7 Ways To Know If The Infj Has For Sure Door Slammed You explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.
you’ve probably come across the idea of the INFJ
door slam through your findings. We’ve touched on
the concept here on this channel, but there seems
to be some confusion as to how to really know
if you’ve been door slammed, and whether or
not to take it seriously.. So today, we’re
talking all about the 7 ways to know if you’ve
been door slammed by the INFJ personality type.
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Arguably, one of the best qualities of the INFJ is
the maturity they have when it comes to the words
they use. This introspective type understands the
power words have and the rippling capability of
verbal communication as a whole. They think
before they speak and rarely say anything
that they later regret, because when they do, it’s
almost unbearable and nearly impossible to forgive
themselves. And so, not only is the INFJ unable to
take spoken thoughts lightly but they rarely say
things in the heat of the moment like so many
people are accustomed to. This makes the INFJ
door slam quite obvious and apparent.. Because
they wouldn’t resort to communicating the fact
that they’re done with the connection in its
entirety without really meaning it. Yet, since
their empathy is so often used against them, when
it’s a real door slam, INFJs won’t hesitate to
calmly back themselves up with every single thing
that they’ve mentally noted as toxic within their
wide array of mentally documented disappointments.
So, if they’ve left you frozen and speechless in
disbelief due to the accuracy of their feedback,
you can be sure there's no going back for them.
While it may seem like they vanished out of the
blue, you can be sure they’ve attempted to fix the
connection time and time again before resorting
to the door slam. Some INFJs feel the need to
explain every little reason in great detail, while
others get to a point of not wanting to spare
so they leave nothing up for discussion..
Well, in reality they don’t really leave anything
up for discussion whether they're communicating
their disappointments or not, but when the INFJ
feels as if the other person is a lost cause,
This may seem like an extremely cold approach, but
you can be sure that they spare these particularly
So, if that’s you, congratulations.. you’ve made
it to the INFJs ‘never again’ book of lessons.
In the perfect door slamming world, one the INFJ
is done, they’re absolutely done. No if, ands or
buts. However, sometimes certain circumstances
don’t allow the INFJ the clear-cut no contact
rule they want out of a door slam. Whether it’s
a workplace connection, or even a co-parenting
situation, if the INFJ must remain in contact with
this opposing opponent they mean business. They no
longer want any emotional discussions, reminiscing
memories or deep conversations with that person,
especially at the beginning. This isn’t because
the INFJ is afraid they may change their mind
or reconsider, but because they are taking the
appropriate measures to entirely forget that
person as best they can. They want to sever that
energetic tie that once drained them of all their
mental and emotional mojo, leaving past memories
as nothing but lessons learned in their eyes.
One sure way to know if an INFJ is in fact door
slamming you, is to self reflect. Of course,
some people are completely oblivious to the fact
of just how controlling, manipulative or abusive
they’ve been within a connection, but for the
people that can see it, you better believe that
the INFJ has finally reached their breaking point.
The thing is, INFJs want to communicate in a calm
and collected manner, but some people take this
emotional maturity as nothing but passive games.
Some people can’t take the INFJ seriously because
they don’t get revved up and offensive when they
feel threatened. They don’t soop to the level
of immaturity they’re experiencing because
they rather sit back, take mental notes and
thoroughly understand behavioral patterns before
making any sudden judgments or initiatives. Yet,
once they’ve observed and organized every last
make sound judgements and act accordingly.
Number 5: They’ve moved on (rather quickly)
While it may seem obvious, once the INFJ has
moved on, you can be sure there's a 99% chance
they’re never going back. In fact, compared to
most personality types and in spite of their
sympathetic nature, the INFJ is able to move on
considerably quickly from the time they actually
take the plunge to door slam. Well..at least
it seems that way from the outside looking in.
In reality, the day the INFJ considered the
considering alternative futures, including the
possibility of being with someone else entirely.
As soon as they feel a lack of security within a
close relationship their minds begin to wander,
for something they wouldn’t consider being long
term. Instead, it stems from the fact that INFJs
just have a lot of love to give..and that love
mixed with their elaborate imaginations gives
know a new connection fits their standards.
Loving, sympathetic and always there for the
people they love, INFJs show up to relationships
with the intention of giving their all. However,
once an INFJ is sure that the connection no longer
serves their highest good, don’t expect any of the
perks you once experienced with this personality
type. Sure, this may seem like an obvious aspect
in most breakups, but for the empathic INFJ can
seem especially out of character because it’s not
always backed up by feelings of anger or anguish.
ways out of spite, but rather in hopes of
regaining back all that they feel they’ve lost
in emotional and mental energy. When something as
big as a door slam occurs in the INFJ’s life, they
take it as an opportunity to reinvent themselves,
turn over a new leaf, and focus on nobody else but
themselves. It’s like they exit chaos and enter a
period of deep reset and recharge, leaving no room
for catering to the needs of the opposing person.
heck..don’t even try to find them on social
media, because they probably have you blocked.
Like we mentioned, the infamous door slam is never
as spontaneous as it may seem to the other person.
After exhausting all of their options with no
avail, INFJs will be left contemplating for weeks,
months, even years on end, knowing there’s
no other approach than to step away entirely.
Although it may seem easy, this is an incredibly
who never wants to give up on their ability to
help another person. Yet, slowly but surely,
without even realizing it. It’s as if their
subconscious reaches the conclusion before their
conscious reasoning, and so when the time comes,
they begin to realize that they’ve been taking
the appropriate measures for some time. Simple
forgetting things like their favorite foods
or the little things like how they like their
eggs cooked. They check out slowly, day by
day, until they are nothing but a stranger.
Well that’s it for today PSYCH-Os.. Before
you go, let us know in the comments below
whether or not you’ve been the door slammer,
or the door slam-ee of an INFJ connection
and if you recognize these 7 signs. Also, make
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