10 Signs You’Re An Unhealthy Infj explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.
Responsible, mature, passive and understanding,
the average INFJ personality type may seem as if
they’re always well put together, but the reality
of the matter is that all INFJs go through phases
where they are unhealthy for a variety of reasons
including stress, poor environment, and avoiding
their needs - and recognizing some of those signs
can avoid mental burnout and toxic behaviours.
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While it’s fair to say that most INFJs would
prefer to flee a debate rather than fight it,
an unhealthy INFJ has no time for hearing
another person’s view on matter’s that they
INFJs crave in order to better understand
the perspective and viewpoints of others,
an unhealthy INFJ may state their opinion
with a close-ended view, making it obvious
that it’s not up for discussion. An INFJ who
is yet to understand their stubborn tendencies
can become very attached to their subjective
viewpoint to the point of defending it at all
costs, even if that means just getting the final
word. This ‘flight’ response during debates
can be caused by a number of factors or past
experiences that the INFJ may have been through,
however, this quality tends to be developed when
they repress their extraverted feeling functions.
INFJs are helpers, in fact, it’s quite well-known
through the MBTI community that INFJs are one of
the most empathetic and caring types out there.
However, the job of extreme empathy mixed with the
obligation to be everyone’s superhero can become
extremely exhausting.. And for an INFJ who has
yet to practise their boundary-setting skills,
it can become very toxic. For a healthy INFJ,
it’s much easier to keep a balance between making
sure other people’s needs are met and also making
sure they are still feeling the joy of helping.
They are able to effectively feed off of other’s
happiness and harmony while still making time for
their own needs and wants. For an unhealthy INFJ
on the other hand, they can have a tough time
saying no which usually results in harbouring
bitterness towards the people they are helping.
They may even keep a mental checklist of all the
things they’ve done for that someone and compare
it to how little is done for them in return.
a personal attack, and can quickly create
a victim mentality. Because INFJs are already
naturally perfectionistic and hard on themselves,
for an unhealthy INFJ who doesn’t take the time
for self-praise and accomplishment-reflecting,
a simple critical comment can act as the tipping
point to their self sabotage and isolation.
attitude as a way of coping with or covering
up their hurt feelings, ultimately leading them
to ‘door slam’ for the sole reason that they’re
feelings were hurt when in reality, there
INFJs have an undeniable gift of reading people.
They use people’s energies, moods, body language,
what they’re thinking and even whether or not
that person is enjoying the INFJ’s company.
A healthy INFJ is able to use these gifts as a
part of a bigger picture, without taking things
out of context. An unhealthy INFJ, however, is
hyper sensitive to these cues making them overly
paranoid about what others are thinking of them.
Since an insecure and self-conscious INFJ craves
a lot of reassurance and validation from others,
they can make misinterpreted conclusions of body
language or harmless remarks as signs of people
disliking them or maybe even liking them more than
they really do. They may ruminate about simple
gestures on their own time, fabricating different
meanings behind seemingly unimportant acts of
communication - which really doesn’t help anyone.
INFJs are naturally equipped to see the good
in everyone. They have the innate ability to
see things from the perspectives of others and
can relate to how most people feel, even within
toxic situations. While this comes as a gift,
allowing this empathetic type to help others,
INFJs sooner or later realize that this ability
needs some serious boundaries in order to work
in their favour. For an unhealthy INFJ, they
may overlook obvious red-flags and questionable
experiences because they are so sidetracked by
wanting to help someone. This leads to making
excuses for people’s toxic behaviour, ultimately
allowing people to use and walk over the INFJ
however they please. Not only can an INFJ make
excuses in their own minds by lying to themselves,
see the conflict from the outside looking in.
Number 6: Your isolation has become excessive
The introverted INFJ is no doubt, private
by nature and known for opening up to others
very slowly, one layer at a time. And while
isolation and solitude is something that all
INFJs can agree they need in their lives, a
healthy INFJ can take their privacy to the
extreme. An unhealthy INFJ who lacks trust in the
world and the people in it can almost completely
shut down their true thoughts and feelings out
of the fear of being judged or misunderstood.
They won’t reveal themselves to anyone, including
their romantic partner, friends, and family,
difficult to dig themselves out of. Like any
person, INFJs need a healthy amount of social
interaction and confidence with sharing their
feelings in order to feel like themselves.
Number 7: You experience INFJ “grip stress”
When it comes to an INFJ ‘grip stress’ reaction,
the normally self-disciplined INFJ becomes overly
impulsive and unstructured. They can become
experiences such as binge-eating, over exercising,
and other behaviours that are usually unlikely
for this perfectionistic personality type.
An INFJ can use this grip stress in hopes to quiet
their overactive minds and ground themselves into
something enjoyable and physical, and while it’s
not entirely unhealthy behaviour to act on this
grip stress every once in a while, an unhealthy
INFJ may find themselves doing this repeatedly
- especially during particularly stressful
times. Not to mention, overly disciplined
behaviour with no self-care can also lead to
this grip stress reaction, so balance is key.
Number 8: Your ego has taken over your gifts
If you ask any INFJ if they feel different
will most definitely be a yes. And while most
INFJs feel so different from other people,
a healthy INFJ uses their differences to their
advantage by helping others with a non-judgmental
attitude. For an unhealthy INFJ, this indifference
can be interpreted very differently. An unhealthy
INFJ can become overly pretentious about their
gifts and abilities, concluding that they are
better or more valuable than other personality
types. They may automatically negatively label
other types, seeing perceivers as lazy, thinking
types as cold hearted and sensing types as narrow
minded - when the reality of the matter is that
all types have their strengths and weaknesses.
Perfectionism is nothing new to the INFJ,
perfectionism is an understatement. While evolved
INFJs are able to use their perfectionistic ways
to encourage them to create and to the best of
their abilities, unhealthy INFJs can easily become
trapped in a toxic cycle of self-criticisms and
unrealistically high-standards. It’s as if they
have an inner critic that is constantly rebuking
every decision they make, ultimately burning the
INFJ out through their relentless approach.
They may re-read every text before they send,
overthink the words they use when speaking, spend
an unnecessary amount of time on simple tasks,
they actually have a deeper motive that involves
self growth and learning. So, while many INFJs go
through phases of feeling overly responsible for
others peoples happiness and well-being, they need
to find a balance between giving to others as
well as themselves. An unhealthy INFJ may feel
as if their own emotions and feelings were put on
the backburner in order to make the time to help
others, and while that’s not unlikely of an INFJ
to do, it’s important to remember to bring those
emotions back to the front burner to be dealt with
effectively. Overall, an unhealthy INFJ can simply
forget that they matter, so it’s important
for them to keep in mind that in the grand
scheme of things, nobody around them is getting
help if they’re stuck pouring from an empty cup.
Well, that’s it for today PSYCH-Os.. So, if
you’re an INFJ, are you experiencing any of
these toxic traits? If so, comment which ones
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