13 Questions Every Infj Has Asked Themselves

13 Questions Every Infj Has Asked Themselves explores key ideas related to psychology, presented clearly and practically.

There’s rarely a time in any INFJ’s day where

there are no questions being asked or thoughts

being thinked within their inner minds. With

continuous analysis of their surroundings,

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With such a deep understanding of the inner

workings of this world and the human emotions

that run it, some would say the INFJ would be

considered rather mentally equipped to maintain

their happiness. However, with introverted

intuition and extroverted feeling as their two

most dominant functions, the INFJ can have trouble

recognizing how they’re feeling and why. And so,

not only do they ask themselves why they’re not

happy but also if they’re happy, and even what

“Am I sure I’m making the right decision?” “Am I

sure I like this person?” “Am I sure I want to do

this for the rest of my life?”.. It’s not that

INFJ’s are necessarily known for being unsure,

however, for this complex-minded type, no decision

is simple. INFJ’s are always weighing out the pros

and cons, right down to the very last second. And

even when they’re given the time they need to come

to a conclusion, they’ll never not wonder what

would’ve happened if they chose the other option.

misunderstood by most people, INFJs tend to

catch themselves wondering “Why am I like this?”

Whether they’re having trouble fitting in or

they couldn’t quite get out what they were

type questions their actions and behavior

it may be a part of a bigger picture. One that

is often caused by their overthinking nature.

For an INFJ in any type of social function,

questioning “When is it appropriate to leave

without seeming rude?” or looking around the

room to see if anyone else has left is all part

of the process. Introverted with a quick-draining

social battery life, INFJs begin thinking these

thoughts before even arriving at the social event.

time to leave a job, living space, or relationship

by asking the very same questions. “When can I

leave without hurting anyone’s feelings?” Or “Will

there ever be a right time?” are all very familiar

whether or not it’s time to move on they’ll

always ask themselves if it’s really worth

throwing in the towel. Of course, that sounds like

a normal question anyone would ask before making

a big life decision. However, in the case of the

INFJ, as soon as they catch themselves questioning

something once, they’ll never be able to shake

it without doing something about the situation.

Whether they decide to follow through with let’s

say, a door slam, it may take weeks or months of

observing this very question from all angles

before making even the slightest movement.

Speaking of surrendering to the idea that

sometimes things don’t work out as planned,

there's no leaving a situation without the INFJ

first asking themselves if they’ve put in all

the necessary work possible. They’re not the

personality type to look at others for fault

or to point the finger. In fact, INFJ look to

themselves to blame sometimes to the point of

unnecessarily harsh self-critiquing. And because

this ambitious type is confident that they could

probably do anything they put their minds to,

sometimes when their best isn’t good enough

INFJs are not only hard on themselves, but

they also have a deep longing to fulfill their

purpose in life. With unique characteristics,

extreme empathy and the inner craving for human

interaction, most INFJs feel like there is

something they’re called to do in this life.

However, finding what that thing is is often

Not only do they question if they’ll ever find

their purpose, but going back to the previous

question, INFJs may ask themselves whether or not

they’re actually trying their best to find their

calling. And once it becomes a personal mission

to that extent, the mission to find their purpose

in life can become both extremely motivating

and seriously debilitating at the same time.

It’s not easy to enjoy life if you’re always

wondering why you’re here in the first place.

On the topic of wondering why we’re all here

in this earthly realm, the INFJ doesn’t only

question what their mission is here on earth,

but from a more philosophical standpoint, what

is the bigger meaning behind it all. The classic

INFJ larger-picture thinking comes into play even

in the grandest picture of all…the meaning behind

everything we know to be. Not only do they

question what is the meaning of life, but also

what is the meaning of death, why is there so

much violence in the world, what is the meaning

of love, why is their disease in the world, is

there a higher power, and every other question

that may lead them closer to understanding

these otherwise accepted aspects of life.

philosophical conversation topics, sometimes they

leave a moment of social banter wondering why the

heck they brought any of the taboo subject matter

they did. Known for having an easier time writing

things out than they do verbally explaining their

elaborate understandings and beliefs, INFJs may

not communicate the things they actually enjoy

talking about in the best way. This can either

lead to serious confusion, judgment or disinterest

unnecessary INFJ self-criticizing despite

nobody else noticing their slip up. So, luckily,

if an INFJ walks away thinking “Why on earth did I

have to say that or bring that up?” it’s probably

not as big of a deal as they think it is.

sometimes in the most unique ways. Not only

does this quality give them the rewarding

feeling their empathetic side craves, but it also

gives the INFJ the personal satisfaction because

there's nothing more logically satisfying

Sometimes, however, INFJs use this simple question

as means of being too kind for their own good.

Not everyone wants help, and not everyone

Family functions, blind dates, work parties..

You name it. If the INFJ is invited, you can be

sure one of the first questions they’re going

of course. In fact, the INFJ brain will then begin

the process of analysis in terms of necessity,

importance, and interest. Before making any

promises, they’ll not only weigh out each

pro and con, but also mentally play out a couple

potential outcomes. Some related questions would

be, “Will I be the only one not there that

makes it too obvious if I don’t attend?”,

when it comes to the INFJ and social outings,

Overly reserved and arguably secretive, one of the

INFJ’s biggest fears when socializing with others

is slipping into the trance of oversharing.

Whether they actually end up taking the leap

to attend a social gathering or they get caught up

in spontaneous banter, it’s not uncommon for INFJs

to ask themselves whether or not they overshared.

Usually, this private introvert doesn’t notice it

when they feel compelled to share in the moment -

and most of the time it’s only to make the other

person feel more comfortable. However, similar to

their “Why did I say that?” question, luckily the

INFJ’s standards of oversharing are usually

much more strict compared to other people’s.

Number 13: “Was I born in the wrong era?”

some INFJ’s may have questioned whether or not

they were born into the wrong era. Of course, on

a logical scale humans are born when they’re meant

to be born. However, sometimes looking at things

like old school video tapes of iphone-less social

settings or maybe listening to live rock and roll

can transport the imaginative INFJ to a seemingly

simpler time that they feel they can relate to.

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asked yourself each of these questions as

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