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We all go through life learning and growing using
the unique life lessons that are thrown at us,
but each personality type ends up learning
a few difficult lessons in their lifetime
that are unique to their character traits..
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There’s no doubt that the INFJ personality type
is known for their strong intuitive abilities.
In fact, most friends and family of an INFJ
will go to them for advice or an alternative
perspective on a situation because they know the
accuracy of their insights. However, there comes a
time in every INFJ’s life when they need to take a
step back and realize that everyone has some level
of intuitive abilities and sometimes they need to
allow people to utilize their own judgements. In
fact, sometimes all that trust and accuracy of an
INFJ’s intuitive strengths can even get to their
head after a while, resulting in negative feelings
when someone else may have picked up on things
that the INFJ overlooked. Although it’s rare,
there are times when someone else might actually
have a better handle on a person or situation than
this highly empathetic type, and in those times
particularly, it can be extremely challenging
for INFJs to let someone else take the reins.
This lesson is especially important for an INFJ
to reflect on when they feel overloaded with
obligations and responsibilities that they’ve
taken on. INFJ burnout is no fun, and when this
type can comfortably allow other people to use
their own intuition rather than being relied on,
INFJs realize that boundary setting doesn’t
have to be as difficult as it may seem. Plus,
an INFJ’s intuition is only on point when
meaning it shouldn’t be on display for every
passing stranger to utilize to their advantage.
Number 2: Tough love isn’t always the solution
Highly empathetic yet also extremely logical,
every INFJ eventually learns when tough love is
the solution, and also when it’s not. INFJs are
on a mission to get themselves and everyone else
from point A to point B as easy and painlessly as
possible, and they usually call on their intuitive
logic for the directions. They want everyone to
evolve into the best versions of themselves,
and sometimes people need a stern push into the
right direction - yet other times this tough
love can only make matters worse. Of course,
INFJs love very deeply, and can feel the pain
of others from a mile away, but when it comes
to actually lending advice sometimes they resort
to pure logic and strategy. Instead of using their
empathetic nature by just lending an ear to listen
or a shoulder to cry on, INFJs take other people’s
struggles as a mission that needs to be fixed.
They resort to mentally siphoning through all
the possible outcomes of certain actions that
can be taken because they so desperately want
to remove the pain and suffering of others.
sometimes, this logical advice can come off as
being a little too pushy, too stern, and even
unempathetic, especially when helping other
feeler types. INFJs soon realize that they’ve
missed out on chances where people turned to them
for their heart rather than their intellect. Yet,
they can use this realization to decipher whether
they’re being called on for their heart or their
heads for future situations. Overall, INFJs
eventually learn that their introspective insights
INFJs have this stigma of being the total black
sheep, outcast, misunderstood member of society,
extroverted of the introverted Myers Briggs
types, the INFJ has the ability to connect
with people on a seemingly deep level, but
often types, they will still leave most deep
conversations having shared almost nothing about
themselves. They can trust someone completely,
yet still only reveal themselves in stages -
ultimately never really opening up fully. Now,
it’s not farfetched to say that INFJs can
and are misunderstood for their insights and
opinions on a regular basis, but ironically,
their hesitancy to explain themselves sends
unwilling to feel understood. This cycle is
not only painful for the INFJ, but can also be
hurtful for their loved ones who so desperately
want the INFJ to feel understood and accepted.
So, the lesson here is that not everyone is
as close-minded and judgmental as the INFJ
neither a strength nor a weakness, and that
everyone feels misunderstood on some level,
they can begin putting a little more trust into
the people around them. And overtime, they’ll
become pleasantly surprised at how relatable some
of their deepest misunderstandings really are.
Number 4: A big heart requires big boundaries
sooner rather than later for most people with
this personality type. INFJs love deeply, and
are fully capable of loving without limits, but
to realize that the love they have for themselves
should come above all else, can make the world
of a difference for this highly empathetic type.
Although it can be difficult to admit, most
INFJs can think of a few times in their lives
where the things they did in the name of love
actually ended up causing more harm than good.
A clear example of this being overstaying
But aside from unhealthy romantic relationships
that some INFJs seem to get magnetized to,
this personality type also needs to be wary of
when their unconditional love begins seeming
a boundary around their intense fairytale
perspective of romantic love. This imaginative
type can easily base their love off of the ideal
person they picture in their heads, rather than
the actual person standing right infront of them.
INFJs have to realize that just because they
have the desire to go all out when it comes to
romantic connection, not everyone functions
in the same way, and that doesn’t mean they
feel any less affection towards them. In the
end, INFJs aren’t as equipped to recivieving
of a proper love connection because of societal
expectations of how romance should be displayed.
Number 5: Not everyone needs or wants to be fixed
for the 1-man rescue team, the INFJ, it’s not as
simple as it may seem. INFJs have an unexplainable
and oftentimes seemingly involuntary need for
helping people that comes from not only their
empathetic hearts, but also their perfectionistic
minds. Of course, this unique trait definitely has
its positives that set the INFJ apart from the
majority of the world, but it also requires some
serious boundaries. As good as their intentions
might be, it is not the INFJs job to push everyone
they meet, kicking and screaming to their greatest
potential. In fact, it’s not even an INFJ’s job to
make the judgmental call that someone needs help
in the first place. Just because someone isn’t
living their life using the potential an INFJ
sees within them, it doesn’t necessarily mean
they want to be utilizing their potential anyway.
In other words, there’s no help in forcefully
helping an old lady across the street when they
weren't interested in going in that direction.
The rewarding feeling of relating to someone
enough to be able to help them in the way they
need to be helped is a feeling like no other for
the INFJ personality type. In fact, so much so
that it can become addicting if not monitored
with set boundaries. It can become so consuming
that the caring and empathetic end of things
are set aside because the INFJ is so focused
on the next steps that need to be taken. This
means, there’s little time for celebrating the
achievements of the people they’re helping, making
room for improvements but not for reassurance or
even a simple “good job” along the way. This
is when this strength does more harm than good.
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