8 Scenarios That Make The Infj Seem Cold Hearted & Ruthless

8 Scenarios That Make The Infj Seem Cold Hearted & Ruthless explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.

While this assumption is often quickly proven

wrong, there are some situations that make

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One of the most surprising INFJ traits has to be

their way with dark humor. With a unique depth

and understanding of the world around them, this

introspective type can display a sense of humor

that has the power to make a fully-crowded room go

silent. A combination of light self-deprecation,

morbidity and ruthlessness, it’s fair to say that

their sense of humor isn’t everyone’s cup of tea.

to try their best to never offend anyone,

not everyone quite understands or appreciates

the INFJ’s unexpected jokes. In fact, although

they don’t like to dig themselves a dark-humored

hole that they can’t get out of, sometimes even

they themselves are taken aback by the things they

come up with. And because of this, no matter how

much effort they put into reading the room before

creaking open the door to their twisted absurdity,

ruthless and detached than they intended.

If there’s one thing that even the INFJ themselves

can’t explain, even despite knowing their

extroverted feeling function, it’s their ability

to reflect the demeanor of those around them.

Through their innate empathy which is always

the INFJ personality type has a keen eye for

the true behaviors of people and ultimately uses

that to subconsciously mirror it back to them.

Almost as if they’re doing karma’s work at times,

the INFJ only comes off as cold hearted and

ruthless to those who are that way to them.

They are the epitome of the saying “I'm rubber,

you're glue; whatever you say bounces off me

and sticks to you" - giving people a taste of

their own medicine right before their eyes.

know and love. Someone who chooses to put

however, may have a different view of this type of

mimicking type. This brings us to our next point..

Despite the INFJ’s ability to remain open minded

to all personality types and personality traits,

Whether it be lack of common sense, an inflated

ego, intended disrespect, self-centeredness,

or any other trait that disrupts the INFJ’s

you can expect a constant eye-roll from this

easily-annoyed type. They say the INFJ has a

love-hate relationship with humanity as a whole.

While they’re always willing to help, they’re so

often disappointed in the areas humans fall short

of simple decency. These are the situations and

people that they’re much more apt to give the

cold shoulder. Sometimes it’s out of spite,

while other times it’s simply due to the fact

that they refuse to interact with such indecency

and prefer to retreat by withdrawing their

energy from the situation. In fact, in most

cases the INFJ’s silence serves to make more of

a statement than if they were to use their words.

personality type, there comes major challenges.

Rooted in their conflict-avoidant problem

solving approach, this nonchalant personality

in an extremely passive way, through expressing

their preferences indirectly and avoiding putting

someone on the spot at all costs. However, this

approach only works with some, and when their

rather unassertive expressions are completely

overlooked they have learned alternative roots.

Still, with utmost patience, the INFJ can become

much more direct, firm, and unavoidable with their

boundary setting when necessary. And while this

head-on approach may seem normal to some people,

when the INFJ has only shown their calm and pliant

demeanor, anyone could feel the shift in energy.

Not to mention, depending on the situation, INFJs

can certainly find themselves saying things that

they normally wouldn’t say for the sake of

saving their mental and emotional sanity.

When all else fails, it’s typical for the INFJ

to pull out their last and only hope to save

themselves. The weapon of mass destruction,

also known as the door slam. This empathetic

personality type above all others has the ability

to either turn someone’s life around or on the

contrary, completely upside down - and that choice

is left up to the receiver. Like we said before,

They’ll take every approach and use every

lasting bit of social energy they have if they

know their kindness is being received properly.

advantage of, they won’t hesitate to slam

the door stone-cold in someone’s face. In fact,

since boundaries are already difficult for the

INFJ to set, it takes a lot out of them to truly

cut someone out of their lives. However, through

the understanding that they can’t keep others

away from the lessons they’re meant to learn

and to hopefully save others from being used and

manipulated by that person they bite the bullet

and kiss their once cherished connection good-bye.

Cold hearted, maybe.. but never without reason.

Number 6: When they’re trying to be less sensitive

Since early childhood it’s not rare for the

INFJ to be constantly told they’re slightly

more sensitive in comparison to the average

person. And while this isn’t exactly a false

statement considering their extroverted feeling

and sensing that makes them innately more intune

with their surroundings, it can certainly make

the INFJ feel as if they need to toughen up.

or their discomfort when it comes to receiving

criticisms, as this personality type matures,

Although their sensitivity is the root to some

of their greatest gifts, they’ll actively try

to be less sensitive, ultimately resulting

in an at-times cold and ruthless demeanor.

Number 7: When they have to be brutally honest

INFJs are one of the best people to go to when you

need to vent or are looking for sound life advice.

Not only is this extroverted feeler type able

to put themselves in other’s shoes but they also

have a way with words by giving the honest truth

without hurting people’s feelings. With a deeper

understanding of the human psyche and the habits

that come with maintaining an earthling brain,

they have the patience to stand by their loved

one’s sides to weather them through any storm.

However, after they’ve given their polite

suggestions, nudges and plans of action time

and time again, they can become rather impatient.

It’s not that their disappointments overtake their

willingness to help, but rather that they can

often see the situation from a bird's eye view,

their philosophical comparisons and shoulder

shrugs replace their constant reassurance.

Simple everyday challenges such as missing the

train or spilling coffee on a new blouse may

seem dire and overwhelming in the moment, but

to the INFJ, it all seems so insignificant.

With a larger-picture view of life, these minor

inconveniences and the reactions they evoke from

others can seem humorous to the INFJ sometimes

calling upon a seemingly insensitive side to them.

Whether they laugh it off or sarcastically

all they’re trying to do is make light of the

situation. However, in the heat of the moment,

snarky remarks and less-than-genuine words of

encouragement can be the last thing to truly

set someone off. Depending on the person and

situation the INFJ’s dismissive attitude can

actually have the opposite effect, causing them to

become more frustrated and even feel disrespected.

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