8 Moments That Make Infjs Feel Overwhelmingly Awkward explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.
Awkward at heart, it doesn’t take much for the
INFJ to feel uncomfortable in social situations.
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Large gatherings and parties have a special place
in the INFJ’s book of ‘rather nots’. Even when
it comes to trying new things and stepping
outside of their comfort zones, most times,
an INFJ’s willingness comes before anyone
else’s ability to push them beyond their limits.
So, when someone feels compelled to encourage
the INFJ directly with uplifting and motivating
overwhelming sense of awkward reluctance.
Simple phrases such as ‘loosen up!’ or ‘come
impressed reactions and aloof responses can
cause some seriously awkward encounters. Not
to mention further hesitation of the INFJ to
put themselves in a similar position again.
Making mistakes on the first day on the job,
giving a new sport a go, or accidently spilling
your drink at a restaurant, human errors and
first-tries can be awkward for anyone. However,
most people are able to laugh it off and let
it go. For the INFJ who can easily get stuck
on their witnessed mistakes, these simple
everyday situations can be seriously awkward
depending on the severity. In fact, it doesn’t
even take an error on their part to feel the
awkward panic that comes with somebody watching
them. Using parallel parking as an example,
this awkwardness can be so distracting due to
their extroverted feeling and sensing functions
tuning into what others could be thinking that
it actually can cause the INFJ to slip up.
This is why they work best when on their own
with a set of expectations rather than being
feeling and sensing, the INFJ can end up taking on
the embarrassment of others to a painful extent.
While these everyday human errors can be brushed
off by others, sometimes the INFJ can’t help but
to tune in to just how someone else’s observed
mistake is affecting them in the moment. If it’s
bad enough, this empathetic type can even end up
feeling the physical effects of someone else’s
embarrassment. For example, if they were to see
someone trip and fall while walking in front of a
crowd, an INFJ may actually get hot in the face,
feel queasy, or begin sweating and fidgeting.
even when the INFJ doesn’t know the person, and
even when nobody else really noticed the error.
intense awkwardness even when the other individual
doesn’t realize they’re ‘embarrassing’ themselves.
Number 4: Not knowing what advice to give
With the hopes of maintaining a certain level of
balance and empathy within every conversation they
have, the INFJ is usually a great person to vent
to. Known as the confidant or counselor of the
MBTI, it’s in their very nature to provide
accurate and helpful advice that suits the
specific situation that their fellow friend,
partner or acquaintance is going through.
for themselves and oftentimes the dependence
that people put on them, it can be rather
awkward when they don’t have any suggestions.
sometimes the INFJ genuinely can’t conclude
what they would do in someone’s situation,
and so they try their best to just offer the
emotional support needed without opening up a
discussion. Yet, on the other hand, INFJs can get
stuck deciphering if their advice is worth giving.
In these specific scenarios, it’s not that they
don’t feel confident in their guidance, rather,
it’s that there’s no way to dish it other than
in the form of blunt honesty or tough love.
These are the most awkward of circumstances
as they have to pretend as if they’re just
as confused as the one seeking their help, when
in reality, they know exactly what to suggest.
sometimes this conflict-avoidant type finds
it too awkward to stand up for themselves.
It’s not that they don’t have the confidence
in the moment it can just seem out of character
for them even if it’s totally called for.
This can be a situation as simple as receiving
a passive-aggressive comment from a coworker
and letting it slide with a smile and node. Or..
something a little more serious like running into
an ex partner that mistreated them in the past.
In this example, despite the INFJ creating strong
boundaries around their emotions in the past, and
swearing they would never let their guard down,
they find themselves asking how they’ve been and
wishing them all the best. No matter the scenario,
when INFJs are caught in the moment, their
extroverted feeling function can take the
place of their authenticity in subconscious hopes
of keeping the situation at ease. And of course,
guided by this primary cognitive function, they
know first hand just how awkward it can make
certain situations. One of the worst has to be the
deflective habit of tuning into this imaginative
and internal world at the least appropriate
times. Whether it be during times of requiring
their normally highly-attuned listening skills,
or when their external concentration is needed,
sometimes drifting off into their fantasy-world
can cause some seriously awkward scenarios. In
fact, not only can this make situations rather
awkward, but it can also call for the INFJ to
miss out on crucial information. The most
inconvenient of situations is when they get
distracted while in the middle of a conversation
because they’re too busy searching for solutions
within their minds. They may get stuck on a
problem being presented through support-seeking
conversation and begin ruminating on it before
the other person has had a chance to finish.
And although it may not be totally obvious
from the outside, INFJs can be in a serious
train of thought and when asked a follow up
question, they may be dumbfounded for an answer.
people for a loop, including the INFJ themselves.
This cognitive function that is heavily relied on
in most emotion situations is fixed to allow this
personality type to absorb and experience outer
emotions as their own. While this can be seen as
an empathetic super power in some ways, sometimes
feeling the emotions of others as their primary
emotional complex can be rather confusing..and
even awkward in some cases. In one way, INFJs can
be caught being overly emotional when listening to
stories, watching movies or witnessing other
people going through emotional experiences.
that no one else is affected. On the other hand,
when INFJs are expected to show emotions for their
own circumstances, they usually come across
as quite blank-faced and unaffected. There
isn’t one situation more awkward than the other,
both being even embarrassing in their own ways.
With a strong preference for smaller gatherings,
and more specifically one-on-one hangouts,
So, there’s nothing that make them feel more
awkward than when they think they're hanging
out with a close friend where they can let loose
and show their true colors, only to find out that
they’ve brought another friend along. In fact,
despite the fact that they’re usually open to
meeting other people, this time of situation
can cause the INFJ to go from bubbly, silly
and excited to mellow, reserved and observant
in the matter of seconds. And unfortunately,
they’re not the only ones to feel or notice this
shift in personality. Their close friend who knows
the INFJ for who they really are may even question
why they’re making things more awkward, when in
reality, they have no choice but to sit back and
analyze, even if it means they’re acting aloof.
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