The Worst Behaviours Of The Immature Infj

The Worst Behaviours Of The Immature Infj explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.

Infj Rebellion Is Every Infj A Rebel

Infj Rebellion Is Every Infj A Rebel explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.

Going against the grain and pushing personal

limits are nothing new to the independent

The question is, when does taking the road

less traveled come across as rebellion in

And how intentionally-rebellious does that

leave the individualistic and unconventional

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Number 1: They actually do want to stand out

To the individualistic and happily unique

INFJ, blending in just simply isn’t an option.

No matter how convincing they may be in their

quest to find familiarity in their surroundings,

However, the paradox behind it all is that

the INFJ tends to not want to fit in with

the crowd, yet the attention that comes from

being expressively unique and independent

can put them in a sticky situation of being

And the center of attention is exactly where

So, while their independence may give them

a rather rebellious reputation or image in

the eyes of some, their intentions are far

In fact, they tend to influence others through

their unorthodox viewpoints and actions without

even realizing they’re doing things differently.

Number 2: They only rebel when they’re confined

Once the INFJ has created the life they’ve

imagined for themselves, or at least something

close to it, they realize that their rebellious

nature was only due to the inability to express

When this truth-seeking type is confined to

other’s rules, regulations, standards, and

expectations, the INFJ’s rebellion slowly

Now, it’s not that they’re unable to follow

societal rules or that they live each day

waiting for the next rule they challenge..

But when the INFJ finds themselves in a place

where they’ve been feeling trapped or unable

to be their full selves for a long enough

Once this independent type feels constrained,

nothing can mitigate how they perceive the

Their passive, go-with-the-flow nature slowly

dwindles away as they become more and more

This is the same confinement they find when

they’re under the spell of someone else’s

Once they feel trapped within a connection,

Number 3: Asking questions and not settling

Speaking of confinement, INFJs feel confined

when they are coerced to involve themselves

in something with little explanation of its

To this curious type, elaborate questioning

is a natural part of their decision making

They are quite the opposite of conformists

in the fact that they can never happily accept

something simply because it’s expected of

If anything, when involved people have no

means of explaining, this type can become

even more suspicious of the matter, and the

To some conventionalists, this reluctance

Whether it’s education, work, play, or relationships,

INFJs rarely bow down to authority, especially

in a higher position to necessarily be more

Because of this slight distrust, INFJs almost

always do their own investigation on new information.

It’s said that the INFJ is so apt to going

against the grain in life, but what even is

Well, by going against the grain, one is choosing

a path or making a decision that is contrary

And of course, it’s believed it takes courage

and confidence to be able to stand up for

what you believe in, despite other’s opinions.

However, when it comes to the INFJ and their

natural inclination to take the road less

traveled, sometimes they hardly wonder why

While from a distant perspective, society

may seem like one big bubble of people headed

in the wrong direction, INFJs know deep down

inside that this perspective is small-minded.

And so they try not to focus on this concept

And because of this, INFJs can become so familiar

with their rather alternative priorities that

they can even forget just how different they

Number 5: They have to back up their strong

INFJ would happily rebel for is any cause

In fact, it’s the stories of other people

that usually light the spark in an INFJs heart.

This spark gives the normally conflict-avoidant

INFJ the confidence, motivation and mental

The unique aspect of this rebellion is that

comes to something that benefits only themselves.

Through their inborn empathy, INFJs absorb

the pain, hurt, and hope from others and combine

it with their logical planning to fuel their

This is what gives the INFJ their name of

being the advocate and the protector of the

16 personalities; and what explains the common

Number 6: They can seem seriously unapproachable

Without getting a taste for their energy and

warm presence, people with the INFJ personality

When it comes to social outings, or really

just being out in public in general, this

observant type can seem rather aloof and even

standoffish which can certainly translate

To explain this simply, INFJs could literally

be staring someone down with a less-than pleasant

look on their face, arms crossed and all,

and yet their minds are filled with only positive

They’re probably pondering whether or not

they should compliment something they admire

about that person, or if that would just be

Or they’re running through their minds of

everything they have to do once they get home.

Or.. they could even be questioning one of

An INFJs mind is never-not going 100 miles

a minute, and sometimes that concentration

can make their outside appearance not match

Number 7: They’re able to bring others out

INFJs may make people feel uncomfortable through

push someone towards their goals in the most

When it comes to comfort zones, INFJ have

had to learn to stretch themselves beyond

their comfort zones one temporary adventure

They stretch themselves so far because they

know in a short time, they will be able to

be back in their comfort zone with more knowledge,

experience and information to process while

And each time, their comfort zone grows wider

and wider, becoming even more flexible and

This learned-ability allows the INFJ to stand

as a beacon of adventure for their fellow

introverts trapped in their comfort zones.

Slowly, and almost silently, the INFJ plants

seeds of curiosity and encouragement to their

fellow earthlings; rebelliously swapping blue

Which brings us to the last point of today’s

Number 8: Self-rebellion is their magic ingredient

the elusive INFJ understands the world on

And with this understanding, they know that

It begins with the human ego and its need

to control - a need that is in each and every

And with that, they know that they can either

transform their rigid ego and self-importance

into a more self-actualized ego, or forever

So, most INFJs learn to turn the tables on

their egoistic ways early on, by rebelliously

using their ego as a tool rather than being

With this self-rebellion, INFJs shine a spotlight

on their egoistic views and instead use it

to prevent themselves from falling into complacency

This allows them to stop trying to control,

and instead use this mental capacity to surrender

to both order and chaos in a much healthier

At the end of the day, you realize that the

ultimate form of rebellion is rebellion against

the self through proactive self-overcoming.

that the ultimate form of rebellion is rebellion

against the self through proactive self-overcoming.

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was brought to your attention as an INFJ.

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The Unique Infj Grieving Process

The Unique Infj Grieving Process explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.

and it’s no different for the INFJ. In fact,

with a deep introspective outlook on life and

Welcome or welcome back, PSYCH-O! Today we’re

going to be talking about the complex INFJ

Of course, every INFJ's grieving experience

is different, depending on things like the

But, one thing that's for sure is that with every

INFJ loss, comes a host of introspective questions

and wonders that ultimately never get answered.

Like most life-events the INFJ experiences,

they will usually withdraw from the people around

them for a while, in order to try and properly

understand their emotions and the implications

of what happened from all angles. They need

to mentally collect the pieces of the puzzle in

order to properly decipher the meaning of it all.

Especially when it comes to the death of a

loved one, the INFJ can experience a whole

new degree of analyzing the meaning of life and

wondering what happens after this thing we call

with newly-found deep insights and understandings

INFJs are used to being hard on themselves,

but when it comes to a significant loss in life,

sometimes they can’t help but use that same

self-blame tactic in an attempt to find reasoning.

Of course, with grieving-introspection comes the

questions of how it happened, why it happened, and

what could have been done to avoid it. And with

these questions, INFJs may turn to themselves and

wonder how they could’ve helped, or what they can

do if something similar happened again. They want

to understand all angles of their contribution or

lack of, in order to feel comfortable enough to

let it go without guilt or hard feelings attached.

Self-blame is not unique to the INFJ grieving

process, but it can be the most difficult

aspect to get over depending on the situation. In

fact, INFJs don’t accept the concept of moving on

Call it denial or call it shock.. Sometimes

the highly empathetic INFJ just can’t quite

grasp the idea of loss when it comes knocking at

their door. Now, it’s not to say that this isn’t

a common step in most grieving processes, but

sometimes for the INFJ type, they won’t process it

until everyone else around them has had a chance

to. Although losing someone or something can be

quite the crippling experience for the INFJ, they

can put their grief on the backburner for as long

as necessary, especially if moves need to be made

where a clear and level-head is needed. However,

once the busyness of loss is over, the buried

grief comes creeping up looking to be resolved and

understood. And that's when it all comes pouring

down. The best part about it all? Sometimes

INFJ themselves at times of least expectancy.

When INFJs put their grieving on the back burner,

they may actually use the chaos and sorrow around

them to distract themselves from their own

emotions. Naturally, their empathetic nature makes

it easy for them to remain concerned for how other

people are handling the grief. They can become

hyper focused on ensuring everyone’s emotions

are supported, lending an open ear or a shoulder

to cry on whenever needed. However, the downfall

to this coping mechanism is that they can get so

caught up in absorbing and experiencing everyone

else’s pain that they lose sight of processing

their own feelings. In fact, sometimes INFJs

never really even get around to processing their

own feelings because they think that by fully

understanding everyone else’s that they can better

manage the situation. Yet, grief doesn't stay

quiet..everyone has to deal with it eventually.

prolong this process of burying their grieving

emotions? Impulsivity and over-indulgence.

Unsupported grief can temporarily change the INFJ

personality type, leading them away from their

naturally controlled and creative selves, and more

towards recklessness and unpredictable behaviors.

Slowly but surely, grief begins to affect

the INFJ’s introverted intuition; their main

guiding system, ultimately leading them astray.

Well, actually, they're not fully left astray.

In fact, this process causes the INFJ to resort

to their inferior extroverted sensing function,

which explains their short-sighted tendencies.

over-exercising, impulsive cleaning, overspending,

excessive drinking, and the list goes on. Since

most INFJs have difficulty really knowing how they

feel most of the time, this overindulgent and

out-of-character behaviour is known to be one

of the INFJ’s main indicators that there may be

some underlying stress that needs to be resolved.

If you’ve ever experienced grief for yourself, no

matter what personality type you identify with,

you know how distracting it can be - even for the

types that don’t have spent the majority of their

waking hours in their minds. For the INFJ,

who does in fact spend most of their waking

hours in their own minds, grief can come with a

whole new level of distraction that most INFJs

significant loss is one of the only things

that has the power to send the perfectionist INFJ

into a seriously unproductive state. They may feel

immobilized and trapped, without a clear focus or

direction of where to put their time and energy.

without focus and drive, the INFJ just doesn’t

know what to do with themselves. This alone causes

even more stress for them because of the lack of

organization and control they feel in their lives.

Speaking of distracting grief, sometimes it’s

not all about what’s going inside an INFJs head,

but what they do to avoid what’s going on in

their minds. Contrary to some INFJs experiencing

a complete check-out of physical reality because

of their inner distractions, some INFJs become

hyper-focused on their outer environment. They can

become overly fixated on minor details of every

task they complete, and may even get aggravated

or snappy should something not go as planned.

This is a tactic to gain back a sense of control

and avoid the uncontrollable aspects of a grieving

situation. On the other hand, since INFJs are

known for being so sensitive to outer stimuli,

this sensory awareness can become even more

heightened, to the point of not being able to

comfortably function in day-to-day life. Lights,

sounds, smells, and energy can become even more

intense - basically making the INFJ feel crazy,

and unable to keep up with their responsibilities.

Most people look to the people around them

during times of grief for mourning connection and

emotional support, but for the INFJ personality

type, they’re not so quick to run to others

in times of loss and grief. Considering one of

the more well-known traits of the INFJ is their

reluctance to open up to others, it doesn’t come

as a surprise to know that they may never open up

about their grief, even to the people that mean

most to them. Of course, they’ll always be there

to help others grief, but it’s rarely a mutually

contributing conversation. Even when an INFJ takes

their much needed alone time to decipher through

their thoughts in order to feel comfortable

enough to talk about their feelings to a loved

one, they may not even know where to start or

how to put their feelings into words. And if they

do get a few points out, most INFJs can end up

feeling ashamed and regret for letting someone

into their thought process. Yet, in reality,

venting to someone trustworthy can actually

make all the difference for a grieving INFJ.

Well, that's it for today, psych-os. So, are

you an INFJ personality type? And if so, how

do you naturally grieve a loss? Let us know in the

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Infj Personality Type Or Mental Illness

Infj Personality Type Or Mental Illness explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.

With such intricacies and oddities, being

and depersonalization, it’s not unusual for the

INFJ themselves to question whether or not their

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to diagnose or treat any form of health problem

or disease. Those seeking personal mental

health advice should consult their physician.

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The INFJ personality type is notorious for their

reserved and private approach to life. They not

only prefer to keep to themselves but they

actually have a considerably difficult time

when it comes to expressing who they really are.

Some of this can be blamed on their extroverted

feeling function that causes them to feel more

connected and understanding of others’ feelings

than their own. However, there’s also an aspect

of not knowing how to portray their thoughts and

ideas in a way that others would understand.

While of course, this isn’t anything to feel

ashamed or embarrassed about, it can be quite the

confusing on-going experience without realizing

it’s just a part of being an INFJ. In fact,

some people with this type may even mistake it

for some form of anxiety disorder, depressive

disconnection to themselves or Alexithymia.

According to healthline.com Having alexithymia

can make it hard for you to express or identify

your emotions; with an average of 1 in 10

Number 2: Heightened sensitivity can be confusing

Speaking of extroverted feeling, the INFJ

sensitivity to those in their surroundings

that allow them this accurate view into how

causes them to have such a heightened sense

they see and feel everything around them through

their constant subconscious analysis. For them,

it’s second nature, hardly to even be noticed.

However, when they explain certain precautions

to others, such as the need to recharge, the

disinterest in high-stimuli environments and

the distraction that comes when they’re around

someone is distress, it’s often misinterpreted

as nothing other than an anxiety disorder of some

form. In fact, their sensitivity to outer stimuli

can and does very well trigger some INFJs to

experience anxious feelings. So in other words,

officially blame it on your personality type.

With their introverted intuition and introverted

thinking functions managing their every idea,

the INFJ often experiences some pretty far-fetched

lines of thinking. Future-focused with the ability

to predict outcomes with uncanny precision,

the INFJ is constantly analyzing information

years, INFJs learn to trust this intuitive

and analytical observation, no matter how

crazy their prediction may seem. However,

from an outside view, these findings seem

anything but trustworthy. In some circumstances,

they can even seem like the INFJ has lost touch

of reality. Whether they’re too optimistic,

sometimes this incredible ability of theirs

intensity that sometimes it can be mistaken

for something greater than just a personality

type trait. Despite the disconnection to their own

emotions due to their extroverted feeling trait,

the INFJ can sense others’ emotions to the point

of absorbing them as their own. When this happens,

depending on who they’re spending their time

with, this empathetic type can experience

an unexplainable wave of emotions come over

them. Without a basic understanding of their

extroverted feeling function, these mysterious

mood fluctuations can make them feel like they’re

going crazy. Of course, for the most part, they’re

usually able to hide these moods behind their

reserved demeanor to avoid being questioned.

This makes it difficult for others to pick up

on this emotional instability and misjudge the

root of it. However, for the INFJ themselves,

it’s not a surprise that they begin questioning

whether or not they need to be evaluated for

some form of mood disorder, bipolar disorder,

or depression. Luckily, once the INFJ gets

the hang of their extroverted feeling function,

these fluctuations become much more manageable.

Number 5: Their idealism can seem delusional

Perfectionism; a word the INFJ knows all too

well. Rooted in their idealistic nature, this

personality type can’t help but to envision things

with optimism and precision. They not only set out

extremely high standards for themselves, but they

also apply their idealism to those around them,

future outcomes, and life in general. Through

their introverted intuitive function that requires

them to spend significant time exploring their

imaginative thoughts, INFJs tend to see things for

what they could be rather than simply accepting

them for what they are. Aside from this idealism,

INFJs also use their perfectionism in the form of

keeping their surroundings orderly and tidy. They

can have such high expectations for how things

should be that they’re seen as delusional in the

eyes of those around them. In fact, sometimes they

can get so involved in making their surroundings,

experiences, and loved ones ‘better’ that they

become distracted in day-to-day life. Besides

delusion, these recurring thoughts can even

be misinterpreted as obsessive-compulsive.

When the INFJ brain isn’t pondering on how

things could be better, it’s most often lost

in analytical thinking and sorting of information

they’ve absorbed through their surroundings. They

have an incredible ability to create web-like

connections in their minds that lead them to

some of the most fascinating solutions, ideas

and findings. Some of these findings are their

interest in existential and philosophical

far before they even realized where their mind was

taking them. It goes far beyond simply being an

interest, and instead seems to be an involuntary

draw towards truth-finding. However, their love

for asking and analyzing the deeper questions

in life such as where we came from, where we go,

and everything in between, doesn't always come off

as being so charming to others. Yes, every now and

then INFJs will meet a like-minded individual that

allows for a knowledge-expanding conversation.

Most times, when this deep-thinking type lets

down their guard and shares their understandings,

depressive, nihilistic, or even morbid in nature.

With such interest in the deeper things in

life, INFJs have a hard time when it comes to

talking about surface-level topics. Bring up the

weather, politics, sports, work and watch as this

type slowly drifts off into dreamland. There’s

nothing more mind-numbing to the INFJ than a

conversation that lacks depth and alternative

opinions. One INFJ reddior put this disconnect

into words perfectly by saying “When people

are talking about their neighbors or weekend,

I just feel internally exasperated. Nothing runs

through my head...no opinion... no thoughts,

just ' ok, cool '.” Instead, they want to

know about people’s childhoods, their traumas,

their view on the challenges of the world,

their interests, their beliefs.. They want a

look inside their conversational opponent’s brain,

and without that, there’s no chance the INFJ would

give them a glimpse inside of theirs. Without this

mutual interest in philosophy and deep-thinking,

may even make people assume that they have a

neurodevelopmental disorder such as autism or ADD.

Well PSYCH-Os, that’s it for today.. So, have you

mistaken your personality type for some form of

mental illness or vice versa? Let us know in

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The Unexpecting Infp Dark Side

The Unexpecting Infp Dark Side explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.

Reserved, open-minded and empathetic, it’s

hard to believe that the kind INFP mediator

personality type holds a dark side of their

When an INFP is met with their shadow selves,

their generosity can be kicked to the sidelines,

resulting in their stress overload leaving

them feeling and acting unlike themselves.

So, what exactly are the signs of the INFP

dark side and how does it affect this caring

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Number 1: Feeling indifferent and pessimistic

The normal optimism and vigour for life that

comes so naturally to the INFP personality

type can easily become overruled by feelings

of carelessness and lack of empathy when they’re

Usually resulting from a mental or emotional

burnout of some sort, this normally kind and

caring type can find themselves feeling unusually

numb and lifeless when it comes to life's

Yet, this also means that in these times of

darkness, the INFP isn’t able to give their

And so, because this normally empathetic type

takes the necessary measure to avoid hurting

people at all costs, this feeling of indifference

and pessimism can end up causing even more

guilt and stress due to feelings of inadequacy.

In other words, no one will end up more hurt

than the INFP themselves when they're stuck

Although INFPs are seen as one of the most

caring and empathetic types, they’re introverted

feeling functions actually cause them to filter

While this isn’t exactly an issue most of

the time, when an INFP is overloaded with

In fact, the dark side of the INFP can cause

for me’ in situations where they normally

wouldn’t even bat an eye at helping others.

Unfortunately this self-centeredness can come

as a result of being taken advantage of for

As they try their best to accommodate everyone

by never turning an opportunity to help down,

they end up being the ones to take on everyone

Overtime, instead of setting appropriate boundaries,

INFPs can become bitter and unwilling to help

INFPs can be best described as imaginative

With their tendency to ruminate on ideal imagined

outcomes for their life, this intuitive type

is able to project the best and worst case

scenarios in order to create and understand

all aspects of situations they get themselves

From relationships to careers, idealism is

a big part of the INFP’s thinking process..

But what happens when idealism is blown out

Well, some INFPs can get caught up in confusing

their real life with their imagined expectations.

As a result, this dark side of their idealism

may cause an INFP to become discouraged and

extremely self-critical when they realize

their reality is quite far off from what they

When INFPs resort to focusing solely on their

imagination, they tend to neglect the truths

about reality, especially the fact that life

is supposed to be a trial-and-error game full

It’s not easy to befriend an INFP, to say

Yet when this normally generous type is met

with their dark side, it can make connecting

When an unhealthy and overly stressed INFP

meets new people, they tend to approach them

with a weary sense of caution and pessimism.

They expect the worst from people, and immediately

resort to putting up their walls until proven

This dark side of the INFP causes them to

attempt to draw them in or befriend them.

They’re constantly trying to scope out the

negative behaviour in other’s to prove to

themselves that their initial judgment was

correct, when in reality they can find negative

aspects in everyone if they look hard enough.

Because of this and a few other reasons, INFPs

maintain minimal connections with people who

With such high expectations matched with an

unrealistic view of how their lives should

look, most INFPs struggle with bouts of serious

They can become so focused on pleasing not

only themselves but also everyone around them

that they tend to burden themselves with unnecessary

Most of the time, these bouts of self-doubt

and blame come and go, but for the unhealthy

INFP - it can stay for months or even years

This unfortunate aspect of the INFP dark side

can cause them to isolate themselves from

all social expectations and sometimes even

They can feel stuck in a negative thought-loop

consisting of feelings of unworthiness and

undeserving of the good things in life, ultimately

leaving them unable to access their optimistic

imagination that they rely so heavily on.

Due to their deep empathetic understanding

of how, when and why people feel certain emotions,

they can easily find out what makes someone

Normally, this innate ability helps this empathetic

type to truly understand and relate to people

on a deeply emotional level, yet when this

power is in the hands of a dark INFP, emotional

Known to be one of their dark side’s most

destructive aspects, the INFP is able to use

their deep understanding of emotion to play

serious games of hard to get, blame switching,

In fact, the most eerie thing about this clever

INFP dark side emotional manipulation is that

it can be masked by kindness and genuinity

- making it even more difficult for other

Number 7: Randomly ditching things that don’t

With the need for passion and creativity , most

INFPs are quite familiar with the feeling

of boredom when there is lack of meaning in

When this open-minded type goes too long without

a sense of meaning in their lives they can

easily spiral into feelings of uselessness

For a healthy INFP, this means tweaking small

aspects of their lives in order to reintroduce

that feeling of excitement, such as trying

However, for the unhealthy INFP, this lack

of passion can cause them to re-evaluate their

lives and instantly drop everything that seems

They don’t take into account the small accomplishments

that certain experiences have brought them

because they’re so focused on avoiding struggles

This can look like ditching relationships

on a whim, deleting certain contacts or even

randomly quitting their jobs - all in hopes

of reaching the ideal life invision for themselves.

INFPs have strong beliefs, and with their

innate charisma and ability to convince others

of certain concepts, they can easily influence

While this isn’t exactly a negative trait

when INFPs are feeling like their normal passionate

and creative selves, the destructive INFP

can easily spread contradicting information.

Their beliefs system can change at such an

alarming rate which ultimately results in

the INFP believing one thing one day, and

And since they have the habit of creating

an army of believers because of their ability

to present powerful visions and concepts - false

information can affect more than just themselves.

If this goes on for long enough, the people

that put their trust into an INFP begin to

realize that their views aren’t as straightforward

afterall, ultimately resulting in INFPs losing

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Infj Personality Type Magical, Delusional, Or Both

Infj Personality Type Magical, Delusional, Or Both explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.

The Unbearable ‘Icks’ Infjs Can’T Overlook

The Unbearable ‘Icks’ Infjs Can’T Overlook explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.

"Ick".. a slang term that is most recently

used to describe a feeling of disgust or aversion

In the case of the overly observant INFJ,

it’s fair to say that they indeed may just

when noticed, are almost impossible to overlook.

So what are some of the INFJ’s instant turn-offs,

and why do they seem so unbearable to witness?

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Number 1: Being too conforming or ‘by the

The INFJ personality type is considered a

free thinker and free-doer in every aspect

They prefer to take the path less traveled

and often don’t trust the societal constructs

unique views on things, sometimes the INFJ

can observe when someone is close-minded to

the fact that maybe their conforming actions

and decisions make it difficult for them to

INFJs can’t entirely trust someone who doesn’t

have the courage or capacity to think outside

of what is being told to them, and because

of that, this personality type becomes instantly

This ick becomes even worse when the INFJ

is questioned or criticized for their logical

rule-breaking that goes against external expectations.

In the eyes of an INFJ, blind obedience and

authoritarianism makes people seem less human,

and for that, they can’t help but to cringe

If there’s one way to quickly lose the INFJ’s

empathetic sympathy, lack of accountability

Victimhood for the sake of manipulation, justification

or attention seeking has to be one of the

Since this observant type has the habit of

analyzing things from all angles, they know

better than to be tricked into giving sympathy

to someone portraying to be innocent instead

Of course, the INFJ is unlikely to jump to

this conclusion without doing some digging,

but it doesn’t take long for them to realize

the obvious reality of self-victimization.

This is especially true when someone can’t

come to terms with the idea that maybe they’re

the common denominator in their life problems.

Since the INFJ takes so much time to self-reflect

and tries their best to see where they went

wrong far before ever pointing the finger,

play the victim card, but they also get an

instant ick that makes them think of that

Being labeled as a know-it-all themselves,

INFJs can appreciate some shared intellect

They love diving deep into people’s expertise,

Normally, they don’t shame those who share

their wealth of knowledge, as long as they

actually know what they’re talking about.

This is where the fine line of whether or

not someone’s proficiency is rooted in legitimacy

When the INFJ comes to realize that someone

is simply not open to hearing any other potential

opinions, conclusions or alternative ways

of getting something done, their ick-radar

For, a true expert is always willing to remain

open to innovation and alternate perspectives

in order to challenge what they believe to

a certain defensiveness that becomes obvious.

Know-it-alls who don’t actually know much

about what they’re talking about are deeply

afraid of being proven wrong, and are willing

to do (and say) just about anything to save

Number 4: Having an inflated ego in any regard

With extroverted feeling at hand, this personality

However, they’re also able to easily decipher

when someone’s self-pride is either coming

from a genuine place or a place of self-conceit.

Despite the fact that even the most genuine

display of self-pride can come across as slightly

While sharing photos of a weightloss journey

support, a page full of revealing gym-selfies

will result in an eye-roll and complete disinterest.

When someone is continually trying to be the

center of attention, it becomes so unbearably

noticeable to the INFJ that they can’t help

but to watch in disappointment for humanity.

They can’t stand shallowness, but shallowness

that’s combined with a self-absorbed demeanor

tops the cake for most INFJs and their ick-o-meters.

Number 5: People who talk behind the backs

To be fair, INFJs aren’t exactly known for

Related to their disinterest in small-talk

there’s something so superficial about talking

about other people that the INFJ usually loses

interest in the conversation rather quickly.

Yet, besides the fact that INFJs much rather

talk about something deeper and more complex

did on the weekend, there’s a certain level

of ick that comes with gossiping being someone’s

Sure, sometimes we all need to vent, and most

times, these stories and life challenges involve

Being the keen listeners and trustworthy advice-givers

they are, INFJs can tell when talking about

In fact, the worst INFJ ick comes when someone

can’t help but to resort to talking about

manner, in order to keep the conversation

everything she does seems to just get on my

INFJs hate playing into these sorts of conversation

starters, and can’t help but to feel instantly

turned-off and uncomfortable in that person’s

energy, knowing they’ll probably be talking

We’ll start this one by saying, maybe not

But for the most part, a passionate conversation

about politics is an instant INFJ turn-off.

Related to what we said earlier about the

INFJ’s need for a more stimulating conversation,

current news surrounding politics is rarely

With deeper understanding and an opinion that

probably concludes the political system to

not be what it seems, these sorts of conversations

leave the INFJ stuck in boredom, disagreement,

and an unwillingness to share their honest

They probably can’t remember the last time

they voted, and they probably have no idea

who’s running or what side they’re running

So while the INFJ is busy being icked-out,

they also probably seem completely oblivious

and uninformed, which is also not exactly

a comfortable place for the perfectionistic

To put it simply, if it’s a one-on-one conversation,

the INFJ may attempt to shut it down with

the use of humor or admitted disinterest.

And, if it’s not a one-on-one conversation,

political banter is the perfect opportunity

for the INFJ to tune out what’s being said

in order to silently slip into their own little

Number 7: Lack of consideration and kindness

Like they say, you can tell alot about a date

For the INFJ, this and the way someone treats

any other member of society rings very true.

INFJs are constantly analyzing the gestures,

interactions and reactions of the people they’re

Kindness comes in all forms, and is considered

common sense for the INFJ type when interacting

On that note, when the INFJ witnesses unnecessary

rudeness or lack of consideration, they are

overcome with an ick that is nearly impossible

Even something as simple as someone not thinking

to look behind them as they pass through the

Or not saying thank you should someone hold

Of course, it can get far worse, with common

courtesy situations coming with a minimal

In fact, certain situations are so bad that

the INFJ has no other choice but to cut off

all ties with that individual, sometimes with

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Through deep imagination giving way to the

something to say about their experiences when

Whether it be romantic or platonic, this observant

type can find themselves unusually drawn to

certain people, but why is this infatuation-habit

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The thing with INFJ infatuation, in general,

is the fact that although optimistic in love

and connection, their reserved and distant

nature makes true attraction rare to come

In fact, in reality most INFJs have a love/hate

With deep interest in how the human mind works

and learning through other people’s experiences,

this introverted type also holds a sense of

distrust and hesitation when it comes to the

Normally, true INFJ infatuation comes on when

They can’t help but to be drawn in by authenticity,

However, this can become rather dangerous

when another person knows how to use false

radar when it comes to others depicting a

false facade, sometimes their optimism can

Number 2: They can easily convince themselves

There’s a certain aspect of INFJ infatuation

that may be the biggest risk factor of it

This often-overlooked risk factor is rooted

in their beliefs of high power, spirituality,

Sometimes INFJs can convince themselves that

certain meetings and interrelations were destined,

and although this intuitive hunch may serve

to be undeniably true at times, it can also

bring on a captivation towards certain people

out of touch with their main cognitive driver,

introverted intuition, they can resort to

In this case, their infatuation becomes all

the more difficult for the INFJ to understand

However, when INFJ’s are instead analyzing

a new connection through extroverted feeling,

in which someone else is desiring the INFJ,

this type may absorb those underlying feelings

of the other person, taking them on as their

This can make them feel interested in someone,

or even love-struck despite not being able

to put a finger on why exactly they feel drawn

Number 3: They can experience obsessive (and

Through convincing themselves that they were

meant to cross paths with someone combined

with an undeniable intuitive pull towards

someone, INFJs can become engulfed by thoughts

Due to the INFJ’s habit of becoming fixated

on certain topics, recent experiences or potential

futures, they can catch themselves putting

someone at the forefront of their mental focus.

And while this isn’t always considered toxic,

it can end up taking over the INFJ’s entire

self-motivation and focus, keeping them from

to experiencing in their life of solitude.

In fact, sometimes these distracting thoughts

can be so intense that it throws the INFJ

into a complete introverted intuitive/introverted

thinking loop, leaving them disconnected to

This mental consumption can serve to be the

start to the most important connections the

INFJ is meant to have in their lives, yet

it can also be a sign that their exaggerated

and at-times false perceptions of an individual

Number 4: Their infatuation is easily built

Speaking of exaggerated perceptions, the web-like

formation of thoughts and ideas that make

Through their extraverted feeling and sensing

functions this personality type accurately

observes and files away certain qualities

of each person they come into contact with.

And while these observed qualities may be

accurate, the INFJ’s introverted cognitive

functions of intuition and thinking begin

This is when their infatuation can become

rather biasedly-led, forming into idealizations

that would fit the INFJ’s expectations and

Not only can this end up leading the INFJ

into disappointments should their person of

interest not meet these biased-rooted expectations,

but it can also cause the INFJ to turn a blind-eye

Not to mention, once the INFJ has assumed

them to go back and decipher which qualities

they formed through optimism and which qualities

Number 5: They can end up attracted to qualities

Through awe and fascination, INFJs can feel

an undeniable pull to those who stand out.

Whether it’s the quiet and mysterious person

that excludes themselves from the crowd, or

the odd and eccentric type that stands out

The INFJ can become infatuated by the oddities

However, first impressions can cause the INFJ

to fill in the blanks as to how this perceived

unconventionalism may play out in other areas

of that person's personality and life; which

For example, they say the INFJ and ENTJ make

a good match in the first few stages of getting

With the INFJ becoming captivated by all the

traits of the ENTJ that they admire such as

their determination and single mindedness,

They feel drawn towards the fact that the

ENTJ usually has their own interests, success

and social life allowing the INFJ to hold

However, in the long run, these exact traits

can leave the INFJ feeling emotionally neglected;

leaving the initial infatuation to serve as

Number 6: They can end up digging themselves

Speaking of forming connections that ultimately

can certainly find themselves in a sticky

situation or two within their lifetime due

When this imaginative and romantic personality

type finds someone who piques their interest,

they may be surprised by their uncharacteristic

After observing and collecting all the information

they can about a person, INFJs usually take

one of two routes, both having equally difficult

The first route is going overboard with their

emotional attachment before the connection

calls for it, ultimately becoming far more

interested in someone before that someone

has had the chance to become genuinely interested

For the second route, INFJs may find themselves

showing too much interest in someone before

finding out enough about them; eventually

realizing the lack of compatibility before

Just as the ENTJ example described in the

previous point, once an INFJ has taken the

leap to actively gain someone’s attention,

it can be a difficult realization when they

By trying their best to avoid hurting their

feelings while also trying to not lead them

on anymore than they already have, an INFJ’s

infatuation can lead them to some seriously

Number 7: It can make them feel completely

With extroverted feeling at hand, the INFJ

isn’t unfamiliar with feeling out of touch

As we mentioned before, the INFJ can absorb

the interest that someone else has for them

and mirror it in a way that wouldn’t naturally

But, despite flattery and being lusted after,

there's nothing that causes this emotional

disconnect more than when they can’t rationalize

their uncontrollable thoughts of another.

Known for maintaining a collected internal

balance despite their never-ending thought

INFJ off kilter more than the unignorable

and intrusive wonderment for another person.

In fact, feeling out of control is one thing

that most perfectionistic INFJs don’t deal

With a foggy mind and a recurring focus on

Truth be told, this is one of the main reasons

finding love and connection can feel so overwhelming

As once they let their floodgates down, the

rush of feelings, emotions, thoughts and curiosities

that come crashing in can make them feel like

they have no time or energy to focus on any

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Comforting and intense, INFJ love is not a

force to be reckoned with. It comes in slow

and then not, cold and then hot.. It’s difficult

to explain to the average person, but these INFJ

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Number 1: Falling in love by Sofia Mouratidis

I fall in love with a man slowly-slowly in the

beginning and once I do, it goes from 0% to 110%.

to realizing I like someone and then falling hard.

with just the way this person is. I accept

indifferent political or even lack of religious

faith. To me that’s what falling in love is:

I give my all, my love, I open my arms to

stay and find comfort from all your fears; I’m a

good listener and I’ll listen to your problems,

Even when the whole world turns against you, I’ll

be there for you. I’m your protector. Your rock.

I’ll sit opposite from you in deep silence.

No need to say a word. Just let me look at

This is no casual fling, no one night stand.

If an INFJ chooses to pursue a relationship

with you at all, it is for the purpose of

spending the rest of your lives together.

You will truly experience what unconditional love

feels like. What it’s like to be supported in

everything you do. What it’s like to be encouraged

when you are down. The INFJ is what you long to

come back to after a weary, arduous, overwhelming

day. The INFJ waits to listen to you, to minister

to you, to ease your worries and fears, to make

you feel like no matter what happens to you, it’s

okay as long as you have the same love waiting for

you everyday when you come back. The INFJ is home.

and about spirituality and the meaning of life.

They will get carried away in their excitement,

eyes sparkling as they explain only to abruptly

stop and ask you whether they are boring you.

push their dorky little glasses up their nose and

curl into a ball on the carpet beside the fire.

The INFJ does not need elaborate vacations

or luxury stays in hotels. They love quiet,

creature comforts. They like the sound of

They like the howl of the wind and sunsets by

the ocean. Nature makes them come alive, makes

them feel like they are one with the universe,

a small speck in the grand scheme of things.

You will wake up one morning to them sobbing

while reading the fate of strangers in a bomb

blast. You will watch the ugliness of the

their tender hearts don’t know how to handle

it. They might weep over a colleague they have

But most of all they will assure you of their

love everyday without having to say it. You will

feel their love envelop you, always there, always

waiting, at a moment’s notice. You will experience

the warmth of their heart, the understanding

in their eyes, the kindness in their smile.

And if it doesn’t, all the fire in the world will

not be enough to burn away the memory of them.

INFJ meets someone interesting, dates them,

sees their flaws but more or less consciously

decides that they have much “potential” for

been the environment in which they lived,

failed, the other person doesn’t want to grow

we are unhappy, we keep doing all that we can

to make them feel secure of us, to make them

see that they can trust us and we are always

there whatever - but we are not reciprocated,

we explain what is happening from our point

of view but they just tell us that we are

chances, we simply close the door forever

they are astonished, they don’t even question

and they keep on looking for us again and again,

even after years… because it is said that nobody

can give you everything like an INFJ does… it

must be true indeed, if my first ex husband

tried to have me back for 2 years and the second

after 4 years is still chasing me, even though I

told him many times that to me when a story is

closed it is closed forever, no way to recover

you can’t open the door again once it’s closed,

an INFJ doesn’t close a door, they nail it shut

as for the following relationships? well…

love yourself enough that will make you stop

wanting to be the savior of the world and stop

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With kindness intertwined with every decision

and relationship an INFJ holds, it’s not to

say that they don’t have their fair share of pet

peeves when it comes to interacting with others.

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Through their infectious and notable aura, the

INFJ can often communicate how they’re feeling

easiest through the unspoken ways of their

energy. Whether they’ve become offended by

what someone has said or they simply can’t handle

someone’s disingenuous personality, it’s usually

in the things the INFJ doesn’t say that speak the

loudest. Although not everyone can pick up on this

sudden, or not-so sudden energy shift, when in a

group setting with people that know the INFJ well,

the subtle change in their demeanor is overly

obvious. These changes can be made apparent

through their body language, their tone of voice,

or simply the fact that their reserved nature is

this extroverted feeler type doesn’t even

notice their outer attitude change. And sometimes

this change can be so loud that their friends or

loved ones feel obligated to give them a nudge in

order to keep the peace within their surroundings

and avoid someone’s feelings getting hurt.

Often seen as amicable and friendly, even to

newcomers they know they won’t necessarily

befriend in the long run, the INFJ personality

type is known for their versatile communication

style. They’re easily able to adapt to all sorts

of personality types, energy levels and preferred

topics. However, when this extroverted-introvert

begins to withdraw their obligation to keep an

up-beat exchange of communication with someone,

it can be a clear sign that they really don’t

like an individual. Now, the tricky thing

with this change in communication style is

that it’s quite similar to that of an INFJ who

is beginning to feel comfortable around someone.

their naturally introverted side with how

they think they should act to seem friendly,

they can seem less engaged at times. However, the

difference lies within their attentiveness and

willingness to voluntarily engage. It’s almost as

if when the INFJ is disinterested, they’ll resort

to a professional-esque presenting demeanor

rather than a laid back and observant style.

Number 3: They’re constantly making excuses

Yes, INFJs are introverts. And yes, at times, they

can be caught telling a fib or two to safely back

themselves out of a social invitation. However,

when an INFJ is genuinely interested in engaging

and growing a relationship with someone they

deem worthy of their time, you can bet they’ll

have a few connections they can effortlessly

maintain through intermittent hangouts. And so,

if someone is constantly attempting to make plans

with an INFJ only to get rain-checked and politely

rejected by means of a busy schedule, you can

bet the INFJ is probably not crazy about them.

simply doesn’t have the heart to tell someone

that they’re not interested. This is mostly

because they don’t have a logical reason that

can be said without putting someone down.

INFJs have general expectations for those they

can see themselves forming a true connection with,

if those expectations aren’t met, this introverted

type simply doesn’t see the point in pretending.

Speaking of the INFJ’s general expectation for

those they’re considering to be potential matches

in terms of new friendships and relationships,

a well-managed ego tends to be one of the most

important. In fact, egotistic traits such as being

attention-thirsty, materialistic, gossiping or

overly competitive are amongst the top few that

the INFJ just can’t take on. No matter how sweet

and flattering an individual is, when an INFJ has

observed these specific traits more than once,

they will quickly refuse to engage in the nonsense

of it all - sometimes in a rather noticeable way.

Despite their deep-rooted need to deter conflict

of all kinds, the INFJ won’t hesitate to keep a

straight face when someone is sharing an offensive

joke about another person. They won’t engage in

compliment-fishing and they won’t be the one

congratulating a winner that only got to where

they are through dirty practices. INFJs are the

first type to be genuinely happy for someone

who deserves it, and if they’re not, they probably

don’t like you.. For rather good reasons, that is.

Sure, turning down plans and retracting their

obligated friendliness may be key signs, but

one way someone will absolutely know for sure if

the INFJ dislikes them is through sheer avoidance.

Haven’t seen the INFJ in a while? It’s not

uncommon that there’s someone they’re trying

to avoid talking to. Whether they suddenly choose

to park on the other side of the work parking lot,

go to the gym at a different time of day, the

INFJ will take truly remarkable measures to stay

away from someone they don’t like engaging with.

While for most types a simple engagement may seem

like less effort in comparison to changing

for this intuitive type, making it easiest to

ignore the fact that someone exists tends to

seem like the easier route. And if they can’t

physically avoid someone, they may just happen

to be on a phone call at the same time everyday

or will avoid being caught without headphones

not interested in engaging in the slightest.

personality type prefers to take a back seat

no matter who it is they’re engaging with.

conversation, they don’t hesitate to still

By asking well thought out questions pertaining

to philosophical viewpoints and other’s personal

experiences, the INFJ can take a surface-level

exchange of words and morph it into a much more

profound setting. And while they try to avoid

brain-picking one specific individual within

these less-intimate conversations as they

would in a one-on-one setting, they may still

use this as a tactic to pull the attention away

from a conversation-hogger. Speaking earlier of

their detest of attention-seeking behavior, INFJs

love to give the talked-over one of the group the

microphone. Without putting the shy ones on the

spot, this introverted type loves to skip over the

ones who love to hear themselves talk and give

the floor to those who have something to say.

So, if they’re point-blank ignoring someone’s

input within a conversation in order to focus

on someone else in the group, they probably

feel rubbed the wrong way in some aspects.

It’s a well-known fact that the INFJ can pick up

on and mentally absorb the energies around them.

Often feeling invigorated and uplifted around

Within just a short time of absorbing the feelings

of someone who is negative, disrespectful,

pessimistic or can’t help but to fall into the

trap of victim-mentality, the INFJ’s temporary

physical well-being will change. Feelings

of exhaustion, weakness, nausea, dizziness,

fogginess or simply feeling burned out after an

interaction with someone is a sheer sign that they

don’t jive well with the energy that person is

emitting. In fact, they may even find themselves

suddenly yawning or verbally complaining about how

tired they feel with this person without realizing

what it is that suddenly affected them. Ironically

however, the empathic INFJ often holds a soft spot

for those who struggle with these difficult

belief systems and outward energies. This

makes it so that it’s not that they necessarily

dislike those who deplete them of their mental

and physical energy, but rather, they dislike

how much those ill-rooted feelings affect them.

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When you think of the INFJ personality type, you’d

think their qualities of high self-standards and

intuition would act to shield them from addictive

tendencies. Well, unfortunately that’s not always

the case. INFJs - like most other personality

types - possess a level of addiction in their

own unique way, and for their own reasons;

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to be prone to addictive traits is due to

the deep connection they insistently make with

everything they enjoy. This tendency of course,

can be used for good; allowing the INFJ to stay

on track with healthy behavior and habits that

make them feel good. However, on the other side of

things this deep-bonding can pertain to behaviors

that aren’t so beneficial. For example, if an

INFJ forms an addiction to an illicit substance,

it’s not only the substance they bond to, but

everything that comes with it. They will feel

a connection to the way it’s consumed, the places

they consume it, and the activities they do while

under the influence. This behaviour is actually

quite common in addiction, meaning it’s not

exactly unique to the INFJ personality type per

say. However, INFJs feel this bond emotionally,

intuitive need to feel things on a deeper

level in order to truly enjoy them, they can

definitely end up feeling a little more affected.

Number 2: An escape from their loud minds

Most INFJs don’t realize it.. But for the most

part, this introspective personality type is

always on the lookout for something or even

someone that can help quiet their chattery minds

for just a moment. They wouldn’t change their

inner imagination and observing tendencies for

the world, but when they get a taste of what it’s

like to be free from thought for a brief while,

they can feel a sense of relief that’s difficult

to give up. Whether it be those couple of glasses

of weekend wine that eventually turns into

like setting out to scroll through social

media for 20 minutes only to find an hour or

two has gone by. These silly little habits that

aren’t thought much of can eventually turn into

a little more than just a habit overtime..

All for the sake of a little mental break.

When INFJs aren’t looking for a break from

their inner chatter, they’re diving deeper

and expanding their inner imagination. When it

comes to mind-altering substances, the INFJ can

be more prone to dabbling in the psychedelic

realm than any other illicit affair. In fact,

according to Arrow Passage Recovery Centre.com,

“while personality types such as the ENFP & ENTP

tend to be more thrill seeking, they’re said

to be more prone to amphetamine addictions.

Meanwhile personality INFJs and INTJs tend

to believe that everything in the universe is

interconnected, leading them to be more likely to

develop an addiction to hallucinogenic mushrooms.

Some may argue that these types of substances

are not addictive, but to the INFJ who has such

a longing to see the deepest aspects of things,

mind-altering substances that allow them a deeper

look can really catch their interest. They may

even go out of their way to find a place for these

substances within their daily lives, as living

life on the surface can seem boring in comparison.

If an INFJ discovers a new song they really

like, you can be sure it’ll be on repeat for

at least a few days, or atleast long enough

for them to get tired of it. Or better yet,

if this personality type takes a liking to a

new-found condiment, you can be sure they’re going

to have it with every meal.. Until they can’t

fathom the thought of eating it again. Of course

it’s not always this way, but for the most part,

when INFJs find something new they really love,

they will wear it out in a somewhat excessive

manner, in hopes of ‘getting it out of their

system’. This tactic actually works for the

simpler things like songs and condiments,

but what happens when this ‘over indulgence’ leads

to a growing interest in the behaviour rather than

the opposite outcome? This is when addiction

can creep on in.. eventually leading the INFJ

to realize the hole they’ve dug themselves

in. Interestingly enough, the stress of this

realization only adds fuel to the fire, especially

when it’s paired with feeling out of control.

Number 5: They’re more prone to depression

With deep thoughts and a harshly realistic

there’s no wonder why the INFJ chooses to spend

so much time barricaded in their minds. However,

living in your own thoughts doesn’t always provide

the escape the INFJ is longing for.. In fact, like

we said before, sometimes their mind is the thing

that needs escaping from. And because of this,

the INFJ is actually one of the main personality

types that is considered to be prone to depressive

episodes in life. Eventually, most INFJs will

develop certain coping mechanisms that will help

them manage the dark times, yet, most of the time

they end up prolonging the process. Instead of

opting for feel-good behaviors that take a little

effort such as taking a walk in nature, mediating,

and journaling, they’re more likely to turn to

coping mechanisms that they’ve used in the past,

such as binge-watching TV or netflix, video

activities that take their mind off things.

In turn, these low-vibration activities end

them further away to their normal selves.

INFJs are equipped with a tertiary extroverted

feeling function that can definitely cause a

host of addictive behaviors if not used properly.

Normally this function lies in the background of

the INFJ brain acting to help balance things out

and prevent them from relying too heavily on their

dominant functions. Yet, in times of serious

stress or burnout the INFJ can end up relying

on this function in place of their introverted

intuition, and that’s when things can get ugly.

overworking, overindulgence, impulsivity,

and recklessness takes over when the INFJ is in

this ‘grip stress’ place - making the INFJ much

more prone to addictive behaviors than normal.

They may find that they’re doing things that are

quite out-of-character such as recklessly spending

more money than usual or eating things they don’t

usually allow themselves to. This dominance

of their extraverted feeling function can be

especially dangerous when the INFJ doesn’t quite

realize they’re in this negative loop because they

can easily rationalize everything they do in the

name of the introverted intuition. Little do they

know, that dominant function is M.I.A, and their

untrained tertiary function has taken its place;

wreacking some serious havoc along the way.

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12 Life Tips For The Rarest Personality Type Infj

12 Life Tips For The Rarest Personality Type Infj explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.

The concept of being the rarest personality

type in the world isn’t as fun or easy as

While everyone goes through their own struggles

throughout life, starting from a young age,

most INFJs will never feel as if they completely

Most INFJs wouldn’t change their personality

if they had the chance, but to learn how to

easily navigate through the human experience

as an INFJ can definitely be life changing.

Today we’ll be presenting 12 life tips for

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Number 1: Spend quality time with fewer people

To be a naturally born introvert who also

craves deep connections can be a challenging

Finding the balance between allowing people

in and spending time alone is a constant battle

However, on the bright side, once they understand

to follow their intuitive feelings on certain

people, INFJs find it easier to navigate who

they should spend their time getting to know

and who they should avoid for the sake of

When an INFJ has a comfortable amount of close

friends who truly understand the INFJ for

who they are, the support system will automatically

create an incomparable harmony and balance

There’s no doubt the INFJ personality type

is known to spend a good amount of their waking

hours either observing their surroundings

While this is completely natural and necessary

for this intuitive personality type, they

can find true balance in life when they take

the time to detach from their thinking and

Whether it’s through a creative outlet such

as writing, reading, painting, drawing, and

so on - or through mediation, walking in nature,

To spend at least 20 minutes a day actively

staying out of their overworked minds, an

INFJ can find a new sense of clarity in their

Number 3: Share your thoughts to deal with

Because the INFJ mind is working 24/7, they

tend to think they can easily come up with

However, in times of conflict, the INFJ’s

inner world can become so out of balance that

overthinking can actually cause the opposite

This is why it’s best for an INFJ to share

their thoughts and even their personal problems

with a trusted source, in order to get some

INFJs may be surprised to find that when they

discuss their issues and say them outloud,

they are able to come to a conclusion much

quicker than if they were to ruminate in their

Not only does writing serve as a creative

outlet for INFJs specifically, it can also

be a great way for this overthinking personality

Thought-unloading and brainstorming on paper

can serve as an incredible therapeutic tool

for just about anyone, however, with the INFJs

having introverted intuition and introverted

thinking as 2 of their main functions, they

can easily benefit from this form of self-care.

When they think on paper it allows them to

properly organize their thoughts to avoid

endless spiraling thoughts and lack of focus.

Plus, not only do infjs have great writing

skills, but they are also able to easily map

out their ideas and plans in order for people

Number 5: Practise gratitude as much as possible

INFJs tend to focus on the future, which is

great for motivation and adaptability, however

that, mixed with perfectionism and on-and-off

self doubt can cause an INFJ to miss the present

By practising gratitude and self-awareness

this introverted personality type can come

outside of their inner worlds and just enjoy

life for what it is, even if it’s only for

only the INFJs that should make this a daily

Whether you make it a habit to give thanks

throughout your day, or you decide to jot

before bed, by fitting this simple practise

into your daily schedule it can be extremely

helpful, especially for people who stay in

Most introverts rely on a drink or 2 to handle

social situations at times, and there's nothing

However, with the INFJs seemingly addictive

personality, need for connection, and struggle

to fully open up to others can lead this introverted

personality type to step outside of their

heads and not overthink when socializing.

This goes with other substances and guilty

Silently analyzing is one of INFJs favorite

With their deep interest in the human mind

and behaviour, they could sit at the window-seat

in a coffee shop and simply watch people pass

In fact, according to Pyshologytoday.com it’s

an innate human trait to analyse body language

and facial expressions to try to figure people

crowds when in public, may even listen in

in stranger’s conversations or analyze people

on the bus on your commute home from work.

Everyone could use a little time in nature,

in fact, not only does spending at least 120

minutes outdoors per day help reduce stress

Among other amazing benefits of nature for

mental, emotional and psychological well-being,

the INFJ personality type can benefit from

this therapeutic form of self care in other

Nourishing the soul is a huge aspect in the

life of an INFJ, and too much time indoors

regular visits to their local forests, lakes,

parks and trails to truly feel themselves!

INFJs are people pleasers, to say the least.

They can easily fall into peer pressure because

they never want anyone to feel embarrassed

While this sometimes helps them disconnect

from their comfort zones and face their fears,

it can also call for a dangerous situation.

So, for an INFJ to take the time to properly

think things through and listen to their gut

feeling before proceeding with a decision,

they will feel mentally prepared and in control.

It is much easier said than done, and does

take some practise - especially for an INFJ

Number 10: Choose a rewarding career path

it comes to a career path, money isn’t the

Nothing is more rewarding than giving back

to humanity for this personality type because

They can see past the construct of society

so an average corporate job may not be the

A rewarding career path where the INFJ can

have the freedom to use their creativity and

perfectionism to give back in some way can

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for the INFJ personality type, click the link

But learning to trust intuitive hunches is

absolutely crucial for the INFJ personality

In fact, INFJs can feel seriously confused

the outer details and expectations of life.

Once this personality begins to use their

introverted intuition function properly, they

can easily make decisions that are in their

Not only is this an underrated human ability,

but for INFJs, it is completely necessary

Plus, the more you use it, the stronger it

Number 12: Don’t be afraid to use your extroverted

INFJs can easily come across as an extroverted

person if they feel like they need to, in

As most introverts have a hard time with human

connection, INFJs can use their extroverted

side to their advantage when it comes to certain

social situations, and they shouldn’t feel

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The Things Infjs Find Unbearably Boring

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The Things Infj Would Never Admit To Doing

The Things Infj Would Never Admit To Doing explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.

introspection, INFJs tend to know their own

behaviors, tendencies and thought patterns pretty

well compared to some other personality types.

INFJ’s prefer to turn a blind eye to.. And

in some cases, would never admit to doing.

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They say you can never love someone into loving

you, and you can never change another person

to be more of what you want them to be. And

while INFJ’s know these philosophical pieces

of advice to be the utmost truth, if there’s

one personality type that would put the blood,

sweat and tears into altering another person’s

outlook on life it would be the INFJ themselves.

Not only is this optimistic type able to see

the good in everyone, they also believe that

with the right empathy and encouragement, old

wounds can be patched; ultimately resulting in

different behaviors. Unfortunately, INFJs have

the tendency to disregard the repetitive actions

and intentions of others in hopes that they can

nurse them back to health. They can’t stand to

turn their backs on someone who the INFJ believes

needs their aid, despite being used as a doormat.

In the end, no matter how many philosophical

pulls back to safety, and opportunities the

INFJ throws at these types of people, they’ll

only change if they have the desire to.. And

that’s a difficult pill for the INFJ to swallow.

Number 2: Experiencing FOMO (Fear of missing out)

Introverts at heart and extroverts when absolutely

necessary, this personality type prefers to spend

their spare time nestled in the comfort of

their own homes. However, deep down inside,

the INFJ homebody wishes they could experience

the desire to socialize like their peers.

They are adventurous at heart and hate to

admit that their need for ample alone time

may just hold them back in life when it comes to

opportunities and connections. In fact, INFJs are

those people that despite never taking other’s up

on their invitations, still want to be invited.

Not only do they not want to feel more excluded

but they also want to be invited for that odd

chance that they feel especially adventurous.

In the end, when they choose not to attend

a social gathering only to hear about it the

next day, INFJs can become overwhelmed with

a feeling that they missed out on something.

Through their extroverted feeling function,

others that sometimes overrides the underlying

disinterest they have towards most social affairs.

most INFJs would agree that to constantly be

alone doesn’t necessarily mean they’re lonely.

Yet, without a close companion, whether it

be rooted in romance, friendship or family,

most INFJs experience gruesome periods of

on having the ability to self-regulate without

the need of other people’s input or affection.

And yet, in their times of overwhelming stress,

feeling misunderstood, and even in their times of

joy and self-pride, deep down they wish they had

someone to share their thoughts with. They wish

they could share the ups and downs of life with

a like-minded person. In reality, even if they

have someone close to them whom they consider

trustworthy and genuine, it doesn’t always take

away from this core feeling of isolation. It takes

a certain type of person and unfortunately years

of spending time together for the INFJ to open

up fully. Which brings us to our next point..

Number 4: Wishing, praying and fantasizing

With extroverted feeling and sensing at the

forefront of their cognitive functions, the INFJ

personality type is much more inclined to take the

necessary steps to understand someone else fully

than they are to open up about themselves. They

carry themselves with an aura of open-mindedness,

genuine curiosity and an open ear that draws

people towards them and compels them to spill

all of their deepest darkest thoughts. And while

the INFJ truly wouldn’t want to have it any other

way due to their innate curiosity towards the ways

of the human mind, there’s a piece of them that

longs for someone to create a safe and patient

space for them to divulge their own ponderings.

In fact, despite being closed off and reserved on

the outside, internally most INFJs are wishing,

waiting and hoping that that specific person

comes along eventually. Someone who doesn’t feel

intimidated by the INFJ’s self-containedness.

Someone who gently but firmly pushed the INFJ

And ultimately, someone who quiets that part

of the INFJ’s self-pity that makes them believe

to watch others to gain the necessary (or

completely unnecessary) insight they crave.

With a mix of blank stares and peripheral vision,

this hawk-eyed analytical type knows exactly

what we mean when we say they try their best to

observe without seeming like they’re observing.

the strange looks that come with it, most

INFJs form the ability to do exactly that;

stare without seeming like they’re staring,

listen without seeming like they’re listening,

and even playing private investigator through

social media without being traced. INFJs are a

nosey bunch, and through their combination of

extroverted sensing and introverted thinking,

their curiosities in this questionable manner.

Luckily, they’re rarely caught, and when they are,

they have the preparedness to play it off cool.

Empathetic and optimistic, most INFJs claim to

have the belief that everyone has their own sense

of intelligence in this life. Yet in reality,

when getting to know others, they’re often met

with utter shock and amazement when someone’s true

intellect is proven. They tend to subconsciously

believe that there couldn’t possibly be others

who evaluate life and self as deeply as they do.

Whether it be rooted in ego or just an overall

distrust in humanity’s ability to think outside

of what they’re told to think, when the INFJ

is met with someone of like-mindedness and

brilliance they are slightly taken aback with the

internal realization that maybe they doubt other’s

thinking abilities more than they should. In fact,

most INFJs don’t make time for new connections

or dreaded small talk with the conclusion that

they’ll be caught in a surface-level, dumbed-down

conversation, discussing everything about nothing.

When in reality, they’d probably learn a thing or

two if they just remained open to the idea that

there really are clever people in the world.

INFJs hold a unique mix of characteristics that

can either help and hinder their connections with

others. Besides their empathy, understanding,

and need to help the ones they love, the INFJ

displays behaviors that can be quite damaging to

the people they form connections with. Notorious

for their unforthcoming demeanor, unwavering

independence and obvious lack of interest in,

INFJs can make the one’s trying to get close

to them feel completely shut out and unworthy.

Regardless of how genuine and honest someone

demonstrates their intentions towards the INFJ,

meet others with a sense of suspicion and

doubt until proven otherwise. Unfortunately,

when conflict arises and the other person is

given the chance to demonstrate their genuine

interest for the INFJ, they’ll most likely be

met with the silent treatment in which they

have the challenge to patiently work around.

Luckily, once connected with another person,

proper communication serves to be the foundation

of their relationships. However, this approach

to proven love and affection is toxic in and of

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How To Spot An Infj Personality Type In Minutes

How To Spot An Infj Personality Type In Minutes explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.

do INFJs really show who they are from their

outward appearance? No.. not really. In fact, this

rare and unassuming personality type is one of

the most difficult to spot from an outside look,

but today we’re going to tell you exactly what to

look out for to easily spot an INFJ in minutes!

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The first and foremost thing to look out for when

deciphering whether or not someone is an INFJ

figurative language and comparisons in an

attempt to put their mind’s work into words

easy enough for other people to understand.

They may seem to pause, look elsewhere, or

stutter their words in an attempt to find the

right words to use without seeming unnecessarily

deep or introspective. In fact, some INFJs may

even resort to using their hands or a pen and

paper to effectively communicate their thoughts.

You can expect transition words such as “like”

and “um” to litter their speech as they strive

to express themselves as coherently as possible,

without losing the interest in the other person.

attentive listening skills can also pose as

a clear indicator of this personality type.

important, you can expect unwavered attention,

eye contact and focus. There will be no phone

scrolling, no interrupting and no half-effort

replies. INFJs ask only the most appropriate

questions that will allow the opposite party

to effectively communicate their feelings in a way

that the INFJ understands on a deeper level. Not

only do people walk away from a deep conversation

with an INFJ feeling like they’ve been understood

in a way they never have before, but they can bet

that the INFJ will remember every minor detail

for the next time you see them. Once information

is stored in their chaotic inner filing system,

it’s there to stay! Bonus points if you talk

about something introspective and intellectual

that catches their attention and you’ll see their

eyes light up and their personality come alive!

INFJs are normally quiet and reserved inorder

surroundings without too many distractions.

And when they’re observing and analysing,

you can expect to witness the infamous INFJ stare.

Whether they're caught in deep introspection, lost

in an imaginative daydream, or simply admiring

something or someone for the beauty they display,

there’s nothing that quite compares to the

intense stare an INFJ gives off. Ironically,

if you bring this to their attention, they’ll

have no idea how they looked from the outside,

Of course, other introspective personality

types may have their times of staring off

into the distance in an effort to connect to

their inner mind, but the INFJ stare comes

paying for someone else’s food, or even being

the first one to start cleaning up at a party,

the INFJ gets a high from helping others that they

can’t get from anywhere else. Their compassion

and kindness is quite obvious when you’ve

spent a good amount of time with an INFJ,

type is matched with their innate common sense and

intuition, which allows them to spot the people

and situations that need help before they’re

willing to ask for it. For example, one INFJ

reddit user claimed they “sometimes linger in

a grocery aisle for longer than needed when

they spot a person in a wheelchair to make sure

they don’t need anything from a higher shelf”.

Now.. that may fall into the category of the INFJs

tendency to lend a hand where it’s not really

needed or wanted - but in the times where this

tactic actually does assist - it can make their

whole day, and usually the other person’s too!

language and facial expressions say otherwise.

As a matter of fact, if you were to pass an INFJ

on the streets, you’d probably see their demeanor

appearing either sad, lost in thought, irritated

or even slightly angry. Yet, if you were to tap

them on the shoulder to ask them for the time,

for example, they would greet you with bright eyes

and a warm smile while racing to get you the time

in an orderly fashion. Being highly sensitive and

introverted, there’s no doubt most INFJs can feel

a little uncomfortable in certain public settings,

and it shows. But aside from that, similar to

the INFJ stare, with introverted intuition

being at the forefront of their functions,

this seemingly cold demeanor is nothing more

with little focus on how others think. They love

their alone time and can surely live a happy life

without having many people around. For example,

INFJs for the most part, would prefer a night in

over a night out, a solo travel over a group trip,

and independent living over having roommates.

They have specific goals, morals and values that

they don’t want to have to rely on someone else

to approve of before going forward. In fact, some

INFJs are known to take the non-traditional route

in life in an effort to avoid feeling tied down to

a job, or specific way of living. This means they

may be known to do things like taking on that

solo travel, starting a business on their own,

and even simple things like not conforming to

gender-specific roles within a family dynamic.

INFJs want to accomplish things on their own terms

by being their own bosses in life. In other words,

what INFJs want is what INFJs get, and there’s

Despite the rare and uncommon quirks of the INFJ

personality type that cause them to stick out like

a sore thumb in certain scenarios, most of the

time, this introverted being prefers to blend

in with the background of things. They don’t want

to be the centre of attention and they never want

to be personally rewarded for something that took

a team effort. The INFJ is known to actually take

conscious efforts in hope of blending in or

seeming.. normal. For example, they know they

tend to stare when in deep introspection, so they

make conscious efforts to avoid it the best they

can for the sake of other people. Quite frankly,

if an INFJ could opt for being a fly on the wall

in social gatherings, it probably wouldn’t be

so difficult to get them to come out of hiding.

Once you’ve cracked the INFJ’s surface, the

following layers just keep getting deeper

and deeper. Not everyone will be invited to

see this side of the INFJ, but if you do,

you can consider yourself approved by their

intuitive radar. The depth and intensity of an

INFJ isn’t always so apparent until you get them

talking about something they’re interested in;

a topic they’ve had a good amount of time

to analyse and ruminate on. And while they

try to keep their explanations and viewpoints

as surface-level as possible to ensure they

don’t lose their listener - their passion

shines through and causes them to dive-deep

known to ask seemingly personal questions,

blurt out insightful blurbs or opinions, and take

the simplest of topics into a whole new realm of

curiosity that other personality types are usually

a little taken-aback by. INFJs can see a world

that others can’t, and they so desperately

Well, that wraps up today’s video, Psych-os.. Do

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