10 Signs You’Re An Infj With Unhealed Emotional Trauma explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.
For the INFJ, emotional wounds have a habit
and then popping back up when least expected.
With the combination of introverted intuition
and extroverted feeling, emotions can sometimes be
difficult to process, often leading to unhealed,
subconscious without the INFJ even knowing..
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Are you the type of INFJ who gets noticeably upset
over sappy rom-coms? Or maybe you lose you feel
yourself getting irritated quickly over the small
things.. Besides the fact that this rare type is
an empath at heart, these could be signs that an
INFJ could have an underlying emotional wound.
An emotional wound or unhealed emotional trauma is
described as actual damage to an emotion that was
caused by a past traumatic situation or experience
such as heart break, emotional abuse and betrayal.
Whether these emotional outbursts and intensities
are expressed on the outside or not, some INFJs
with unhealed emotional trauma experience this
battle with their emotions every single day.
The tricky thing is that both emotional wounds
and introverted intuition can cause people to
subconsciously relate to the emotions of others
and what they witness such as in movies or books.
This ultimately leaves some INFJs unsure as to
One of the most noticeable signs that you are
dealing with unresolved emotional trauma that
is popping back up from the past is that you
no longer enjoy the little things in life.
or you’ve stopped singing along to the radio. Or
maybe it’s the unexplainable feeling of simple
things like going to take a walk in the park or
talking to a neighbor becoming a complete drag.
Unhealed emotional wounds tend to suck the fun
right out of life, no matter which personality
type you have. The best way for an INFJ to know
if this is an emotional wound popping back up
is if they feel as if their life is controlling
them rather than feeling like they’re in control
of their choices. Psychological trauma will
take over the INFJ’s subconscious, becoming
so distracting that it will make it difficult to
concentrate and stay motivated in everyday tasks.
For the INFJ specifically, this can easily
become a toxic cycle of canceling plans and
ditching goals, to stay at home only to relish
in the repeating emotional wounds even more.
hard on themselves with self criticisms and
dealing with unhealed Although these wounds
as sudden feelings of self hatred and negative
self talk, they become a little more obvious.
Emotional wounds can also have extreme effects
on the specific sector in life that the emotional
wound originally spawned from. For example, if
an INFJ went through a bad breakup or divorce,
it may create a different perspective of marriage
and relationships leading them to subconsciously
put up a block to avoid getting hurt. Or,
stay stuck in the feeling of being unworthy
of a relationship out of fear. Unfortunately,
until this attitude changes, this block will
cut out any act of giving or receiving love,
which then leads to more unworthy feelings.
Number 4: You’re easily annoyed by people
Sure, the INFJ has a short social battery life
and a short attention span for small talk, but
thanks to their curious nature. However, when
past emotional wounds have yet to be dealt with,
sometimes INFJs can feel on edge with people
character. Sometimes it’s simple behaviors
they may feel more sensitive to comments or
remarks that never seemed to affect them before.
The worst part about it is that since these wounds
suck the fun and happy qualities out of life,
INFJs will even find themselves annoyed with
the people they once surrounded themselves with.
This is especially true if the psychological
trauma was related to the betrayal of someone
close to them as it can change their entire
perspective on other relationships in their lives.
Number 5: You have bad memories on replay
INFJs are the worst for ruminating about certain
thoughts, feelings or ideas they have, sometimes
to the point of driving themselves crazy. So, when
it comes to emotional wounds, INFJs can sometimes
have a hard time pinpointing what it is that’s
left unresolved and which past emotional event
is causing their emotional turmoil. However,
other times, that’s not exactly the case.
This sign of an INFJ emotional wound is the most
obvious, and that’s when these repetitive thoughts
won’t leave the INFJ alone. If someone with this
personality type becomes completely absorbed in
thinking about an unresolved trauma with constant
reminders of that event - they can be sure they
are dealing with an emotional wound. This
inability to forget the emotional event is
actually a sign that the INFJ should acknowledge
the experience and recognize that it affected you,
which are some of the first steps to healing.
Plus, this constant reminder also forces the INFJ
to think about the situation through many
different states of mind throughout the day,
sometimes resulting in a better understanding
of the situation and the reasoning behind it.
Living life feeling dull with no vigor or
excitement for the future is a hard way for
any INFJ to live, but that’s the reality for
when deep psychological trauma is at play.
INFJs can become so subconsciously overwhelmed
that their outer feeling functions and introverted
intuition become stunned. The brain has an
unbelievable ability to defer stress in different
ways to make it easier to manage and process,
and this is exactly what the INFJ brain is doing
when they shut out any new emotions. It’s as if
the INFJ brain quiets the overload of painful
feelings and emotions by making them feel nothing
at all to avoid further psychological distress.
Sure, it may work momentarily for the INFJ
that so often feels everything from everyone
and the INFJ may no longer feel sad, but they
also definitely don’t feel happy. It’s like
existing with no emotions or interest for other’s
emotions, which is not a good place for the INFJ
to be for long periods of time. The worst of
it all, this numbness can even take away the
INFJ’s natural ability to daydream by replacing
their imaginative creations with blankness.
The self doubt that comes with carrying around
an emotional wound day in and day out can cause
INFJs to overanalyze every unrelated area of
their lives to avoid being hurt again. Yes,
INFJs are natural over-observers with the need to
think things through every step of the way. But,
and saving themselves from being hurt, and
it may sound like a smart precaution to take,
however, in this case overanalyzing can actually
end up causing more confusion and discrepancies
that were actually there in the first place.
In fact, this habit can cause an INFJ to become
seriously thrown off by the little curve balls
that life throws at them while leading the INFJ to
struggle even more with unrealistic expectations
of themselves, partners, events, and decisions.
Number 8: Your sleep schedule is sporadic
it’s not rare for the INFJ to have troubles with
sleeping. But, tossing and turning at night with
racing thoughts is also a clear sign of stress
and emotional turmoil, so this is where things
can get a little tricky. A good rule of thumb is
to keep in mind that emotional wounds can also
come in the form of over sleeping, sleeping at
the wrong times, waking up feeling exhausted and
waking up multiple times throughout the night. For
example, an INFJ with unhealed emotional wounds
may experience heightened anxiety at night,
feelings of helplessness and despair to start
a new day, extreme loneliness and isolation,
and having nightmares while sleeping. If that’s
not bad enough, when the INFJ is experiencing a
sporadic sleep schedule no matter which sleeping
issue they deal with, it can actually make the
emotional wounds, and their overall mood, worse.
Brain fog, spaced out, head in the clouds,
whatever you want to call it, INFJs are probably a
little more familiar feeling and seem rather aloof
compared to other personality types. However,
a tangled and mixed up mind is something that
INFJs aren’t overly accustomed to. So, when an
or they find themselves often getting confused
and feeling unfocused, they most certainly
could be being distracted by an emotional wound.
For an INFJ dealing with psychological trauma,
This is not only distracting but extremely
untangle a foggy noggin is to cautiously sort
through and write down every thought as often
as possible. With introverted intuition at hand,
the INFJ brain has a habit of releasing things
from their mental banter once they've talked
about it or written it down.. Brilliant, right?
INFJs never want to seem like there's anything
wrong, and sometimes they take it so far as to
convince themselves that everything is okay in the
process. When the INFJ eventually finds themselves
questioning if there is something wrong with
them following a traumatic life event, they’re
probably right. Intuition goes a long way, and if
an INFJ finally questions what could explain the
negative mental turmoil they’re experiencing,
it’s not uncommon for them to know deep down.
For the INFJ, traumatic experiences and emotional
encounters are seriously difficult to talk about
due to the fear of being misunderstood. Often it
feels like they can’t explain themselves to anyone
because they don’t even really know what’s
wrong. All they know is that they don’t feel
serious about taking emotional wounds and their
symptoms into our own hands instead of avoiding
easier to navigate their way towards healing.
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have unhealed emotional wounds as an INFJ that you
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