6 Tips For An Infj To Cope With Big Social Events

6 Tips For An Infj To Cope With Big Social Events explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.

Like any true introvert, it’s no surprise

that even the most personable INFJ personality

Between the sensory overstimulation, the mix

of energies, and the monotonous small talk

it takes a lot for the INFJ to work up the

spirit to show up..even if they leave half

any INFJ can use to cope with attending a

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Number 1: Plan something to look forward to

Sorry if we scared you with the big words

‘social’ and ‘event’ all in one sentence,

Let’s bring it back with some more calming

words like nature walk, watching the sunset,

That’s exactly the idea of this first tip.

INFJ’s are naturally future-focused thinkers,

meaning when there's a dreaded social gathering

that they’re obligated to attend, it tends

to be the only thing they can think about

With a million questions running through their

act and if it’s going to be as distressing

as they’re anticipating, it can be seriously

This is where focusing even further in the

If INFJs have something to genuinely look

forward to after the event it makes all the

difference in actually making an appearance

Now, we’re not talking about anything major,

but something like looking forward to the

complimentary bottle of wine and jacuzzi tub

Or something as simple as laying out fresh

Anything that helps give a visual picture

of the enjoyment that comes after; especially

when people’s emotions are crowding in and

the flashing lights and loud music is taking

When it comes to attending something out of

the ordinary, the INFJ feels best when they

can answer most of their questions beforehand.

You know, the dozens of questions that pop

up before anything that needs planning like..

What’s the weather supposed to be like that

Sometimes the majority of anxiety and uncertainty

can be solved within the days prior to the

event, all it takes is a little familiarity.

or plan every hour of an event to plot each

movement from when you step foot in the door.

And rather than creating further imaginative

expectations of this new experience using

this information, which is almost inevitable,

INFJs should only use it to calm their nerves.

Plus, the research doesn’t necessarily end

It makes all the difference to do a good walk

around in order to know where the essentials

are like bathrooms and exits prior to mingling.

For the INFJ, control calms nerves, so finding

a balance of control and enjoyment is key.

Number 3: Bring something to keep your hands

INFJs are always observing other people’s

body language, using even the slightest hand

gestures, body swaying and eye movements to

paint a picture of how someone is feeling.

On the flipside, they make it a point to consciously

keep composure with their slightest of body

movements in order to not come across as nervous,

I mean, we can all agree that there’s nothing

worse than standing in a room full of people

stuck awkwardly shifting from foot to foot

Or worse, slouching with your arms crossed..

Instead simple things like a handbag that

you can fish around in if there's nowhere

else to look, or even a phone if used sparingly

Of course, it doesn’t have to be alcoholic

- although that just may help the situation

In fact, in settings where there is food and

drink, it’s natural for the INFJ to subconsciously

feel more comfortable if they are participating

in the same actions as those around them.

Whatever it is, for the INFJ to have something

to hold that neutralizes their body language

and allows them something to resort to in

times of cringe or awkwardness, makes all

the difference when it comes to spending time

It’s hard to believe, but social functions

Everyone manages socializing differently and

So, when it comes to the so-called extroverted

introvert INFJ, there's no shame in finding

ways to cool down in times of sensory overload.

Known as a highly sensitive personality type,

most INFJs can relate to the feeling of being

overwhelmed by overloads of sensory input.

And so, finding ways to intermittently unwind

Whether it’s excusing yourself to the washroom,

pretending you left something in your car

or texting a friend or family member to call

you so that you can slip out for a moment

Fresh air is the most optimal option in times

of sensory-overload, however, sometimes just

creating a short distance between the main

Wherever you choose, have a miniature restorative

session as you calibrate and spend time with

your own thoughts while taking inventory of

The only trick to this tip is working up the

energy to go back to the social gathering

after getting that brief taste of freedom.

keys, because there's a 95% chance you’re

It’s not always a conscious decision when

the INFJ uses their chameleon-like advantages

Whether it’s changing their tone of voice,

the topics they engage in, or how deep they

go in their contributions to the conversation,

of the room and adapting their energy accordingly.

And while this helps other people feel more

comfortable around the INFJ in small social

settings, it’s a little more tricky to use

efficiently when it comes to larger crowds.

When there’s a blend of characters, interests

and personality types, INFJs can drive themselves

crazy when it comes to deciding which role

And although this makes this personality type

seem rather ingenuine, each time the INFJ

within the bounds of their deeper morals and

Yet, on the outside people don’t see that,

and it can be rather confusing to see the

INFJ become rather upbeat around certain people

Number 6: Standards and self-respect are allowed

So many INFJs are stuck feeling obligated

to attend social outings they really rather

not attend just because of their perfectionstic

With the tendency to skip out on certain things

people would consider fun in order to work

on themselves, start a new project or plant

seeds for the future, INFJs often question

whether or not they should let loose more

This fear of missing out paired with their

people-pleasing tendencies causes some INFJs

to overlook their intuitive feelings in order

Was there guilt-tripping or self-criticizing

Is it worth spending valuable time with the

And with these conclusions, remember it’s

In fact, this empathetic personality type

is one of the main types that could benefit

from learning when to say no and when setting

the necessary boundaries around their own

In the end, it all comes down to deciding

which social situations are not only bearable

enough to attend but which ones may actually

be enjoyable and worth the push past comfort

Well PSYCH-Os, that’s it for today’s video..

So, as an INFJ, what do you do to mentally

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