The Infj Behind Closed Doors (Who Are They When No One Is Watching) explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.
A popular Japanese proverb says we have 3
faces, The first face, you show to the world.
The second face, you show to your close friends,
and your family. The third face, you never show
anyone. It is the truest reflection of who you
are. So.. who is the INFJ when no one is around?
What face do they not show others, and is it
really far from who they’re depicted to be?
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We get it.. It’s not the most interesting nor the
most surprising activity for an INFJ to consider
doing on their alone time, but it's absolutely
necessary, and nearly impossible to do while
people are around. INFJs are known for their
inner need of solitude, and without it, they
just aren’t the same people in the outer world.
But some people may ask, what exactly does it
mean for the INFJ to recharge? Well.. if they’re
not doing any of the 7 following activities we’re
going to discuss, they’re probably just relaxing.
Once INFJs are away from the lights, noises,
energies and overall stimulation of everyday
life, sometimes all they want to do is nothing.
Now, nothing looks a little different to every
INFJ type, but for the most part, putting on some
relaxing tunes and allowing their imagination to
take over is the ultimate stress-buster. The thing
is, INFJs can easily find happiness within
themselves, but they can't do so if they're
Once again, not exactly as exciting as we’d
hoped, but INFJs are often the most exciting
when they’re feeding off the excitement of others.
A nap to an INFJ is like a form of turbo-recharge,
even a reset at times. Not only that, but an
INFJs bed is like their ultimate safe-haven,
their comfort-nest where they feel the stress
of the day melt away almost instantly. In fact,
amongst all types, INFJs are certainly the
means to self-regulate, mostly because their
introverted intuition and empathetic nature
causes them to become emotionally and mentally
overstimulated more easily than other types.
So, while they’re not the type to unexpectedly
pass-out per se, they’ll certainly take the
opportunities to put themselves to sleep mid-day.
This is especially true if they’re expected to be
somewhere later, when they know a traditional
sit-down and zone-out recharging won’t cut it.
INFJs are perfectionistic and organized at heart,
but do they always maintain that characteristic or
is it all a front to excuse themselves from
how people would think about them if they
weren’t so put together? Well, INFJs step into a
position of maintaining order mostly when there
are multiple factors involved, for example,
a lot of people involved, possible outcomes,
and decisions to be made. This gives them the
motivation to properly maintain family life,
when an INFJ is left to their own devices, they
actually don’t care as much because they know
they’ll get around to it eventually. They
know that if no one else is depending on them,
and they don’t have to depend on someone else,
that they can take their time and won’t be judged
by the possible disarray that may come from such
a decision. Of course, an INFJ in a state of total
chaos may be a key sign of mental burnout, but
if there's no stress behind the procrastination,
it may actually be a healthy habit of not taking
everything so seriously, as they’re prone to.
Whether they’ve become drawn to a new instrument
rather wait for their alone time to be able to
really let loose and practise. Especially if
it’s something an INFJ has never done before,
sometimes they rather not have an extra set of
eyes or ears tuning into their learning space.
In fact, using an instrument as an example,
some INFJ may opt to only practice by themselves
until they’re at the level or impressing others
solely to avoid embarrassment and potential
stage-fright. When this perfectionistic type sets
out to do something, they can be extremely hard on
themselves and don’t want to share their talents
unless they’re absolutely polished. On the
flip-side, sometimes INFJs are into hobbies
and topics that they know most people wouldn’t
entirely understand. For example, they may have
found a new love for something like learning
how to hack computers or why some people become
transgender even though they’re not interested
in doing either of these things themselves.
INFJs are always wanting a deeper insight
into all things, and sometimes people can
jump to conclusions without understanding why
else they’d be so drawn to specific topics.
INFJs have a particularly serious vibe about
them, and even when they’re around their closest
people they rarely feel comfortable enough to
be as silly as they can be when they’re alone.
Whether it’s singing in the car or dancing out to
some mystical tunes, the INFJ demonstrates a side
of themselves that is only for their eyes to see.
One INFJ redditor said “You know, they say who you
really are is what you do when no one’s around..
And I can proudly say, I turn into a total dork.
I put on my music, and it gets real at that point.
I dance, I sing, I pretend I’m in a music video,
you know the deal..” It’s funny how many INFJs
actually relate to this one, and on the outside
looking in you wouldn’t have a clue. Yet, if
you try and get an INFJ to bust a move in public
they’d either have to be considerably intoxicated
or they’d be quickly running for the door. Heck,
but when it’s just them and their mirror you’d
be surprised at the production they can put on.
Number 6: They catch up on self-care activities
INFJs are self-care junkies, yet sometimes they
can get so wrapped up in the not-so-helpful ways
of getting their minds off things that they put
these much needed activities on the back burner.
While it may be tempting to plop on the couch
and binge-watch PSYCH-O videos or scroll through
social media, INFJs know they’ll always feel more
rewarded if they take a break from the information
overload and social interaction. These are
the times INFJs truly feel into themselves
and enjoy their own company. Whether it’s
something as simple as setting the tone with
a few candles and reading the novel that’s been
waiting for them or running an extra bubbly bath
in the middle of the day, INFJs will rarely regret
making a date with themselves and sticking to it.
And unless they’re feeling completely burnt
out, it’s always worth going that extra mile
in order to feel truly refreshed and rejuvenated.
Speaking of binge-watching PSYCH-O videos,
INFJs do have the habit of just wanting to
block out the world (as well as their forever
circulating inner minds) and tune into something
outside of themselves. Whether it is scrolling
through instagram, watching youtube video after
a time in life where they’re not running in
circles taking on more than they can chew,
INFJs find comfort in just not thinking at all.
Something that can take away their desire to
continually ruminate, mindless activities can
be their ultimate saving-grace. Well actually,
even when an INFJ tries to mindlessly scroll or
watch, they’re usually drawn to more educational
topics and shows that can ultimately inspire
them and spark new interests in the long run.
Well, we can’t speak for all INFJs here, but
since they are considered one of the more
mystical types it wouldn’t come as a surprise
that most INFJs have some form of spirituality
that they rather not enlighten others about.
Things like tarot and oracle cards, yoga,
praying..you name it. INFJs are definitely
not newbies to the spiritual side of life.
In fact, sometimes a simple silent walk in the
forest or solo sunbathe is enough to reacquaint
an INFJ back to their nature-loving side.
The side of themselves that they’d be too
distracted to mentally connect with should they
have company. And so, sometimes they rather not
preach about it or share this private side of
them to people that probably wouldn’t understand.
Well PSYCH-Os, that’s it for today’s video.. So,
if you’re an INFJ, let us know in the comments
below if you do all of these 8 things when
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