8 Signs Of Infj Empath Unhealed Trauma explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.
For the INFJ personality type - and many other
intuitive empaths for that matter - unhealed
trauma always finds a way to resurface in
order to be dealt with. The only thing is
that sometimes INFJs just aren’t ready to
deal with them, subconsciously burying them
Welcome or welcome back psychos, in today’s
video we’ll be discussing the 8 signs of infj
empath unhealed trauma. Before we get into it,
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We hear it in psychology time and time again,
the need for constant control often stems from
the feeling of lack of control in life. For the
INFJ empath in particular, whether trauma happened
early in life or in recent years - a need for
control can be from past feelings of vulnerability
and helplessness. This leads the INFJ to put up a
wall and take everything into their own hands in
hopes of avoiding that feeling at all costs. And
since they’re already prone to perfectionism and
organization, they can feel like micromanaging
everything will minimize the chances of things
going wrong. Not only does unhealed trauma cause
the empathic INFJ to worry about what could happen
if they don’t control the situation, but also what
will happen if they do, and things go wrong. Plus,
it’s not only their own life that unhealed trauma
can cause them to control, but also sometimes that
of their loved ones. Over protecting and biasly
suggesting alternatives to loved ones’ decisions
may feel like a safety net, but it’s not fun
for those being challenged on their choices.
INFJs are naturally independent, there’s no doubt
about that. Yet, an INFJ who has trust in those
around them know that accepting help can feel
rewarding for the other person. They see that
others have empathy as well, and asking for
help will restore that belief time and time
again. However, for the INFJ empath that is bound
down by unhealed trauma, asking for help isn’t all
that easy. And we’re not even talking about
emotional help or a heartfelt conversation,
but even the simple things like asking a stranger
for directions or asking a coworker for advice on
a project. Whether they don’t want to give anyone
else credit for their hard work, or they don’t
want to become vulnerable by admitting they can’t
do it all, these could all be signs of unhealed
empath trauma. In fact, while the main reason for
this type of distrust is the fear of being judged
or discriminated against, another big factor is
their doubt in other’s ability to understand them.
Most INFJs with unhealed past trauma feel
helpless, seeing themselves as an unsolvable
it doesn’t necessarily mean they’re dealing with
unhealed trauma. However, when the idea of change,
they may have an issue. Most intuitives with
unhealed trauma often not only have a resistance
to change, but are usually extremely skeptical if
that change should be for the positive. It’s as if
lives, they feel a wave of guilt and shame,
subconsciously avoiding feelings of celebration;
all stemming from the idea that they don’t deserve
good things. While most INFJs are able to
deep down they feel panicked that this positive
change may pull them out of their comfort
zones of feeling not good enough. This can be
especially difficult in romantic relationships
acceptance in good things or kind gestures
can make it nearly impossible to please or provide
a foundation where they feel worthy and safe.
While fearing failure when starting a new
endeavour is totally normal for almost any
of talking yourself out of new experiences
is a little different. In fact, according
e-counseling platform, avoiding failure at the
cost of your own ambition is a sure sign of
underlying unhealed trauma, usually resulting
in missing out on opportunities, relationships,
and careers because of this underlying fear to
fail. This fear of failure also stunts creativity,
increases self-doubt and insecurity, and gives
the self-impression that they cannot fend for
themselves or make decisions on their own.
Instead of asking for help, which is a no-go
for the independent INFJ, they rather just
skip out on the opportunity all together.
It’s hard to believe someone can actually
the fear of success, but when it comes to
the internal-thinking habits of the INFJ,
it doesn't seem too far-fetched. Have you ever
held back from achieving something, not for the
reasons of fearing failure, but in fact for the
fear of what will happen if you succeed? For INFJ
empaths with unhealed trauma, this fear of success
goes with the same idea that they feel as if they
don’t deserve anything good for themselves.
The other side of that mentality is the fear of
losing things they already have, so they fear
losing this success before they even get it,
creating tremendous amounts of resistance.
INFJ empaths with unhealed emotional wounds
also have a habit of covering up their trauma with
the self-label of being humble while pretending to
be uninterested in big successes. However, this
is all just a front to the unworthiness that they
feel deep down inside. This can often sabotage
any chances of even beginning the road to really
stepping into their empathetic power because they
are so familiar with running from positive change.
Everyone has their insecurities, even the
most intuitive of the bunch. And although
unshakable lack of self confidence, it’s either
burnout, unhealed trauma or a little or both.
For the INFJ personality type specifically, they
are already naturally harder on themselves in
comparison to other types, and past traumas only
heighten this wilted sense of self-assurance.
In fact, a deep sense of self uncertainty
is most prominent in intuitive types that
experienced trauma related to emotional abuse,
neglect or abandonment. Most often occurring
in childhood and abusive relationships, any
situation that led an INFJ empath down the
path of questioning their self-worth at some
point in their life can play a huge factor.
In order to feel genuinely self-confident, you
need to have a good idea of who you are inside
and out. Unfortunately for the empathic INFJ
who is so familiar with absorbing the emotions
of others, there is a large part of them that
feels like they don’t know who they truly are
because they have gotten so familiar with
using auto-pilot ingenuine reactions to life.
most INFJ empaths need a significant amount
of time in a day to unwind in solitude. But
it’s important to keep in mind that shutting
people out, avoiding social situations and
distancing from loved ones can all be signs of
emotional wounds that have yet to be healed.
Depending on the severity and consistency in the
thoughts of the traumatic experience it can lead
to a spiral of internal emotional turmoil and
uncontrollable emotions. And if the INFJ empath
is completely consumed by the trauma it can feel
extremely exhausting to even navigate through
the bare minimum responsibilities of life. Some
INFJs with severe unhealed trauma can actually
see this within themselves and are usually aware
that they are quick to become triggered by outer
circumstances. This pain can still radiate
to the people they surround themselves with,
pain and frustration of the empathetic type,
rollercoaster that comes with unhealed trauma.
The happy INFJ empath is either thinking or
observing, however when unhealed trauma is
in the picture, this powerful type isn’t able to
effectively do either of those things. Unhealed
trauma is not only completely distracting, but
it also has many negative effects on the INFJ’s
natural function stack. In fact, grip stress and
relying on shadow functions can be a direct result
of past traumatic experiences. Holding onto this
unhealed trauma requires copious amounts of effort
leaving them feeling spacey and ungrounded.
These are all intuitive cries for help to pay
attention to and heal the buried psychological
trauma, even if it’s much easier said than done.
And that wraps up today’s video, PSYCH-Os..So,
do you think you may have unhealed trauma as
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