5 Common Problems Of The Infj Man (With Solutions)

5 Common Problems Of The Infj Man (With Solutions) explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.

Aside from all the wonderful qualities of the

INFJ man, there’s no doubt their unique gifts

come with their own set of challenges. In

fact, being 1 of the 8 introverted types,

the INFJ man can struggle with things that

it all the more difficult for them to understand

themselves. So, what are the most common struggles

of the INFJ man, and how can they avoid them?

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At an early age, most INFJ men realize they

don’t fit into the stereotypical view of how

a man is supposed to think and act. With most

INFJs being considered highly sensitive people,

the INFJ man can face a lack of self-esteem that

not many other men can relate to. In fact, most

INFJ men are quite familiar with deep feelings

of shame, guilt, and self-disapproval - and if

left to fester for too long, these feelings can

easily turn into a serious level of self-disgust.

Unfortunately, most men with the INFJ personality

type resort to burying their sensitive side in

order to play their expected role of being tougher

than they really want to be for the sake of their

friends, family, and relationships. Yet, overtime,

this versaude fades and they’re left feeling

ingenuine, almost as if no one in their lives

really knows them for who they are deep down.

masculinity. With such extensive interest

and knowledge in human behaviour, the INFJ

concept of an ideal man or woman is a false

societal expectation. Genuine self expression

is what truly makes a person, meaning there’s

plenty of room for the INFJ man’s sensitivity,

deep thinking and appreciation for beauty on this

green earth! Ironically, once an INFJ man truly

owns who they are and wears that self expression

with pride, the confidence naturally follows.

Now, it’s not that living a solitary life

is really the issue for INFJs who mostly prefer

to spend their time alone anyway. The issue comes

when trying to fit this desire for solitude into

daily life and relationships. Being introverted

and introspective, the INFJ man actually needs

a good amount of isolation to properly process

their never-ending stream of thoughts and ideas.

In fact, they could easily spend weeks-on-end

with just the bare-minimum socialization,

while most INFJs wouldn’t blink an eye at

the thought of this amount of alone time,

disinterest in spending time, and metiocore

explanations for the need of alone time can

definitely put a damper on the relationships that

INFJs cherish. Luckily, a true friend of an INFJ

man will slowly come to terms with this aspect

of them, and will work around it - however it’s

not exactly promising to go about things.

So, what is the solution? Tactful retreats.

Realistically, INFJ men (and women for that

matter), will never fully find a balance between

their need for solitude and their desire to

maintain deep connections. Yet, it’s still helpful

for this introverted personality type to create

healthy habits around their need for alone time.

One way they can do this is to realize when they

most desire alone time, and also the times they

don’t feel it’s as necessary. For example,

insignificant to some INFJs during challenging

times, which is a great excuse for solitude.

But after the much-needed soul searching they

need to know that it’s okay to go out and meet

the world again! When it comes to solitude and

socialization for the INFJ man - balance is key.

Number 3: Difficulties finding fulfilling careers

INFJ men surely aren’t the only ones that have

trouble finding a rewarding career in today’s

day-in-age, however, they are definitely one of

few types of men that truly take fulfillment

in their jobs as a necessary requirement.

For most people with the INFJ personality type,

putting so many hours into something to only be

rewarded with money seems counterintuitive

empathetic man needs to know and feel like their

hard work is contributing to something meaningful,

for the greater good. Unfortunately, even for the

most fitting INFJ careers such as psychologists,

writers and humanitarian workers - climbing the

9-5 corporate ladder seems to be part of the

process. In fact, sometimes it takes a great

deal of time and effort in a less-rewarding

position in order to reap the rewards of a

fulfilling career later down the line. And so,

the INFJ man may find himself jumping from career

to career hoping to find that spark of interest

that keeps them focused for the long haul;

ultimately leaving the INFJ in a career crisis.

So, how do they avoid the seemingly never-ending

career search? Personal hobbies and projects.

When the INFJ man takes measures into his own

hands by finding a rewarding hobby or project

to contribute to, they can easily use it to ease

their need for fulfillment in their day jobs.

Even if it’s for an hour a day, eventually the

passion that drives their personal projects

will shoot them beyond their expectations.

Ironically this can easily result in a rewarding,

fulfilling and well-paying career of it’s own -

allowing the INFJ to ditch their 9-5 for good!

Number 4: Feeling invisible becomes the norm

INFJs are used to working behind the scenes

ensuring everything is in order, without needing

to be in the spotlight. But when does this

natural notion of fading into the background

come as an issue for this introverted man? Well,

since the INFJ personality type is known for their

need to maintain harmony in all social groups and

connections, they tend to play a character that

easily gets along with everyone. In fact, the

INFJ man is known for being a social chameleon,

because of how easily he can adapt to the energy

and personality of all walks of life. However,

when this nurturing type of man places so much

importance on ensuring everyone else is seen and

heard, they’re often left to go unnoticed.

INFJ men are so used to being the ones to

ask the right questions and give empathetic

responses that their auto-pilot social-mode

becomes that of a therapist..and everyone

So, how can the introverted INFJ man feel more

acknowledged in social settings? By understanding

that they’re not as confusing and uninteresting

as they think. Realistically, INFJs know they can

be extremely interesting when it comes to diving

deep in conversation, yet basic socialization

tends to be awkward and boring. And with their

hesitation to share anything about themselves out

of expectations of being misunderstood it can seem

like an impossible task, but staying open INFJs

can certainly feel more noticed and acknowledged.

Speaking of the INFJ man’s tendency for deep

diving in conversation, there’s no doubt this

complex and introspective man can come off as

intense to others. Actually, it’s not only their

deep inner thoughts that causes the INFJ man to

seem so fierce, but also their mysteriousness

and body language, like the intense INFJ stare for

example. Now, we’re not saying that intensity is

necessarily a problem, but for the reserved INFJ

man, this deep essence can definitely make them

seem more intimidating than they actually are

- a common issue that most INFJs can relate to.

And unfortunately, their habit of going from

0-to-100 in conversation doesn’t help. These

deep conversations can seem charming and may

be appreciated by some people, but INFJ men

have to keep in mind that not everyone wants to

talk about life and death at a cocktail party…

The solution? Don’t stop being yourself. INFJs

are constantly walking a thin line between

staying true to their own way of thinking,

and staying relatable in order to maintain the

comfort of others. They have a hard enough

that trying to mask their natural intensity,

injustice to their unique powers. So, the

for what it is, leaving their kind and sensitive

INFJ soul for those worthy enough to reveal it.

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