimes it feels like they don’t
have a choice in times when it would probably
be in their best interest to step away from
the situation. This is not only a tendency
With ‘introverted intuition’ allowing them
their secondary function ‘extroverted feeling’
moods and feeling of others. This combination of
functions naturally gives the INFJ the ability to
form deep insights into people's situations making
it extremely difficult to walk away, even in toxic
situations. It also gives the INFJ the title of
being one of the more extroverted introverts.
Extroverted feeling not only makes it so that
INFJs can truly sense the feelings of others, but
this empath type actually absorbs those feelings
as their own. In fact, since INFJs have difficulty
actually feeling their own feelings it makes
having the ability to sense the emotions of others
a little dangerous. Sometimes this personality
type can’t differentiate which feelings are
really theirs or not, and so it feels at times
like in order to help themselves they need to
help the person whose feelings they’re feeling.
Not only does this make their empathetic gifts
feel seriously overwhelming at times, it’s as if
it energetically draws in people who most need
the help. Unfortunately sometimes this is where
people with attention-seeking behavior feel they
can get their fill, leading to unhealthy dynamics.
Number 3: They actually enjoy being co-depended on
Speaking of co-dependent dynamics, codependency
is defined as a circular relationship in which one
person needs the other person, who in turn, needs
to be needed. INFJs need to be needed. No matter
how independent they may be, they don’t quite
feel satisfaction from many other things in life
aside from helping others. And so, being depended
on by someone who needs or wants the support
reward in life. It’s as if they need to be
of service to someone in order to feel good and
so being dependent gives a sense of satisfaction.
maintain boundaries in these relationships,
Later in life INFJs begin to turn that need to
give to others and apply it to their own needs,
no longer feeling tied to solving others problems
as a means of feeling better about themselves.
Number 4: They need an outlet for their insights
It’s only when you get into a deep conversation
with the INFJ personality type that you begin
to see the deep insights and philosophical views
about life. And if people were more open to it,
providing different perspectives that allow the
individual to better understand their situation.
With the underlying belief that everything
happens for a reason, the INFJ can instantly
think of metaphors, examples, and past experiences
that allow for people to really resonate with
their advice and insights. Plus, being let in on
someone’s issues provides lessons that you can’t
find in books or movies, the real life lessons
that INFJs love collecting for future reference.
Number 5: They can easily fall for love bombing
This is when INFJs get tangled in connections
where they believe they’ve finally met someone
that can care for them the way they feel they
care for others, and that maybe for once they
can feel like the give and take is equal. It’s
like they for once feel the affection, adoration,
and attention they may not be getting elsewhere.
When INFJs seek the ultimate relationship,
deserve — a person who respects and honors them
as they are. Of course, it’s not every time an
INFJ finally feels like they found someone
truly giving that it’s too good to be true,
Despite being stubborn and picky in love,
in the right scenario they can easily get
swept off their feet just like the fairytale
expectations convinced them would happen sooner or
later. Yet, before they know it, the love bombing
and stable-emotion fades and is replaced with the
same old connection that they know all to well.
Number 6: They can see the potential people have
Just as INFJs can see through fake happiness, they
can see right through the hard times someone is
going through. They can see the person underneath
the pain by putting themselves in other’s shoes.
and even the insecurity in manipulation. It’s
as if, no matter how bad the situation is,
themselves would be if they went through it.
And when you’re able to separate the human
from the pain and emotions they’re feeling,
it gets much more difficult to turn someone
away. This is especially true once an INFJ has
heard someone's story, which is ultimately
seeing someone's spirit and refusing to accept
their behaviors can also end up being a seriously
toxic self-inflicted issue that INFJs only really
see the repercussions of once they’re invested.
Number 7: They’re drawn to emotional depth
or egotistic people because of the lack of
depth that can easily bore them. When people are
living life only on the surface level of things,
And unfortunately emotionally damaged and wounded
people on the other hand usually have experienced
some deep encounters and lessons in life that
ultimately broadened their way of thinking.
quirky, or obsessive traits from their emotional
experiences, and that magnetizes the INFJ as if
they’re in an absolute trance. This is especially
true when an INFJ has come from significant
hardships themselves. In fact, sometimes INFJs
feel most comfortable with so-called emotionally
wounded people because they feel like a safe
space to possibly share their own traumas with.
nature or their deep advice, INFJs have a
natural aura about them that makes them feel
more comfortable sharing their hardships.
For example it’s not rare for a stranger to
express their life story to an INFJ in the
matter of minutes of getting to know one another
or confide in them for some deep life advice.
It’s as if INFJs set people at ease, allowing them
to feel comfortable enough to let their guard down
knowing they won’t be met with judgment. In fact,
sometimes it’s the slight socially awkward yet
caring vibe they give off that makes people
feel like they’ll be a safe space for their
emotional inner banter. And then once they’re
met with the INFJs deeply insightful advice and
metaphorical ways of thinking, it can be difficult
to peel away. Because of this, INFJs can end up
feeling personally responsible for these people’s
outcomes without even knowing them as a person.
Well PSYCH-Os, that’s it for today.. So, if
you’re an INFJ, let us know in the comments below
if you think you have a habit of attracting
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