7 Situations When Giving Infjs Space Is Crucial explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.
Just like every other personality type, there
are certain times and situations where the INFJ
craves attention, acknowledgment and sympathy.
However, being the introspective and introverted
personality type they are, sometimes they
their issues on their own. So, when is it most
crucial to grant the INFJ the space they need?
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Things like disagreements and sharing difficult
news are challenging for just about anyone. By
triggering an irritating discomfort within us,
it’s fair to want to alleviate that uneasiness
as fast as possible. And while some people
are quick to try and solve this uneasiness
through more communication, sometimes it’s
best to take some time and give some space
to everyone involved. Well, at least that’s what
the INFJ would say. Whether the situation becomes
heated or not, processing and decompressing
are extremely necessary for the INFJ to be
able to come back with effective communication
and attentiveness. Without this required space,
they won’t be clear-minded enough to approach
the situation rationally. In fact, with their
mind going a thousand miles a minute, INFJs are
likely to shut down completely without getting
to the bottom of what the discussion was really
about. And while this space is sometimes entirely
necessary, there are certain communication styles
that allow the INFJ to process and effectively
communicate in real-time, but it takes a special
person and special patience on the other end.
almost always keep their distance in one way or
another. They require ample amounts of alone time,
no matter how much they value their current
connection. Luckily, once a friend or partner
has had the time to figure out the INFJ’s need
for temporary isolation, it’s not difficult
to pick up their cues. While it may start off
with the INFJ verbally communicating this need,
even in the most unpredictable times, it usually
becomes a second nature to those that spend enough
time with the INFJ. This is especially true
in joint-living situations where the INFJ is
challenged to share their valued time and space
with another individual. Although the INFJ isn’t
always able to explain why they need space, or
what they plan to do with their desired alone
time, it’s in the respectful non-questioning
of another that the INFJ feels safe to do so.
clarity that any sort of immediate reply is not
expected, or leaving the house for a few hours
allowing them the freedom of solitude without
the self-made pressure to explain themselves.
Whether they’ve notoriously taken on more than
they should have due to their self-criticism,
time of life that requires every angle of
their focus and patience, when the INFJ says
they’re too busy to make plans, they usually
mean it. In these overwhelming times, it's best
to not add one more thing to their to-do list,
or to guilt them into the fact that they seem to
never make time for other people. Even if it’s
not external commitments that they’re balancing,
sometimes the INFJ can become overburdened with
self-improvement or their continuous attempt to
get back to a healthy equilibrium. Whatever it is,
when the INFJ is noticeably overwhelmed, the
only appropriate approach would be to offer a
legitimate solution or to lend a hand. However,
even if you show up with this helpful attitude,
don’t be offended if the INFJ stubbornly refuses
help while insisting on doing it themselves.
Notorious for their door slamming tactic to
abruptly shutting out toxic relationships,
this sudden and painful approach isn’t always
the case. Whether they’ve outgrown a connection,
decided to focus on themselves, or simply
don’t have the same feelings they once did,
sometimes the INFJ feels the need to distance
themselves from their current relationships.
And while it’s of course painful on both ends,
and may cause their now ex to feel compelled
they have better chances of the connection
continuing if the INFJ is just left with their
thoughts. Yes, the INFJ wants to feel wanted,
and does appreciate when their partner is able
to effectively communicate how they’re feeling,
but once it’s all said and done, INFJs need
decision. If the INFJ is bombarded by another
person’s emotions in times of self-reflection,
they can easily become overwhelmed resulting
in rash, and sometimes regrettable decisions.
However, when they’re able to effectively process
their thoughts, past memories, and focus on their
own emotions, there’s a good chance they’ll get in
touch with the love they hold for that individual.
On the opposite spectrum, it’s a good idea to
give the INFJ space when a new relationship has
just emerged. Actually, aside from the fact
that this personality type is easily scared
away by early signs of clinginess and dependence,
there’s nothing that makes the INFJ’s heart grow
fonder than a healthy amount of distance at the
beginning stages. Just like any other experience,
the INFJ requires an ample amount of time to
process each stage of getting to know someone.
They need time to run through each detail of
their interaction with this potential person,
ponder on their assumptions, and essentially talk
themselves into opening their hearts. Although
the INFJ isn’t fond of playing hard-to-get
games like who can wait longer to text back,
this potential partner or friend bombards
the INFJ with wanting to see them everyday,
it take you so long to reply” card, most INFJs
would promptly run the other way. Ironically,
once the INFJ is happily in a relationship or
friendship, these things aren’t nearly as cringy.
Number 6: When they begin acting out of character
shake the INFJ from their calm and understanding
character. In fact, even in times of upheaval,
INFJs are known to be the ones to keep the peace
while effectively problem solving. However,
it’s not in times of conflict that the INFJ pulls
away from their everyday character, but rather,
when they’ve gone too long ignoring their need
for self-preservation and mental recharging.
Every true INFJ knows first hand just how
and experience-processing is within their lives.
In fact, this intuitive type, more so than other
introverted personality types, actually use
their times of solitude to complete some of
the most crucial processes that their brain
requires to understand the world around them,
and to ultimately grow as individuals. This time
in solitude allows the INFJ to be who they are in
when the necessary withdrawal is ignored for
too long, a whole new INFJ emerges. Defensive
and irritable, the overwhelmed INFJ brain
just can’t process their surroundings and
other people’s feelings like they usually do.
And so, if an INFJ seems overly tired, anxious,
distracted and grouchy, it’s probably best to
suggest they take a little break from life.
For some people, moving cities, changing jobs,
having a baby or starting a new passionate
endeavor may cause them to want to tell anyone and
everyone about this new chapter they’re stepping
into. Likewise, it’s normal for other people
to want to hear all the details of a loved
one’s changing season in life. However, when
it comes to the INFJ turning over a new leaf,
it’s more common to not hear from them for
a while. No matter how tempting it may be to
call them off the hook with the curiosity of how
things are going with their changed way of living,
don’t expect an update until the INFJ has fully
settled into their new surroundings. In fact,
it may not even be due to the fact that they’re
too busy to get around to updating those who are
stuck wondering, but rather that they haven’t
had the mental space to process how things
are indeed going. Without mentally cycling
through each aspect of their new experience,
one-word answers to explain themselves. Luckily,
once they’ve settled and are back to their
mental equilibrium, you can expect a long,
desperately wanted to be left alone as an
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